Questions · Happiness
Questions about happiness, the everyday kind
Ask people what makes them happy and you get big words: family, health, travel. Ask what made today a little better and you get the truth. These questions look for happiness at its actual size.
- 16 questions
- EN + TL on every card
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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
After the main plan ends, which part of the hangout do you enjoy most?
After ng main plan, which part ng hangout ang pinaka-enjoy mo?
The after-plan part can become the real memory. Looser moments sometimes carry the easiest stories.
Minsan yung after ng main plan ang nagiging totoong memory. Mas loose kasi, kaya mas madaling magka-kwento.
The questions
16 questions about happiness
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
Ordinary-day happy
4 questions
Small things that make a regular day better.
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Tell us about one simple thing that can make your day better.
Ikuwento mo yung simpleng bagay na nakakapagpaganda ng araw mo.
Back of the card
Small things count because real days are mostly made of small things. Even a tiny lift can matter.
May bigat din ang simpleng bagay, kasi karamihan ng araw natin puro maliliit na moments. Kahit konting gaan, may halaga.
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Which small outside task do you secretly like doing, like buying something, picking something up, or dropping something off?
Anong maliit na task sa labas ang secretly gusto mong gawin, like bumili, kumuha, o maghatid ng something?
Back of the card
A small task outside can feel strangely satisfying. It gives the day a tiny mission with a clear finish line.
May small task sa labas na strangely satisfying. Parang may tiny mission yung araw, tapos malinaw kung kailan tapos.
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Which part of your day do you look forward to?
Anong part ng araw mo ang inaabangan mo?
Back of the card
The part you look forward to can be a clue. It shows where your day still gives you a little life.
Clue din yung part na inaabangan mo. Ipinapakita niya kung saan may konting buhay pa sa araw mo.
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Pick one small mood upgrade, like a drink, song, scent, snack, or clean space.
Pumili ng isang small mood upgrade, like drink, song, scent, snack, o malinis na space.
Back of the card
A mood upgrade does not need to be big. Sometimes one small detail is enough to change the angle of the day.
Hindi kailangang malaki ang mood upgrade. Minsan isang small detail lang, nag-iiba na yung angle ng araw.
A free day, a free hour
5 questions
What you do when nobody needs anything from you.
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On a free day, what activity do you enjoy even if nothing gets done?
Sa free day, anong activity ang enjoy gawin kahit wala kang natatapos?
Back of the card
Not every good thing needs to be useful. Some activities are good because they give the day room to breathe.
Hindi lahat ng magandang gawin kailangang useful. May mga bagay na okay dahil binibigyan lang nila ng luwag yung araw.
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If money were no problem, how would you spend a Saturday with nothing you had to do?
Kung walang kailangang gawin at hindi problema ang pera, paano mo gagamitin ang isang Sabado?
Back of the card
Picture the end of your Saturday. What would make you wish it were still morning?
Isipin ang katapusan ng Sabado mo. Bakit mo gugustuhing umaga pa lang?
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If your afternoon suddenly became free, how would you spend it?
Kung biglang naging free ang hapon mo, paano mo ito gagamitin?
Back of the card
Free time shows what you reach for when nobody is asking for anything. It can be rest, fun, errands, or nothing at all.
Makikita sa free time kung saan ka kusang pupunta kapag walang kailangan sa'yo. Puwedeng pahinga, saya, errands, o wala lang.
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For a free weekend, would you prefer a full plan or a surprise?
Sa weekend na wala kang kailangang gawin, kumpletong plano o surprise ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
Choose a detail that must stay on your weekend plan, even if everything else is a surprise.
Pumili ng detalye na dapat kasama sa weekend mo kahit surprise ang lahat ng iba pa.
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If you and your friends had just one free hour, how would you spend it together?
Kung isang oras lang kayong lahat libre, ano ang gagawin ninyo?
Back of the card
Save a few minutes at the end for one thing you would not want to rush.
Puwede kang maglaan ng ilang minuto sa dulo para sa bagay na ayaw mong madaliin.
Happy with other people
4 questions
Meals, hangouts and the people you’d see more of.
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Who do you enjoy eating with, even if the food is simple?
Sino yung masarap kasamang kumain kahit simple lang ang pagkain?
Back of the card
The company can change the meal. Some people make even ordinary food feel warmer.
Iba ang pagkain kapag okay ang kasama. May mga taong kahit simpleng meal, gumagaan yung moment.
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After the main plan ends, which part of the hangout do you enjoy most?
After ng main plan, which part ng hangout ang pinaka-enjoy mo?
Back of the card
The after-plan part can become the real memory. Looser moments sometimes carry the easiest stories.
Minsan yung after ng main plan ang nagiging totoong memory. Mas loose kasi, kaya mas madaling magka-kwento.
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Which simple hangout with a friend would you happily repeat?
Anong simpleng bonding kasama ang friend ang gusto mong ulitin?
Back of the card
Same place, same activity, different weather. Would you still choose it?
Parehong lugar at gagawin, pero iba ang panahon. Pipiliin mo pa rin ba ito?
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Who do you wish you could spend more normal, no-special-plan time with?
Sino yung gusto mong makasama nang mas madalas, kahit walang special na lakad?
Back of the card
Ordinary time can build closeness slowly. Not every good moment needs an occasion.
Nakakabuo rin ng closeness ang ordinaryong time. Hindi lahat ng magandang moment kailangan may special na lakad.
What happy looks like for you
3 questions
Treats without guilt, celebrations, old excitement.
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What kind of rest, fun, or treat are you learning to enjoy without feeling bad about it?
Anong klaseng pahinga, saya, o treat ang natututuhan mong i-enjoy nang hindi masyadong nagi-guilty?
Back of the card
Enjoyment can take practice, especially when you are used to earning every pause. This question leaves room for that.
Minsan kailangan ding matutuhan ang mag-enjoy, lalo na kung sanay kang kailangan mong paghirapan ang bawat pahinga. May space dito para doon.
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Design a celebration just for you. What would make it feel special?
Magplano ng celebration para sa sarili mo. Ano ang magpapaspecial dito?
Back of the card
Which part of the celebration would you happily repeat the next day?
Aling bahagi ng celebration ang masaya mong uulitin kinabukasan?
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When you were younger, what got you excited quickly?
Nung bata ka, ano yung madaling maka-excite sa'yo?
Back of the card
Early excitement can be fun to remember. It can also show what kind of wonder came naturally to you.
Nakakatuwang balikan yung madaling ika-excite mo dati. Minsan pinapakita rin nito kung anong klaseng wonder ang natural sa'yo.
How to use them
Before you ask
Questions about happiness work best when they’re small. Most people find “what makes you happy?” impossible to answer well, because happiness doesn’t happen in general. It happens in a specific drink, a free afternoon, the part of a hangout after the main plan ends.
This page goes looking for those moments. The first group is about ordinary days and the small things that improve them. The second asks what you do with time that belongs to you. The third is about other people, since most happy moments have someone else in them. The last is a little more reflective: a treat you’re learning to enjoy without guilt, a celebration designed just for you.
Listen for patterns. If someone’s answers keep coming back to being outdoors, or to cooking for friends, you’ve learned what makes them happy without asking the big question. Then do something about it, like planning the free Saturday they described.
Good for
Tips
- Keep it small. Ask about a moment, not a life.
- Listen for the pattern across answers.
- Turn one answer into a plan this week.
- Share your own small joys. They’re contagious.
- If someone is having a hard time, ask about one small thing, not happiness in general.
Decks for this
Questions about happiness
Frequently asked questions
What are good questions to ask about happiness?
Small, specific ones: a simple thing that makes your day better, how you’d spend a suddenly free afternoon, who you enjoy eating with, how you’d design a celebration just for you. They get honest answers that big questions don’t.
How do you find out what makes someone happy?
Ask about their small daily joys and their free time, then listen for the pattern. What they mention again and again is usually the answer.
Are happiness questions okay to ask someone who is struggling?
Gently, yes, if you keep them small, like one part of the day they look forward to. Avoid asking whether they’re happy in general, which can feel like pressure.
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