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Questions to ask your partner about the future, without the pressure

Future questions for couples that start with daydreams and work up to the real things: the next few months, who you each want to become, and the hopes and worries you carry about life together.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

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What future plan feels exciting and realistic for us right now?

Anong future plan ang exciting at realistic para sa atin ngayon?

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A note

Future talk does not have to feel pressuring. Hope can feel steadier when it has a real-life shape.

Hindi kailangang may pressure ang future talk. Mas steady ang hope kapag may real-life shape siya.

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The questions

22 questions about your future together

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Daydreams first

6 questions

Easy questions that still show what someone values.

  1. With an unlimited budget, what extra room would you add to your home?

    Kung walang limit ang budget, anong dagdag na kuwarto ang gusto mo sa bahay?

    Back of the card

    If the new room had a sign on its door, what would it say?

    Kung may karatula sa pinto ng bagong kuwarto, ano ang nakasulat doon?

  2. Imagine a place to stay: tiny with a great view or huge but far from everything. Which do you choose?

    Isipin ang titirhan mo: maliit pero maganda ang view o malaki pero malayo sa lahat. Alin ang pipiliin mo?

    Back of the card

    Put one favorite thing in your new place. What belongs there?

    Maglagay ng isang paborito mong bagay sa bagong titirhan mo. Ano iyon?

  3. If someone funded one helpful idea for your neighborhood, what would you build or improve?

    Kung may sasagot sa gastos, ano ang gagawin o aayusin mo para makatulong sa lugar ninyo?

    Back of the card

    Picture its first day in use. What would you be happy to see people doing?

    Isipin ang unang araw na ginagamit na ito. Ano ang ikatutuwa mong ginagawa ng mga tao?

  4. Which everyday invention from the future would you most want to see?

    Anong pang-araw-araw na gamit mula sa future ang gusto mong makita?

    Back of the card

    Give the invention a name people could remember.

    Bigyan ang imbensiyon ng pangalang madaling tandaan.

  5. If money were no problem, how would you spend a Saturday with nothing you had to do?

    Kung walang kailangang gawin at hindi problema ang pera, paano mo gagamitin ang isang Sabado?

    Back of the card

    Picture the end of your Saturday. What would make you wish it were still morning?

    Isipin ang katapusan ng Sabado mo. Bakit mo gugustuhing umaga pa lang?

  6. If you could open a tiny shop just for fun, what would it sell?

    Kung magbubukas ka ng maliit na tindahan for fun, ano ang ibebenta mo?

    Back of the card

    What would you call your shop?

    Ano ang ipapangalan mo sa tindahan?

The next few months

5 questions

Near enough to plan, far enough to look forward to.

  1. What future plan feels exciting and realistic for us right now?

    Anong future plan ang exciting at realistic para sa atin ngayon?

    Back of the card

    Future talk does not have to feel pressuring. Hope can feel steadier when it has a real-life shape.

    Hindi kailangang may pressure ang future talk. Mas steady ang hope kapag may real-life shape siya.

  2. Name one thing that would make next month feel a little lighter.

    Magbanggit ng isang bagay na makakatulong para mas gumaan nang konti ang next month.

    Back of the card

    A lighter month does not have to mean a perfect one. Even one less weight can change how a season feels.

    Hindi kailangang perfect ang mas magaan na month. Kahit isang bawas na bigat, iba na ang pakiramdam ng season.

  3. What are you looking forward to over the next few weeks?

    Ano ang inaabangan mo sa susunod na mga linggo?

    Back of the card

    Finish if you like: "The part I cannot wait for is..."

    Kung gusto mo, ituloy: "Ang pinaka-inaabangan ko ay..."

  4. Name one small hope that helps you keep going.

    Magbanggit ng isang maliit na hope na tumutulong sa'yo magpatuloy.

    Back of the card

    A small hope can still carry real strength. It may be quiet, but it is not nothing.

    May totoong lakas din ang maliit na hope. Tahimik man siya, hindi ibig sabihin wala siyang bigat.

  5. What little thing has gone well for us lately that we should celebrate more?

    Anong maliit na bagay ang naging okay sa atin lately na dapat nating i-celebrate pa?

    Back of the card

    Good moments grow when they are noticed. Celebrating what went well keeps the relationship from feeling like only tasks and problems.

    Mas lumalakas yung magagandang moments kapag napapansin. Kapag sine-celebrate natin yung naging okay, hindi puro tasks at problema ang relationship.

Who you each want to become

5 questions

Direction, values and where your choices point.

  1. Point to one direction you feel drawn toward, even if it is not fully clear yet.

    Magbanggit ng isang direction na feeling mo tinutulak ka, kahit hindi pa fully clear.

    Back of the card

    Clarity sometimes arrives after movement. You can honor the direction without pretending you know the whole path.

    Minsan dumarating ang clarity habang gumagalaw ka na. Puwede mong i-honor ang direction nang hindi nagpapanggap na alam mo ang buong path.

  2. Finish this sentence: “In this next season, I hope I get to experience...”

    Tapusin mo yung sentence: “Sa next season, sana ma-experience ko...”

    Back of the card

    This sentence can stay small or open wide. Either way, it gives your hope a place to begin.

    Puwedeng maliit lang o biglang lumawak yung sentence. Either way, may starting point yung hope mo.

  3. Name something you want to be known for by people close to you.

    Magsabi ng isang bagay na gusto mong maalala sa'yo ng mga taong close sa'yo.

    Back of the card

    The way you want to be known can reveal what you value. It can also guide one small choice today.

    Yung gusto mong maalala nila sa'yo, may pinapakitang value. Puwede rin siyang gumabay sa isang maliit na choice today.

  4. Name something that matters to you more now than it used to.

    Magsabi ng isang bagay na mas mahalaga na sa'yo ngayon kaysa dati.

    Back of the card

    What matters can change as you grow. That shift is not betrayal; it may be a clearer kind of honesty.

    Puwedeng magbago ang mahalaga habang naggo-grow ka. Hindi agad betrayal yun; baka mas malinaw na honesty.

  5. Name one truth about yourself that is becoming harder to ignore.

    Magsabi ng isang truth tungkol sa sarili mo na mas mahirap nang i-ignore.

    Back of the card

    A truth that keeps returning may not be trying to shame you. It may be asking for honest attention.

    Yung truth na paulit-ulit bumabalik, baka hindi ka pinapahiya. Baka humihingi lang siya ng honest na pansin.

Hopes and worries

6 questions

For a calm night, asked gently.

  1. What is one fear about our future that you want me to understand gently?

    Ano yung isang fear mo tungkol sa future natin na gusto mong maintindihan ko nang dahan-dahan?

    Back of the card

    Future fears do not always need instant answers. Sometimes they first need a partner who can listen without rushing to fix them.

    Hindi laging kailangan ng instant answer ang future fears. Minsan kailangan muna ng partner na marunong makinig nang hindi minamadaling ayusin.

  2. Name one hope you are protecting because it matters to you.

    Magsabi ng isang hope na iniingatan mo kasi mahalaga talaga sa'yo.

    Back of the card

    We often protect the hopes that feel tender. You can hold it carefully without pretending it does not matter.

    Madalas nating ingatan ang hopes na tender. Puwede mo siyang hawakan nang maingat nang hindi nagkukunwaring hindi siya mahalaga.

  3. What helps you keep going when the next step is not clear?

    Ano ang tumutulong sa'yo magpatuloy kapag hindi pa clear ang next step?

    Back of the card

    You do not need the whole map to keep moving carefully. Sometimes enough light for one step is still enough.

    Hindi mo kailangan ng buong mapa para gumalaw nang maingat. Minsan sapat na ang konting linaw para sa isang step.

  4. Which fear has been making decisions for you lately?

    Anong takot ang parang nakikialam sa decisions mo lately?

    Back of the card

    Fear can sound practical when it wants control. Noticing its voice helps you decide with more freedom.

    Minsan practical pakinggan ang fear kapag gusto niyang kontrolin lahat. Kapag napansin mo siya, mas may freedom kang pumili.

  5. What habit of ours do you hope we keep in the next season?

    Anong habit natin ang sana ituloy natin sa next season?

    Back of the card

    Keeping what works is also growth. Not every next step has to be about fixing a problem.

    Growth din ang pagpapatuloy ng gumagana. Hindi lahat ng next step kailangang tungkol sa pag-aayos ng problema.

  6. What kind of consistency from me helps you feel more secure in us?

    Anong klaseng consistency mula sa akin ang tumutulong sa'yo maging mas secure sa atin?

    Back of the card

    Trust often grows through patterns, not one big moment. Naming the pattern helps your partner know what steadiness feels like to you.

    Madalas lumalalim ang trust sa patterns, hindi sa isang big moment lang. Kapag napangalanan ang pattern, mas alam ng partner mo kung ano ang steady para sa'yo.

How to use them

Before you ask

“Where do you see this going?” is a hard question to answer well, because it asks for a whole future at once. Questions about the future work better in pieces. Start with a daydream, like the extra room you’d add to a dream home or a tiny shop you’d open just for fun. Daydreams show what someone values without anyone having to commit to anything.

Then move closer: a plan for the next few months that feels exciting and doable, the direction each of you feels drawn toward, one hope you’re protecting. The worries belong at the end, on a calm night, asked gently. Listen for where your answers line up and where they don’t. A difference isn’t a crisis; it’s something to keep talking about. There’s more on that in how to talk about the future with your partner.

Some cards come from the Couples deck and the rest from Reflect and Icebreakers, so they suit new couples and married ones alike. The Couples Edition has more. Every card has a Tagalog version. Pass anything that feels too big tonight; the future isn’t going anywhere.

Good for

  • Anniversaries and New Year’s Eve
  • Long drives and late walks
  • Before a big decision: a move, a job, a wedding
  • Couples a year or two in
  • Married couples planning the next season

Tips

  1. Start with daydreams before plans.
  2. Talk about the next few months before the next ten years.
  3. Notice out loud where you agree, not just where you differ.
  4. Don’t turn a future question into an ultimatum.
  5. Ask the same question again in six months; answers change.

Decks for this

Future questions for couples

Frequently asked questions

What questions should you ask your partner about the future?

Start with daydreams like a dream home or a dream trip, then the next few months, then who you each want to become and what you hope for and worry about in your life together. Small pieces are easier than one huge question.

How do you ask your partner where the relationship is going?

Pick a calm moment, say why you’re asking, and start with something specific and near, like a plan for next year, instead of a yes-or-no about forever. Then listen without negotiating.

What are good future questions for couples?

Questions about a plan that feels exciting and realistic right now, a direction each of you feels drawn toward, a hope you’re protecting and one fear about the future you want the other to understand.

Is there a card game for couples about the future?

Kumustahan is a conversation card app with a Couples deck and a Reflect deck, in English with Tagalog on every card. Choose Go deeper when you want the bigger questions about hopes and direction.

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