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Questions to ask, for every kind of table
Pick who you’re with or what the night is, and get a list of real conversation cards for it, in English and Filipino. Every question here is free in the app.
Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
Who’s at the table
Questions written for the people you’re with.
- FamilyFor the dinner table, Sunday lunch and the cousins you only see at Christmas.
- ParentsFor merienda with mom and dad, a visit to lola, or the video call home.
- Date nightFor couples: dinner out, a night in, or the drive home after.
- First dateEasy questions for coffee or dinner with someone new. No interview energy.
- Long distanceFor couples apart: video calls, voice notes and good-nights across time zones.
- Best friendFor one-on-one time: old jokes, first impressions and what’s new with them.
- Someone you just metEasy conversation starters for a new seatmate, classmate or friend of a friend.
- Coworkers and teamsWork-safe questions for huddles, onboarding and the office Christmas party.
- Students and classroomsClassroom-safe questions for the first week, homeroom, orgs and NSTP groups.
- Youth group and churchIcebreakers and faith questions for youth group, small groups and camp nights.
- IntrovertsGentle questions for quiet people, one-on-one talks and small tables.
- BoyfriendFun, sweet and deeper questions for a night in, a long walk or a slow drive.
- GirlfriendSweet, playful and deeper questions about her world and the two of you.
- PartnerDeep questions for couples: how you love, how you fight, where you’re going.
- Married couplesFor partners who share a house, a calendar and too many errands.
- SiblingsFor brothers and sisters: old arguments, shared childhoods and who you are now.
- GrandparentsFor the stories only they can tell, on a visit or a video call.
- RoommatesFor new roommates, dorm floors and housemates who share one fridge.
- TeenagersFor parents, teachers and youth leaders who want more than a shrug.
- New relationshipFor the first months together, when everything is still a discovery.
- CrushEasy, playful questions for someone you like, in person or over chat.
- Engaged couplesFor engaged couples: the homes you came from, wedding stress and the life you’re building.
- HusbandFor the man you share a home with, beyond who’s picking up what.
- WifeFor the woman you share a life with: her day, her load and her own plans.
- Talking stageFor the texts, voice notes and first hangouts before it has a name.
- Second dateYou’ve done the basics. Questions for stories, opinions and a little more.
- Long-term couplesFor couples who think they’ve heard every story. You haven’t.
- New parentsFive-minute questions for two tired people keeping a tiny human alive.
- Meeting a Filipino familyQuestions for meeting your partner’s Filipino family, from someone who isn’t (yet).
- Questions for kidsEasy, imaginative questions that get kids five to twelve talking in full sentences.
- Dinner table questions for kidsQuestions that keep kids at the table a little longer, about food, home and their day.
- KindergartenShort, concrete questions for four- to six-year-olds: animals, colors, snacks and pretend.
- TweensFor ten- to twelve-year-olds: identity, the group chat, school and being a bit braver.
- After schoolWhat to ask instead of “how was school?”, for pickup, the drive home and snack time.
- BedtimeCalm questions for the last ten minutes of the day, lights low.
- Car rides with kidsFor the school run, errands and the long highway stretch, eyes on the road.
- Would you rather for kidsKid-friendly would you rather questions about food, superpowers and adventures.
- Funny questions for kidsSilly questions that get kids giggling, telling funny stories and inventing things.
- Deep questions for kidsThoughtful questions about feelings, fairness, growing up and hopes, sized for kids.
- Family game nightQuestion rounds that turn family game night into a game about each other.
- Family meetingQuestions for a weekly family meeting: appreciations, the house stuff, plans and repairs.
- Family check-inCheck-in questions for family members, from kids at home to grown ones far away.
- Family traditionsQuestions about the traditions you have, where they came from and the ones to start.
- Family bondingQuestions that help a busy family feel close again: plans, shared memories and care.
- Family vacationQuestions for planning the trip, the trip itself, the slow afternoons and the drive home.
- HomeschoolFor morning circle, co-op groups and the kitchen-table classroom.
- GrandkidsFor grandparents who want to know their grandkids, in person or over video.
- CousinsFor cousins who see each other once a year, from the reunion kids’ table to grown-ups.
- Nieces and nephewsFor aunts and uncles who want to be the one their nieces and nephews talk to.
- Multigenerational familyFor three generations under one roof: sharing a house, sharing what you know, sharing space.
- MomQuestions to ask your mom about her, not about you: her small joys, her past, her hopes.
- DadQuestions to ask your dad that work side by side: in the garage, at the grill, in the car.
- SonFor parents of sons: easy ones, his friends, when something’s up and who he’s becoming.
- DaughterFor parents of daughters: her favorites, friends and feelings, what helps, and her dreams.
- SisterQuestions to ask your sister: the low-stakes stuff, old fights, and where her life is now.
- BrotherQuestions to ask your brother: easy openers, growing up together and what you don’t say.
- Mother and daughterMother-daughter questions you both answer: then and now, seeing each other, hopes.
- Mother and sonMother-son questions for the car or the kitchen, from boyhood to grown sons.
- Father and daughterFather-daughter questions for a dad-daughter date, from little girls to grown daughters.
- Father and sonFather-son questions that work shoulder to shoulder and handle the hard stuff without a lecture.
- Aunts and unclesQuestions to ask your aunts and uncles at family parties, about then and now.
- StepfamilyGentle questions for blended families: no-pressure starters, making room, house rules, new traditions.
- Adult childrenFor parents of grown kids: their life now, their people, what they need from you now.
- Your parents’ life storyQuestions to ask your parents about their life, in order: childhood to looking back.
- Family historyQuestions about family stories, places, people worth remembering and what gets passed down.
- Empty nestersFor couples whose kids just left: the quiet house, who you are now, the two of you, what’s next.
- Expecting parentsQuestions for couples expecting a baby: your own childhoods, the home you want, the load, the nerves.
- New dadQuestions for new dads, from a friend or partner: the small things, his own dad, pressure, the dad he wants to be.
- New momQuestions to ask a new mom when you visit: what she needs, how she really is, who she still is.
- Mother-in-lawQuestions to ask your mother-in-law: easy ground, her story, how she does it, getting closer.
- Father-in-lawQuestions to ask your father-in-law: easy ground, his working life, what he’s proud of.
- GodparentsFor godparents and godchildren: getting to know each other, faith gently, and growing up.
- Dating app matchesFor the match you actually want to talk to, before and after you meet.
- Third datePast the basics, not yet serious: their people, their days and what matters to them.
- Define the relationshipFor the “so, what are we?” talk, without making it a summit meeting.
- Before dating someoneHow they spend their week, what they value and how they treat people.
- Blind dateFor meeting someone a friend picked for you: common ground, easy starters, a spark.
- Dating againAfter a breakup, a divorce or a long break: questions for yourself, then for them.
- NewlywedsFor the first months of marriage: still glowing, merging two households.
- First year of marriageA check-in for months three, six and twelve of married life.
- Older couplesFor couples in their sixties and beyond, married for decades or newly together.
- Date night for parentsFor parents with a babysitter and a rule: talk about anything but the kids.
- Engaged couplesFor the engagement season: the proposal story, two families and your own traditions.
- CoworkersFor the coffee line, the walk to the parking lot and the coworker you only know from email.
- New coworkerFor the person who started on Monday and still doesn’t know where the good mugs are.
- MentorFor coffee with someone a few steps ahead of you, so the hour isn’t wasted on “any tips?”
- MenteeFor mentors who want to understand the person, not just answer this week’s problem.
- InternsFor a summer cohort that starts as strangers and leaves as a team.
- Remote teamFor a team that knows each other’s faces from the shoulders up.
- New friendsFor the second and third hangout, when you like each other but don’t know much yet.
- Making friends as an adultFor grown-ups starting over: after a move, a breakup, a new baby or a quiet few years.
- NeighborsFor the driveway chat, the block party and the neighbor you’ve waved at for two years.
- Online friendsFor the friend from a server, a game or a fandom you mostly know by username.
- Long-distance friendsFor the friend who moved away, on a video call or a voice note that turns into an hour.
- Childhood friendFor the friend who knew you at eight, whether you see them every week or once in a few years.
- Friend groupFor the same five people at the same table, who think they’ve heard every story.
- Small group Bible studyFor the discussion after the reading, when the leader asks for thoughts and nobody moves.
- Men’s groupFor a men’s small group that wants to get past sports, weather and work.
- Women’s groupFor a women’s Bible study or small group, from the first cup of coffee to the closing prayer.
- Moms groupFor a moms group, a church mothers’ ministry or a playgroup where everyone is a little tired.
- Worship teamFor worship teams and praise bands, in the ten minutes before rehearsal starts.
- Camp counselorsFor staff training week, the cabin, and the co-counselor you share it with.
- College studentsFor dining-hall tables, study breaks and the friend who’s figuring it out too.
- High school studentsFor advisory, homeroom, coaches and youth leaders with a room of teenagers.
- Middle school studentsFor sixth to eighth graders, who are funny, self-conscious and very done with “how was school?”
- Study groupFor a study group that keeps getting distracted, or never talks about anything but the exam.
- Sports teamFor team bonding at practice, on the bus to away games and after a tough loss.
- VolunteersFor the volunteer orientation, the food bank shift and the thank-you dinner.
- ESL beginnersVery short questions and easy choices for students in their first months of English.
- Intermediate ESLQuestions that need reasons, past stories and comparisons, for B1–B2 learners.
- Adult ESL learnersGrown-up topics in plain English: work, home, routines and what matters now.
- ESL teensFunny picks, friends and music: questions teenagers will answer in English.
- ESL kidsAnimals, toys, islands and silly rules: simple English questions for children.
- Pen palsWhat to ask a pen pal in the first letters and the ones after.
- A stressed friendGentle questions for a friend under pressure, when you want to help without pushing.
- SeniorsWarm conversation starters for visits with older adults, at home or in care.
- Exchange studentsQuestions for and about the new exchange student: first weeks, home and here, fitting in.
- Host familyFor host families and the student or guest moving in: first dinner, house routines, settling in.
- International studentsFor students studying abroad: orientation week, missing home and the middle of the semester.
- ExpatsFor expat meetups and newcomer groups: life between two places, then and now.
- New in townFor people who just moved: neighbors, new coworkers and the first friends in a new city.
- Filipino American familiesFor the table where the parents speak Tagalog and the kids answer in English.
- Filipino parentsQuestions to ask your Filipino mom and dad, past “kumain ka na?”
- Filipino grandparentsFor lolo and lola: on the video call, on the visit, at the head of the table.
- Children of immigrantsFor growing up between two kitchens, two languages and two sets of rules.
- First-generationFor the first in the family to go to college, move out, or figure it all out alone.
- OFW familiesFor families with a parent working abroad: the nightly call, the long wait, the homecoming.
- Dating a Filipino guyQuestions for your Filipino boyfriend, and for getting to know the family he comes with.
- Dating a FilipinaQuestions for your Filipina girlfriend about her home, her people and the two of you.
- Married to a FilipinoFor spouses of Filipinos: two families, one marriage, and a lot of rice.
- Filipino in-lawsFor the years after the first meeting: Sunday visits, lola’s kitchen, the long table.
- Intercultural couplesFor couples from two cultures: two ways of doing things, and finding your own.
- Half FilipinoFor mixed-heritage Filipinos who have been asked “what are you?” one too many times.
- Titas and titosBetter questions for your aunts and uncles, and better ones from them.
- Pinoy barkada abroadFor your Filipino friend group far from home: the group chat, the hangouts, the late nights.
- Filipino nursesFor the 3 a.m. break, the drive home after a 12-hour shift and the nurses’ group chat.
- Tagalog for kidsShort, simple questions in English and Tagalog for kids growing up abroad.
- Icebreakers for adultsFor workshops, community groups and first meetings where everyone is a grown-up.
- Icebreakers for kidsFor the first scout meeting, a camp cabin or a party where the kids don’t know each other.
- Icebreakers for teensFor youth nights, clubs, camps and teams, with no forced fun facts.
- Questions for teachersFor students who want to know the person at the front of the room.
- Deep questions for teensFor youth leaders, mentors and older siblings, one honest question at a time.
Occasions and seasons
Christmas, reunions, birthdays, road trips and the nights in between.
- Moving in togetherBefore the boxes: thermostat wars, chores, alone time and house rules.
- Date night at homeQuestions for a night in: cook something, dim the lights, deal a card.
- Christmas partyOffice parties, exchange gift nights and class parties, without the awkward lull.
- Noche BuenaFor the Christmas Eve table, waiting for midnight, with family home and abroad.
- New YearFor Media Noche and the quiet after: looking back on the year and ahead to the next.
- Family reunionFor the big reunion: titos, titas, lolos and the cousins you barely know.
- BirthdayQuestions for the celebrant at the handaan, plus a round for the guests.
- Road tripFor the long drive to the province, Holy Week traffic and the barkada van.
- Dinner tableFor hosts whose guests only half know each other, from first plate to dessert.
- Inuman nightsFor the barkada night that turns into deep talk around one in the morning.
- SleepoverFor pajamas, snacks on the floor and talking long after the lights go off.
- Anniversary and monthsaryFor looking back at the story of us, and ahead at the next season together.
- ThanksgivingFor the long table, the leftovers and the relatives you see once a year.
- Christmas dinnerFor the long Christmas meal, the leftovers and the slow hours after.
- Valentine’s DayFor a Valentine’s dinner for two, and a Galentine’s night with friends.
- Game nightQuestions to play between board games, or as the game itself.
- CampfireFor camping trips, beach bonfires and the hour after the marshmallows.
- Girls nightFor snacks on the couch, old stories and the honest talk at midnight.
- Double dateFor two couples at one table, without anyone oversharing.
- GraduationFor grad parties, the last week of school and the summer after.
- Undas: remembering loved onesGentle questions for sharing stories of the people we miss.
- Simbang Gabi reflectionsNine nights, a few questions each: for youth groups, lifegroups and families.
- Halloween partyFor costume parties, the candy bowl and the guests who only know the host.
- Halloween for kidsFor trick-or-treat walks, candy sorting and the class Halloween party.
- FriendsgivingFor the potluck table of roommates, coworkers and friends who couldn’t fly home.
- Thanksgiving for kidsFor the kids’ table, the wait for dinner and the long afternoon after.
- Thanksgiving icebreakersFor the table where the new partner, the in-laws and the neighbor meet for the first time.
- Office holiday partyFor the company party, the department lunch and the coworkers you only know from email.
- Holiday party icebreakersFor December house parties where the guests come from three different parts of the host’s life.
- Christmas EveFor the night before: wrapping, waiting, the candlelight service and kids who won’t sleep.
- Christmas questions for kidsFor the wish list, the long wait for Christmas morning and kids who want to help.
- Holiday video callFor the family on a laptop screen, three time zones and one bad connection away.
- New Year’s EveFor the party before the countdown, from the first snack to the last confetti.
- End-of-year reflectionFor the quiet days between Christmas and New Year, alone, with a friend or with a journal.
- New Year’s resolutionsFor goal-setting that starts with an honest question instead of a promise.
- Galentine’s DayFor February brunch with the women who know you best.
- Mother’s DayFor Mother’s Day brunch, the long phone call, and asking Mom about herself for once.
- Father’s DayFor the grill, the drive and the dad who answers everything with “it’s fine”.
- Grandparents DayFor the September visit, the school event and grandkids interviewing Grandma and Grandpa.
- EasterFor the egg hunt, Easter brunch and the quiet after the church service.
- Fourth of JulyFor the backyard cookout, the blanket on the grass and the long wait until dark.
- Summer BBQFor backyard cookouts with friends, neighbors and whoever wandered over from next door.
- TailgateFor the parking lot hours before kickoff, with the grill, the cooler and the superstitions.
- Super Bowl partyFor the watch party where half the room is there for the game and half for the snacks and ads.
- Back to schoolFor the week before school starts, the supply run and the new routines that come after.
- First day of schoolFor the pickup line, the snack after and the dinner on day one.
- Spring breakFor the trip, the staycation and the week that’s supposed to be a break.
- Summer breakFor kids home all summer, the slow afternoons and the “I’m bored” that arrives by week two.
- Beach tripFor towels on the sand, the snack cooler and the sunset nobody wants to leave.
- Cabin weekendFor a rented cabin, a fireplace, bad Wi-Fi and a weekend with nowhere to be.
- Girls’ tripFor a weekend away with your girlfriends: the drive, the shared Airbnb and the last night.
- Guys’ nightFor poker, the grill, the game on mute and the friends you see less than you’d like.
- Bachelorette partyFor the getting-ready hour, the how-well-do-you-know-the-bride round and the late, sweet part.
- Bachelor partyFor roasting the groom gently, old stories and the toast nobody planned.
- Bridal showerFor a room of aunts, coworkers and college friends who have the bride in common.
- Baby showerFor guests trading childhood stories and the village promising to help.
- Wedding tableFor the reception table of strangers between the salad and the speeches.
- Rehearsal dinnerFor two families and a wedding party at one table, the night before the wedding.
- Engagement partyFor celebrating the couple, a round for the two of them, and honeymoon dreams with the guests.
- HousewarmingFor the house tour, the half-unpacked kitchen and the first guests in a new place.
- Retirement partyFor honoring a long career, swapping office stories and asking what comes next.
- Going-away partyFor the friend who is moving: the best of this place, your story and staying close after.
- Class reunionFor name tags, old photos and the classmates you haven’t seen in ten or twenty years.
- Kids’ birthday partyFor the birthday kid, the circle game on the living-room floor and the cake-time wait.
- Milestone birthdayFor turning 30, 40, 50 or beyond: who you’ve become, the decade behind you and the one ahead.
- Sweet sixteenFor a teen birthday party: games, best friends and the birthday wish.
- Snow dayFor a school-canceled morning, the hot cocoa and a whole day at home.
- Rainy dayFor gray weekends indoors, plans that got rained out and moods to match the weather.
- Long flightFor the gate, hour six over the ocean and the descent, with a travel companion beside you.
- HikingFor walking side by side on the trail, the climb and the summit snack.
- PicnicFor a blanket in the park, the basket of snacks and a slow afternoon.
- BrunchFor weekend brunch with friends, between the coffee and the check.
- Book clubFor warming up the group before the book, and for the moment the book hits close to home.
- Wine nightFor friends on the couch with a cheese board, from the first glass to the honest hour.
- Karaoke nightFor picking songs, surviving stage fright and the friends cheering you on.
- Movie nightFor choosing the film, the snack run and the talk when the credits roll.
- PotluckFor church, office and neighborhood potlucks where everyone brought a dish and half the room are strangers.
- Speed datingQuestions that make a five-minute round memorable instead of a résumé swap.
- Coffee dateFor a forty-five-minute first meet: easy questions, a second cup, and a natural ending.
- Dinner dateFor a restaurant date, course by course, from the menu to the walk back.
- Picnic dateFor an afternoon on a blanket: snacks, clouds, favorite places and slow talk.
- Couples retreatQuestions for a weekend away: icebreakers with other couples, then time for two.
- HoneymoonFor poolside afternoons and long dinners just after the wedding.
- Traveling as a coupleFor packing, airports, exploring and the moments the trip goes sideways.
- Christmas for couplesFor couples in December: cozy nights, two families’ traditions and the year wrapped up.
- New Year for couplesA year-end and New Year’s conversation for two: what you leave behind and what you start.
- One-on-one meetingFor the weekly 1:1 that has quietly turned into a status update.
- Virtual icebreakersFor Zoom, Teams or Meet, when everyone is muted and waiting for someone else to start.
- Meeting icebreakersFor the first five minutes of a meeting, while the last person finds a chair.
- Team check-inFor the round at the start of a standup or the weekly team call.
- First team meetingFor a new manager’s first meeting with the team, or a brand-new team’s kickoff.
- Team retreatFor an offsite with time to talk: the drive, the long dinner, the session, the last morning.
- New hire onboardingFor managers and onboarding buddies: day one, the end of week one, and thirty days in.
- NetworkingFor conference coffee breaks and mixers where the job-title question has worn thin.
- Work lunchFor team lunches and the lunch with a coworker you don’t know well yet.
- Staff meetingFor the monthly all-staff with a full room: schools, clinics, nonprofits, stores.
- Workshop icebreakersFor trainings and workshops where the people at each table met five minutes ago.
- Virtual happy hourFor the after-work video call that needs more than a polite round of hellos.
- Group chatFor the chat that went quiet months ago and needs one good message to wake up.
- Party icebreakersFor a house party where the host knows everyone and nobody else does.
- Speed friendingFor friend-dating events with a bell every five minutes.
- Friends tripFor the long weekend away, from the drive there to the last dinner.
- Bible study icebreakersFor the first ten minutes, while the coffee brews and the late ones arrive.
- Church icebreakersFor coffee hour, the fellowship lunch and the welcome table for visitors.
- Church retreatFor a weekend away with your church: Friday arrivals, Saturday groups, Sunday goodbyes.
- Youth campFor summer church camp: the bus ride, the cabin after lights out, devotions and the last night.
- Classroom icebreakersFor the first day of class, a Monday warm-up or the minutes before the bell.
- Freshman orientationFor orientation leaders with a circle of nervous first-years and an hour to fill.
- DormFor RAs, floor meetings and the hallway that turns into a living room at midnight.
- Club meetingFor a school club, hobby group or community club that wants members to keep coming back.
- Online ESL classOpeners for a video lesson: the room you’re in, the week you’ve had, the plans ahead.
- First day of ESL classNames, nerves and new classmates: the first lesson of an English course.
- English conversation clubOpeners and discussion questions for a weekly English club or meetup.
- First tutoring lessonGet to know a new student: interests, learning style, goals and nerves.
- Language exchangeQuestions for tandem partners: home, food, habits and the words that get misheard.
- Dinner tableFor an ordinary weeknight dinner with whoever is home.
- On a walkSide-by-side questions for a walk, from the first block to the long loop home.
- Long driveFor hours in the car with one other person: the airport run, the drive home, the trip to a wedding.
- Phone callFor a voice call with someone far away, when “What’s new?” isn’t enough.
- Lunch breakQuick, light questions for half an hour in the break room or cafeteria.
- Power outageNo Wi-Fi, no TV, maybe a candle: conversation for when the lights go out.
- StaycationA vacation at home: planning the days, doing nothing on purpose, getting ready for Monday.
- Balikbayan homecomingFor the welcome dinner when a balikbayan comes home, and the weeks after.
- Visiting the PhilippinesFor your first trip, or your first trip as an adult: the flight, the cousins, the province.
- Video calls with family in the PhilippinesFor the Sunday call to Manila or Cebu, when the phone gets passed around.
- Filipino ThanksgivingTurkey next to the lumpia, rice next to the stuffing, and questions for the whole clan.
- Filipino Christmas abroadFor Noche Buena in Toronto, Sydney or Dubai, with the parol in the window.
- Filipino debutFor a Filipina’s 18th birthday: the guests’ table, the 18 candles, the debutante herself.
- Filipino weddingFor the reception tables, the long program and the newlyweds’ guest book.
- Filipino food nightFor a kamayan, a boodle fight or a Filipino potluck with friends.
- FSA icebreakersFor Filipino Student Association meetings, socials and PCN practice breaks.
- Filipino church community abroadFor Filipino fellowships, prayer groups and lifegroups far from home.
- Kababayan meetupFor meeting fellow Filipinos in a new city: community events, new arrivals, first hellos.
- Fun Friday questionsOne light question to end the work week, in stand-up or in the team channel.
- Virtual classroom icebreakersFor teachers on Zoom or Meet with students in little boxes, cameras off.
- New Year questions for kidsFor New Year’s Eve with kids, the first dinner of January or the first day back at school.
- Advent questionsOne question for each Sunday of Advent: hope, peace, joy and love.
- Sunday school questionsFor Sunday school and children’s church: warm-ups, Bible story talk and prayer time.
Kinds of questions
Deep, random, funny, nostalgic. Pick the mood first.
- Check-in questionsFor when “Kumusta ka?” gets “Ayos lang” and you want the real answer.
- What if questionsHypothetical questions about superpowers, dream days and made-up worlds.
- Love language questionsFind out how your partner feels cared for, one small habit at a time.
- After a fightGentle questions for coming back to each other once you’ve both cooled down.
- Pillow talk questionsCozy, sleepy questions for the last half hour of the day.
- Cute questions for couplesSweet, silly questions for your boyfriend or girlfriend. Low stakes, high kilig.
- Relationship check-inA weekly list for couples: what went right, how you are, one thing, what’s next.
- Future questions for couplesDaydreams, next steps and the hopes you haven’t said out loud yet.
- Conversation startersGood openers for new people, old friends and the moment a talk wants to go deeper.
- Deep questionsDeep conversation questions for when the talk is ready to go past small talk.
- Random questionsSilly, oddly specific and surprising questions to ask friends or anyone at all.
- Would you ratherWould you rather and this or that questions, from easy picks to hard tradeoffs.
- Throwback questionsNostalgic questions about childhood, old barkada days and the stories still told.
- Good questions to askGood questions for new people, dinner tables, coworkers and one-on-one talks.
- Interesting questionsThought-provoking questions that make people think, without getting heavy.
- Funny questionsFunny questions that pull out embarrassing stories and harmless confessions.
- Questions to ask a guyQuestions to get to know a guy you like, from easy openers to what he cares about.
- Questions to ask a girlQuestions to get to know a girl you like, from easy picks to what matters to her.
- Gratitude questionsGratitude prompts for groups, families and classrooms, from small joys to big thanks.
- Small talk questionsLight small talk questions for networking, coworkers, neighbours and waiting rooms.
- Friendship questionsQuestions about friendship: what friends mean to you, how you show up, what lasts.
- Questions to ask over textQuestions that are easy to answer with your thumbs and fun to read back.
- Flirty questionsPlayful, clean questions that make someone smile at their phone.
- Romantic questionsSoft, sweet questions for a partner, about the two of you and the days you share.
- Relationship questionsQuestions about how the two of you work: as a team, in a talk, and when something is off.
- Deep questions for couplesFor a long night when you both want to know the person, not just the partner.
- Fun questions for couplesSilly debates, gentle roasts and make-believe for a couple who likes to laugh.
- Would you rather for couplesChoices that look small and reveal how differently two people think.
- This or that for couplesRapid picks to compare your mornings, your habits and your dream days.
- How well do you know meA guessing game for couples and close friends: one answers, the other predicts.
- Questions about loveAbout how you learned love, give it and receive it: with family, friends and a partner.
- Things to talk about with your boyfriendTopics, not interrogations: his week, what he’s into, his stories and the two of you.
- Things to talk about with your girlfriendHer week, her people, what she loves and what’s next for you two.
- Couples journal promptsPrompts for a shared journal: weekly, monthly, about yourself and to your future selves.
- Wedding planning questionsQuestions to ask each other while planning a wedding, so it stays a team project.
- Couples bucket listQuestions that turn into a list of places, adventures and things to learn together.
- This or thatQuick picks between two options, or a short menu, answered in a second.
- Hypothetical questionsHypotheticals that are secretly about you: free afternoons, old messages, what others would notice.
- If you could questionsIf you could fly, open a shop or tell your younger self one thing: powers, places and small wishes.
- What would you do?Everyday situations and how you’d handle them: awkward moments, changed plans, friends who go quiet.
- Weird questionsOddly specific questions about personal rules, strange habits and opinions nobody asked for.
- Silly questionsSilly questions for every age: invent useless things, pick a mood mascot, confess small silly habits.
- Rapid fire questionsRapid fire questions with one-word answers: food, quick picks and fast facts about you.
- Unique questionsQuestions people have never been asked, about what they notice and how others see them.
- Creative questionsCreative questions that ask people to invent, design and plan, from new holidays to cheap birthdays.
- Philosophical questionsPhilosophy at the kitchen table: time, choice, fairness and a self that keeps changing.
- Thought-provoking questionsThought-provoking questions that make you notice your own habits, energy and patterns.
- Meaningful questionsMeaningful questions about the people who taught you, cared for you and made you feel you belonged.
- Deep conversation topicsFive deep topics worth a whole evening: fear, rest, mistakes, change and hope, with questions for each.
- Questions about lifeQuestions about where your life is right now: this season, what’s changed and what’s next.
- Values questionsQuestions about what matters to you, from small non-negotiables to the person you want to be.
- Open-ended questionsOpen-ended questions that invite a story: describe it, tell me about it, walk me through it.
- Personal questionsPersonal questions in three levels, from easy to close, so you never ask too much too soon.
- Conversation questions for adultsQuestions about grown-up life: work, rest, busy friendships and still learning new things.
- Late-night questionsLate-night questions for sleepovers, long calls and drives home: silly first, then the honest ones.
- Deep questions for friendsDeep questions for close friends: what your friendship runs on, hard moments and showing up.
- 21 questions gameHow to play 21 questions, with a ready-made set in three rounds of seven, from easy to honest.
- Questions for a groupQuestions that work with six to twelve people: quick go-arounds, questions about the group, and plans.
- Questions to ask strangersLow-pressure questions for people you’ll meet once: in a line, on a plane, at a meetup.
- Things to talk aboutThings to talk about when you run out: food, free time, everyday life, people and plans.
- Questions to ask yourselfAn honest self-check in four steps: how you are, what you carry, what you need, what’s next.
- Journal promptsPrompts for writing alone, from five-minute weeknight lines to letters to your younger self.
- Self-discovery questionsQuestions about how you work and play, what friends see in you, and who you’re becoming.
- Self-love questionsQuestions about how you talk to yourself, letting old mistakes go, and small care for today.
- Evening reflection questionsQuestions to close the day: how you come down, what went okay, and what can wait.
- Dreams and goalsFrom this month’s small goals to the bigger dreams people rarely say out loud.
- Childhood memory questionsQuestions that bring back the small things: games, the house you grew up in, first times.
- Food questionsFood opinions, meals that became memories, and food would you rathers for any table.
- Travel questionsDream trips, travel styles, new places and the trips that turned into stories.
- Favorite things questionsFavorites with more texture: small comforts, times of day, places and ways to spend time.
- Storytelling questionsQuestions that get a real story: funny mishaps, moments of change, the people around you.
- Faith questionsQuestions about your walk with God: where faith started, everyday faith, doubts and trust.
- Spiritual questionsQuestions for a quiet hour: stillness, noticing grace, letting go and trusting the next step.
- Christian conversation startersFaith questions for Bible study, small groups and church events, light enough to start with.
- Positive questionsQuestions that let people talk about wins, compliments and the good people around them.
- Questions about happinessWhat happy looks like day to day: small joys, free afternoons and good company.
- Cozy questionsWarm questions about home, comfort food, easy company and slow evenings.
- Wholesome questionsKind, sweet questions about small kindnesses, brightening someone’s day and good people.
- Light-hearted questionsEasy, low-stakes questions for when things have been heavy and everyone needs a breather.
- Question of the dayA daily question ritual for classrooms, teams, families and group chats, sorted by weekday.
- Daily questionsEveryday questions for the people you live with, to ask instead of “how was your day?”
- Fall questionsQuestions for sweater weather: back to routine, warm drinks, gratitude and letting things change.
- Winter questionsQuestions for long nights in: rest, holiday memories, the year behind you and the one ahead.
- Summer questionsQuestions for long summer days: free time, trips and beaches, heat and snacks, friends.
- ESL conversation questionsShort, plain-English questions for pair work, warm-ups and speaking practice.
- ESL icebreakersLow-pressure openers that get a whole English class talking in minutes.
- ESL would you ratherTwo-choice questions that practice “I’d rather… because…” in every answer.
- ESL hypothetical questions“If you could…” questions for practicing the second conditional out loud.
- ESL food questionsFood talk in plain English: orders, leftovers, strange combos and meals to remember.
- ESL travel questionsTrips, tickets, new places and waiting at the gate, in plain English.
- ESL family questionsHome, chores, family habits and the stories relatives tell, in plain English.
- Business English conversationWork habits, meetings, plans that change and handling hard days, in plain English.
- English speaking practicePrompts to speak for a minute: describe, tell a story, compare then and now.
- IELTS-style speaking practicePersonal-topic questions for practicing interview-style speaking at home.
- Questions when boredSilly picks, odd habits and inside jokes for a slow afternoon.
- Morning questionsFor coffee, breakfast and the few minutes before the day starts.
- Filipino food questionsUlam, merienda, sawsawan and the comfort food that tastes like home.
Sa Tagalog
Mga tanong sa Filipino, may English sa ilalim.
- Tanong para sa crushMagaan at medyo pa-cute na tanong sa crush, sa chat man o sa personal.
- Tanong para sa mag-asawaPara sa mag-asawang laging pagod, laging busy, pero gusto pa ring mag-usap.
- Tanong para sa boyfriendPara sa date, sa tawag bago matulog, at sa mga gabing gusto mo siyang marinig.
- Tanong para sa girlfriendPara ipakita sa kanya na nakikinig ka, hindi lang tumatango.
- Tanong para sa jowaPara sa date night, sa byahe pauwi, at sa mga gabing gusto n’yo lang mag-usap.
- Deep questions sa TagalogMga malalim na tanong para sa deep talk, kasama ang taong pinagkakatiwalaan mo.
- Tanong para sa pamilyaPara sa hapunan, Sunday lunch at handaan, mula kay lola hanggang sa bunso.
- Tanong para sa barkadaPara sa tambayan, sleepover at kwentuhang umaabot ng madaling-araw.
- Get to know you sa TagalogPara sa bagong kaibigan, bagong officemate, o taong gusto mong makilala pa.
- Icebreaker sa TagalogPara sa klase, youth group, team meeting at sa unang limang minuto ng kahit anong grupo.
- Paano kumustahin ang isang taoMga tanong na lampas sa “ayos lang,” para sa kaibigan, kapatid o sa sarili mo.
- Would you rather sa TagalogMabilisang pili para sa barkada, klase at team: ito o iyan?
- Tanong para sa LDRPara sa magkasintahang magkalayo: video call, time zone at “kailan ka uuwi?”
- Tanong para sa magulangPara kay Mama, Papa, Lolo at Lola: mga kuwentong hindi pa ninyo naririnig.
- Fast talk questionsMabilisang tanong, mabilisang sagot: pang-kalaro, pang-vlog, pang-party.
- Hugot questionsMga tanong na may konting kirot, konting tawa, at maraming “relate.”
- Random questions sa TagalogMga tanong na out of nowhere, pang-buhay ng usapang namatay na.
- Tanong para sa kaibiganPara sa kaibigang gusto mong mas makilala, hindi lang kabatian.
- Tanong para sa best friendPara sa taong alam na ang lahat ng kuwento mo, o akala niya lang.
- Tanong para kay TatayPara kay Papa, Itay, Daddy: mga kuwentong hindi niya ikukuwento hangga’t hindi tinatanong.
- Tanong para kay NanayPara kay Mama, Inay, Mommy: ang taong laging nagtatanong kung kumain ka na.
- Tanong para kay Lolo at LolaPara marinig ang mga kuwento ng “noong panahon namin” habang nandiyan pa sila.
- Tanong para sa kapatidPara kay ate, kuya at bunso: ang mga kasama mong lumaki at kaaway mo sa remote.
- Tanong para sa pinsanPara sa mga pinsang nakikita mo lang tuwing Pasko, fiesta at reunion.
- Tanong para kay Ninong at NinangPara sa inaanak at sa ninong o ninang, higit pa sa “nasaan ang aguinaldo ko?”
- Tanong para sa katrabahoPara sa kasama mo sa opisina, sa shift o sa Zoom, lampas sa “TGIF na!”
- Tanong para sa kaklasePara sa seatmate, groupmate at buong section, mula unang araw hanggang finals.
- Tanong para sa estudyantePara sa adviser, guidance o magulang na gustong malaman kung kumusta talaga ang estudyante.
- Tanong para sa guroPara sa faculty room, sa Teachers’ Day, at sa estudyanteng gustong magpasalamat.
- Tanong para sa kabataanPara sa youth group, youth camp at mga teens na ayaw ng “sharing” na parang recitation.
- Tanong para sa lifegroupPara sa lifegroup, cell group at Bible study na gustong lumampas sa “okay naman po.”
- Tanong para sa nililigawanPara sa panahon ng ligawan: kilalanin siya, ang pamilya niya, at ang mga pinahahalagahan niya.
- Tanong para sa bagong kasalPara sa unang taon ng pagsasama: bagong bahay, dalawang pamilya, isang kusina.
- Tanong para sa matagal nang magkasamaPara sa magkasintahan o mag-asawang ilang taon na, at akala nila alam na nila ang lahat.
- Tanong para sa OFWPara sa kapamilyang nasa abroad, at sa OFW na gustong kumustahin ang naiwan.
- Tanong para sa anakPara sa magulang ng teen o binata at dalaga: mas maraming tanong, mas kaunting sermon.
- Tanong para sa mga bataSimpleng tanong para sa mga bata: imagination, kalokohan at mga paborito.
- Kilig na tanongMga tanong na nakakangiti nang hindi mo sinasadya: pang-crush, pang-bagong jowa, pang-matagal na.
- Tanong sa pamamanhikanPara sa unang pagkikita ng dalawang pamilya, at sa magkasintahang naghahanda para dito.
- Tanong sa birthdayPara sa birthday celebrant: mga tanong habang hinihintay ang cake at bago ang wish.
- Tanong sa debutPara sa debut program: “how well do you know the debutante,” 18 roses, 18 candles at higit pa.
- Tanong sa reunionPara sa batch reunion at class reunion: lampas sa “ang laki ng pinagbago mo!”
- Tanong sa PaskoPara sa Noche Buena, Christmas party at mga gabing magkakasama ang buong pamilya.
- Tanong sa Bagong TaonPara sa huling gabi ng taon: balikan, bitawan, at abangan.
- Tanong sa road tripPara sa mahabang byahe: SLEX, NLEX, pauwi ng probinsya, o road trip ng barkada.
- Tanong sa overnightPara sa overnight ng barkada o magpipinsan: bago patayin ang ilaw, pagkapatay, at pagkagising.
- Tanong sa inumanPara sa inuman ng barkada: mula unang bote hanggang sa tahimik na mesa.
- Tanong sa kainanPara sa hapag-kainan, kainan sa labas at mahabang tanghalian: mga tanong tungkol sa pagkain.
- Tanong sa kasalPara sa reception table: mga bisitang hindi magkakakilala, barkada ng ikinasal, at mag-asawang bisita.
- Tanong sa brownoutPara sa gabing walang kuryente: kandila, pamaypay, at kuwentuhan ng buong bahay.
- Team building questionsPara sa team building, planning session at Christmas party ng opisina, sa Tagalog at English.
- Tanong sa UndasPara sa Undas: mga tanong para alalahanin ang mga mahal sa buhay, sa sementeryo o sa bahay.
- This or that sa TagalogDalawang pagpipilian, isang segundo: ito o iyan?
- Nakakatawang tanongMga tanong na siguradong may tatawa: sablay, kakaibang ugali at kalokohan.
- Personal na tanongMga tanong na personal pero hindi nanghihimasok, para makilala ang tao nang mas malalim.
- Tanong tungkol sa buhayDeep questions about life sa Tagalog: tungkol sa direksyon, pinahahalagahan at susunod na hakbang.
- Tanong tungkol sa pag-ibigPara sa kahit sino, may jowa man o wala: paano ka magmahal at gustong mahalin.
- Tanong para sa sariliSelf-reflection questions sa Tagalog: para sa journal, sa tahimik na gabi, o sa sarili mong kumustahan.
- Tanong sa bagong kakilalaPara sa katabi sa party, sa bagong kapitbahay, o sa taong kakapakilala lang ng kaibigan mo.
- Tanong sa chat“Start ko lang convo natin”: mga tanong na pang-chat sa crush, kaibigan o GC.
- Tanong tungkol sa pagkakaibiganMga tanong tungkol sa pagiging kaibigan: paano ka bilang kaibigan, tampuhan, at mga kaibigang nanatili.
- Throwback questions sa TagalogMga tanong na pang-throwback: pagkabata, barkada noon, at mga kantang nagpapabalik.
- Follow-up questions sa TagalogPaano magtanong pa pagkatapos ng unang sagot, sa Tagalog, para humaba ang kuwento.
- Paano kung“Paano kung…” na tanong: hypotheticals sa Tagalog para sa imagination at kuwentuhan.
Picking questions
Start with the room.
A good question fits the room. The same card that opens up a couple at midnight falls flat at an office Christmas party at 7 PM. So these lists start with the people and the occasion, then hand you questions that suit them.
Every question is a real Kumustahan card, quoted word for word, with English and Filipino side by side. Most have a short reflection on the back of the card. Open “Back of the card” under a question to read it.
Read them aloud from this page, print a deck, or play them in the app, where you can mix decks, choose how deep tonight goes and pass the phone around. 420 cards are free in the app, for good.
Guides
- What “kumustahan” meansThe Filipino word for checking in on each other, in English, with examples.
- Filipino conversation cardsWhat makes a deck Filipino, and how to choose one, on paper or on your phone.
- Conversation card games in the PhilippinesComfort Cards, Toni Talks, Hugot, Parents Are Human, WNRS and Kumustahan, compared.
- A We’re Not Really Strangers alternativeLove WNRS but want Tagalog, more decks, or a deck on your phone?
- Conversation card app or physical deck?Paper or phone: what each is better at, honestly.
- A conversation card app for any tableQuestions for friends, couples, families and teams, in English, anywhere.
- Learn Tagalog with conversation cardsFor heritage learners, partners of Filipinos and anyone who wants to talk, not drill.
- How to start a conversationOpen with something easy, follow the detail, and never need a script.
- How to get past small talkTurn “busy, you?” into a real conversation without forcing it.
- How to check in on someoneHow to ask how someone is really doing, and what to do with the answer.
- How to host a conversation nightSet-up, house rules and pacing for a night of good questions at home.
- Kumustahin and kumusta in EnglishWhat kumustahin, kumusta, kamusta and nagkumustahan mean in English, with examples.
- What is kwentuhan?The Filipino word for swapping stories, and how to start one.
- What “barkada” meansThe Filipino word for your close group of friends, explained in English.
- What “hugot” meansThe Filipino slang for lines pulled from deep feelings, usually heartbreak.
- Deep talk, the Filipino wayWhat Filipinos mean by “deep talk”, and how to say it in Tagalog.
- What “kilig” meansThe Filipino word for the giddy rush of romance, explained in English.
- What “salo-salo” meansThe Filipino word for a get-together around a shared meal.
- Tagalog terms of endearmentMahal, sinta, bes, pare, bunso and more: what Filipinos call the people they love.
- Filipino family valuesRespect, utang na loob, bayanihan and close family ties, explained without the clichés.
- Filipino Christmas traditionsFrom the ber months to Three Kings: the world’s longest Christmas season, explained.
- The 36 questions, explainedWhat the famous “36 questions to fall in love” study really found, and a gentler way to try it.
- A TableTopics alternativeLove the cube on the dinner table? Here’s how a conversation card app compares.
- A THE AND card game alternativeLove THE AND’s two-person format? Here’s a free app that plays a lot like it.
- A Where Should We Begin alternativeEsther Perel’s story game, and a conversation card app for nights it doesn’t fit.
- Conversation card games for adultsWe’re Not Really Strangers, TableTopics, THE AND, Where Should We Begin and Kumustahan, compared.
- What are conversation cards?Questions written to be asked out loud: what they are, the kinds, and how to play.
- Conversation cards for familiesWhat to look for in a family deck, and how to play with kids, teens and grandparents.
- A couples conversation card appWhat to look for in an app for two, and how to use it on date night or far apart.
- An offline party game appFor cabins, campsites, flights and basements: a pass-the-phone game that needs no signal.
FAQ
Frequently asked questions
Are these questions free to use?
Yes. Read them aloud, print them or share the page. Every question listed here is also free in the Kumustahan app, with no account.
Are the questions in Tagalog too?
Yes. Every question has English and Filipino/Tagalog versions, shown together, and the topics under “Sa Tagalog” lead with the Filipino.
How do I choose the right questions for a group?
Start with who’s at the table, then the mood. New people need light questions with easy answers; old friends and family can go to stories and memories; couples and close friends can go deeper later in the night.
Where do the questions come from?
They are cards from Kumustahan, a bilingual conversation card app with 1,200 questions across 7 decks. Each list picks the cards that suit one kind of table.
Bring a better question to the table.
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