Questions · Engagement party
Engagement party questions to celebrate the two of them
Questions for an engagement party: a round the couple answers to each other in front of everyone, easy mingling picks for guests who only know one side, and stories and toasts about the newly engaged pair.
- 15 questions
- EN + TL on every card
- Free in the app
Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
What is one memory with me that still gives you a good feeling?
Ano yung memory natin na hanggang ngayon good feeling pa rin para sa'yo?
Good memories are not only for nostalgia. They remind you what kind of connection is worth repeating.
Hindi lang pang-nostalgia ang good memories. Pinapaalala nila kung anong klaseng connection ang worth ulitin.
The questions
15 engagement party questions
The first group comes from the free Couples deck: the couple asks these to each other, out loud, while the guests listen in. The rest are for the guests.
For the couple, out loud
6 questions
Early moments and favorite habits, answered to each other.
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When we were still getting to know each other, what moment first made you feel like we could become something real?
Noong kinikilala pa natin ang isa't isa, anong moment yung unang nagparamdam sa'yo na puwede tayong maging something real?
Back of the card
This is not about pressure or measuring the relationship. It is simply remembering when being together first started to feel possible.
Hindi ito tungkol sa pressure o pag-sukat ng relationship. Pag-alala lang ito sa moment na unang naramdaman mong possible pala tayo.
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What was one early moment that made you feel comfortable with me?
Ano yung nangyare lately na naging comfortable ka sa akin?
Back of the card
Early comfort often says a lot about what still matters now: safety, humor, patience, or being easy to talk to.
Maraming sinasabi ang early comfort tungkol sa mahalaga pa rin ngayon: safety, humor, patience, o gaan kausap.
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What is one memory with me that still gives you a good feeling?
Ano yung memory natin na hanggang ngayon good feeling pa rin para sa'yo?
Back of the card
Good memories are not only for nostalgia. They remind you what kind of connection is worth repeating.
Hindi lang pang-nostalgia ang good memories. Pinapaalala nila kung anong klaseng connection ang worth ulitin.
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What playful little habit of ours do you hope we keep?
Ano yung maliit na playful habit natin na sana hindi mawala?
Back of the card
Play helps protect a relationship from becoming only serious, busy, or practical with each other.
Nakakatulong ang play para hindi lang maging seryoso, busy, o practical ang relationship ninyo.
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What future plan feels exciting and realistic for us right now?
Anong future plan ang exciting at realistic para sa atin ngayon?
Back of the card
Future talk does not have to feel pressuring. Hope can feel steadier when it has a real-life shape.
Hindi kailangang may pressure ang future talk. Mas steady ang hope kapag may real-life shape siya.
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What is one quiet strength in our relationship right now?
Ano yung isang quiet strength ng relationship natin ngayon?
Back of the card
Strength does not always have to be obvious. Naming what feels steady can give you both courage for what is still growing.
Hindi kailangang obvious lagi ang strength. Kapag napangalanan ninyo kung ano yung steady, mas may courage kayo para sa mga bagay na lumalago pa.
Mingling guests
4 questions
Easy picks for the friends of one side meeting the family of the other.
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For one month, you can have music or movies, but not both. Which do you keep?
Kung isa lang ang puwede mong ma-enjoy sa loob ng isang buwan, music o movies ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
Name the first song or movie you would return to when the month ends.
Anong kanta o movie ang una mong babalikan pagkatapos ng buwan?
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In a group hangout, which role do you usually fall into: planner, joker, listener, snack person, or something else?
Sa group hangout, anong role ang usually napupunta sa'yo: planner, joker, listener, snack person, o iba pa?
Back of the card
Group roles can be funny because they appear before anyone assigns them. Somehow every hangout finds its planner, joker, listener, or snack person.
Minsan lumalabas yung role bago pa may mag-assign. Sa bawat hangout, may planner, joker, listener, o snack person talaga.
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Would you rather have one long vacation or several short ones?
Mas gusto mo ba ng isang mahabang bakasyon o ilang maiikli?
Back of the card
Give your break a title, as if it were a movie.
Bigyan ng pamagat ang break mo, na parang movie.
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Imagine a place to stay: tiny with a great view or huge but far from everything. Which do you choose?
Isipin ang titirhan mo: maliit pero maganda ang view o malaki pero malayo sa lahat. Alin ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
Put one favorite thing in your new place. What belongs there?
Maglagay ng isang paborito mong bagay sa bagong titirhan mo. Ano iyon?
Stories about the two of them
3 questions
Photos, funny stories and plans that went sideways.
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What detail do you notice first in an old photo with a friend?
Anong detalye ang una mong napapansin sa lumang photo kasama ang friend?
Back of the card
No need to show it. Would you keep that detail in a photo taken today?
Hindi kailangang ipakita. Gusto mo bang makita pa rin ang detalyeng iyon sa photo ngayon?
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Think of someone in your circle who can turn anything into a funny story.
Isipin yung tao sa circle niyo na kayang gawing funny story kahit simpleng bagay lang.
Back of the card
Every circle has someone who makes ordinary stories funnier than expected. Naming them is also a tiny thank-you.
May tao talagang nagpapasaya ng simpleng kwento. Kapag naalala mo siya, parang small thank-you na rin.
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What failed plan with friends turned into a good memory?
Anong pumalpak na plano kasama ang friends ang naging masayang memory?
Back of the card
The failed plan can be the story's best plot twist.
Puwedeng ang pumalpak na plano ang pinakamagandang plot twist sa kuwento.
Raise a toast
2 questions
Celebrating good news, the way the couple likes it.
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How would you like friends to react when you share good news?
Paano mo gustong mag-react ang friends kapag may good news ka?
Back of the card
A loud cheer or a quiet “I'm happy for you” — which fits this news?
Malakas na cheer o tahimik na “Masaya ako para sa'yo” — alin ang bagay sa balitang ito?
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Who do you wish you could spend more normal, no-special-plan time with?
Sino yung gusto mong makasama nang mas madalas, kahit walang special na lakad?
Back of the card
Ordinary time can build closeness slowly. Not every good moment needs an occasion.
Nakakabuo rin ng closeness ang ordinaryong time. Hindi lahat ng magandang moment kailangan may special na lakad.
How to use them
Before you ask
The sweetest engagement party moment is often a simple one: the couple answering a question to each other while everyone listens. When did it first feel like this could become something real? What playful habit do they hope to keep? Guests learn more from two honest answers than from any slideshow.
The rest of the party is mingling between people who have only the couple in common: her college friends, his cousins, the parents meeting each other’s friends. Light picks about vacations and favorite things get them talking, and the long-trip-or-short-trips question usually turns into a honeymoon brainstorm.
Close with a toast round. Ask the guests how they like friends to react when they share good news, and then do exactly that for the couple.
Good for
Tips
- Ask the couple first if they’re comfortable answering in front of everyone.
- Pick two or three couple questions, not six. Keep it sweet and short.
- Let a friend from each side host the mingling round together.
- Write down the couple’s answers and give them the card later.
- For the next step, see questions for engaged couples.
Decks for this
Engagement party
Frequently asked questions
What are good questions to ask at an engagement party?
A few questions for the couple to answer to each other (an early moment that felt comfortable, a habit they hope to keep), easy mingling picks for guests, and stories and toasts about the pair.
What games can you play at an engagement party?
A couple’s question round, where they answer to each other out loud, is a gentle alternative to quiz games. Add a honeymoon-destination round for guests and a toast round at the end.
Where do the couple’s questions come from?
They’re from the Couples deck in the free Kumustahan app, which has questions for partners at every stage. Each card has an English and a Filipino side.
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