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Rehearsal dinner questions for two families, one table
Icebreakers for the rehearsal dinner, where the couple’s families sit down together, sometimes for the first time, alongside a wedding party who just practiced walking in a straight line. For the meal, the stories and the nerves.
- 16 questions
- EN + TL on every card
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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
Tell us the funny memory your friends or family still bring up.
Ikuwento yung funny memory na binabalikan pa rin ng friends o family mo.
Some stories become part of a group's archive. If people still bring it up, it probably earned its place.
May stories na parte na ng group archive. Kapag binabalikan pa rin, malamang deserve niya yung spot.
The questions
16 rehearsal dinner questions
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
Two families, one table
5 questions
Family habits and running jokes, compared across the table.
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Name a topic your family or friends can discuss forever.
Sabihin yung topic na kayang pag-usapan forever ng family o friends mo.
Back of the card
Every group has a topic that refuses to end. It keeps coming back because everyone has one more detail to add.
May topic talaga na ayaw matapos. Paulit-ulit bumabalik kasi laging may dagdag na kwento ang bawat isa.
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Tell us the funny memory your friends or family still bring up.
Ikuwento yung funny memory na binabalikan pa rin ng friends o family mo.
Back of the card
Some stories become part of a group's archive. If people still bring it up, it probably earned its place.
May stories na parte na ng group archive. Kapag binabalikan pa rin, malamang deserve niya yung spot.
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Who do you enjoy eating with, even if the food is simple?
Sino yung masarap kasamang kumain kahit simple lang ang pagkain?
Back of the card
The company can change the meal. Some people make even ordinary food feel warmer.
Iba ang pagkain kapag okay ang kasama. May mga taong kahit simpleng meal, gumagaan yung moment.
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At home, who usually notices the chores, mess, or little things first?
Sa bahay ninyo, sino yung madalas unang nakakapansin ng chores, kalat, o maliliit na kailangan gawin?
Back of the card
Every home has someone who notices first. That kind of attention can be quiet, but it keeps many things moving.
Sa bawat bahay, may taong unang nakakapansin. Tahimik minsan yung ganung attention, pero marami siyang napapaandar.
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When you think of home, what small detail comes up first?
Kapag naiisip mo ang home, anong maliit na detail ang unang pumapasok?
Back of the card
Home can be a smell, a sound, a person, a room, or one ordinary detail that stayed.
Pwedeng amoy, tunog, tao, kwarto, o isang ordinaryong detail ang home. Minsan yun ang unang bumabalik.
The wedding party
4 questions
For the friends standing up tomorrow.
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How did your first impression of a friend change once you got to know them?
Anong first impression mo sa isang friend ang nagbago nang makilala mo sila?
Back of the card
You can finish: “I thought they were..., then I noticed...”
Puwedeng ituloy: “Akala ko..., tapos napansin ko...”
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What are you good at that your friends rarely get to see?
Saan ka magaling na bihirang makita ng friends mo?
Back of the card
Imagine a friend seeing you do it for the first time.
Isipin na unang nakita ng friend kung paano mo ito ginagawa.
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How can friends tell when you are excited about something?
Paano nahahalata ng friends na excited ka sa isang bagay?
Back of the card
Think of the sign you notice in yourself before anyone else does.
Isipin ang senyales na napapansin mo sa sarili mo bago pa mapansin ng iba.
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Which simple friendship tradition would you like to keep even when everyone gets busier?
Anong nakasanayan ninyong gawin ng friends mo ang gusto mong ituloy kahit maging mas busy kayo?
Back of the card
What would be the easiest version to keep on a busy week?
Ano ang pinakamadaling bersiyon nito kapag busy ang linggo?
The night before
4 questions
Gentle questions about nerves and rest, for the couple and anyone who needs them.
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Which fear gets smaller when you talk about it?
Anong takot ang gumagaan kapag naikukwento mo?
Back of the card
Some fears grow in silence and shrink in safe air. Talking can help you see their true size.
May takot na lumalaki kapag tahimik lang. Kapag naikuwento sa safe na lugar, mas nakikita mo ang totoong laki niya.
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What helps you settle down after a full day?
Ano ang nakakatulong sa'yo mag-settle after a full day?
Back of the card
The way you come down from a full day matters. Small rituals can help your mind know it is safe to rest.
Mahalaga rin kung paano ka bumababa from a full day. Kahit maliit na ritual, puwedeng signal na safe nang magpahinga.
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After finishing something hard, how do you usually celebrate or recover?
Kapag natapos mo ang mahirap na bagay, paano ka usually nagse-celebrate o nagre-recover?
Back of the card
Finishing something hard deserves a landing. Some people mark it loudly; some just need a quiet exhale.
Kapag may natapos kang mahirap, kailangan din ng landing. May nagse-celebrate nang malakas; may tahimik na hinga lang.
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Pick one small kindness you can give yourself today.
Pumili ng isang maliit na kindness na kaya mong ibigay sa sarili mo today.
Back of the card
Kindness does not need to be grand to be real. A small mercy can still change how the day feels.
Hindi kailangang bongga ang kindness para maging totoo. Kahit maliit na mercy, puwedeng baguhin ang feel ng araw.
For the toasts
3 questions
Prompts for parents and friends who haven’t written a speech.
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Which compliment have you remembered long after someone said it?
Anong compliment ang tumatak sa'yo kahit matagal na itong sinabi?
Back of the card
The exact words are optional. Notice which part of the compliment stayed with you.
Hindi kailangan ang eksaktong salita. Balikan kung aling bahagi ng papuri ang tumatak sa'yo.
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If you could tell your younger self one piece of good news, what would it be?
Kung may isang good news kang masasabi sa batang ikaw, ano yun?
Back of the card
This is a gentle way to name progress. Not everything is fixed, but maybe there is something younger you would smile about.
Gentle way ito para makita yung progress. Hindi man ayos lahat, baka may isang bagay na ikakangiti ng batang ikaw.
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What can you do now that would have surprised you a few years ago?
Ano ang kaya mo na ngayon na hindi mo inakalang magagawa mo ilang taon na ang nakaraan?
Back of the card
Picture showing your younger self how you do it. What might surprise them first?
Isipin na ipinapakita mo sa mas batang sarili mo kung paano mo ito ginagawa. Ano kaya ang una niyang ikagugulat?
How to use them
Before you ask
A rehearsal dinner is often the first time the two families really talk, and the easiest common ground is family habits: the topic your family can argue about forever, the funny memory that always comes up, who you love eating with. Every family has those, and comparing them is how two families start to feel like one.
The wedding party has its own needs. They’ve spent the afternoon practicing and will spend tomorrow on their feet. Stories about how they met the couple, and what they’re good at that people rarely see, let them enjoy the night before the work begins.
For the couple, the rehearsal dinner can be oddly nervous. A quiet question about a worry that shrinks once it’s said aloud, or what helps them settle after a full day, is a kind thing to ask someone the night before their wedding.
Good for
Tips
- Seat the parents near each other and give them the family-habit questions.
- Let a toast-giver use one of the toast prompts if they get stuck.
- Keep it short; everyone needs to sleep before tomorrow.
- Ask the couple the night-before questions privately, not in front of the room.
- For the reception tables tomorrow, see wedding table questions.
Decks for this
Rehearsal dinner
Frequently asked questions
What are good icebreakers for a rehearsal dinner?
Questions about family habits and running jokes, which both families can answer and compare: the topic your family discusses forever, the funny memory that always comes up, who you love sharing a simple meal with.
How do you help two families get to know each other at a rehearsal dinner?
Seat them together and give them easy questions about home and family traditions. Comparing habits is a gentle way in, and it gives everyone something to laugh about.
What should you say in a rehearsal dinner toast?
Keep it short and specific: a compliment you remember, good news you’d tell the couple’s younger selves, or something you’ve seen them grow into. One true story beats a long speech.
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