Questions · Group chat
Questions to ask in a group chat that has gone quiet
Questions to text a friend group, a family thread or a class chat: easy revivers, photo prompts people can answer in one tap, polls, and follow-ups for when the replies start coming in.
- 17 questions
- EN + TL on every card
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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
What do you usually send in the group chat: updates, memes, reactions, or something else?
Ano ang madalas mong ipadala sa group chat: updates, memes, reactions, o iba pa?
If your messages had a signature, what would it be: an emoji, a phrase, or something else?
Kung may tatak ang messages mo, ano iyon: emoji, linya, o iba pa?
The questions
17 questions to ask in a group chat
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
Revive a quiet chat
5 questions
One question, your own answer attached, send.
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What do you usually send in the group chat: updates, memes, reactions, or something else?
Ano ang madalas mong ipadala sa group chat: updates, memes, reactions, o iba pa?
Back of the card
If your messages had a signature, what would it be: an emoji, a phrase, or something else?
Kung may tatak ang messages mo, ano iyon: emoji, linya, o iba pa?
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What flavor of ice cream would you invent?
Anong lasa ng ice cream ang iimbentuhin mo?
Back of the card
Give your invented ice cream a name if you like.
Kung gusto mo, bigyan mo ng pangalan ang ice cream na inimbento mo.
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If you could spend a day as any animal, which would you choose?
Kung puwede kang maging hayop nang isang araw, anong hayop ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
Imagine your first meal as that animal. Where would you look for it?
Isipin ang unang pagkain mo bilang hayop na iyon. Saan mo ito hahanapin?
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Pick one joke style that makes you laugh right away.
Pumili ng joke style na mabilis kang mapatawa.
Back of the card
Humor has shortcuts. The joke that gets you fastest usually knows your exact kind of silly.
May shortcut ang humor. Yung joke na mabilis kang tamaan, alam niya yung exact kind of silly mo.
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Pick a tiny superpower that would make things easier.
Pick one tiny superpower na magpapadali ng ginagawa mo.
Back of the card
Tiny superpowers are best when they solve tiny annoyances. Not every power needs a cape; some just need shorter lines.
Best ang tiny superpowers kapag tiny annoyances ang sinosolve. Hindi lahat kailangan ng cape; minsan shorter lines lang.
Drop a photo
4 questions
Three seconds to answer. The chat fills with keys and old chargers.
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Describe a funny photo of yourself that you would happily show your friends.
Ikuwento ang isang funny photo mo na okay lang sa'yong ipakita sa friends.
Back of the card
No need to show it. What caption would fit the photo?
Hindi kailangang ipakita. Anong caption ang babagay sa photo?
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Pick one small item you use often that makes life feel a little easier.
Pumili ng isang small item na madalas mong gamitin at nagpapagaan ng life kahit konti.
Back of the card
Small useful things can feel quietly heroic. They make the day easier without asking for attention.
May small useful things na quietly heroic. Pinapadali nila yung araw nang hindi nagpapapansin, kahit simple lang sila.
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Name the small thing you always bring, even for a quick errand.
Sabihin yung small thing na lagi mong dala kahit quick errand lang.
Back of the card
The thing you always bring has earned its place. It may be small, but it clearly passed the trust test.
Yung lagi mong dala, may reason yan. Maliit lang siya, pero clearly pasado sa trust test.
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Name one item you always seem to lose, like keys, earphones, a pen, a charger, or your wallet.
Magbanggit ng isang item na parang lagi mong nawawala, like susi, earphones, pen, charger, o wallet.
Back of the card
Some items have a talent for vanishing at the worst time. At some point, it starts to feel like a relationship issue.
May items na ang galing mawala sa worst time. Dumadating sa point na parang relationship issue na siya.
Make it a poll
5 questions
Two options and a strong opinion.
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Would you rather have one long vacation or several short ones?
Mas gusto mo ba ng isang mahabang bakasyon o ilang maiikli?
Back of the card
Give your break a title, as if it were a movie.
Bigyan ng pamagat ang break mo, na parang movie.
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Which would you want free for life: breakfast or dessert?
Pumili ng libreng pagkain habambuhay: breakfast o dessert.
Back of the card
Make your first order. You can choose something familiar or invent a dish.
Piliin ang unang oorderin mo. Puwedeng paborito mo na o pagkaing iimbentuhin mo.
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For a free weekend, would you prefer a full plan or a surprise?
Sa weekend na wala kang kailangang gawin, kumpletong plano o surprise ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
Choose a detail that must stay on your weekend plan, even if everything else is a surprise.
Pumili ng detalye na dapat kasama sa weekend mo kahit surprise ang lahat ng iba pa.
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Would you rather always arrive twenty minutes early or exactly on time?
Mas gusto mo bang laging dumating nang twenty minutes early o laging sakto sa oras?
Back of the card
Finish if you like: "While everyone else is getting ready, I..."
Kung gusto mo, ituloy: "Habang naghahanda pa ang iba, ako..."
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After a tiring day, would you rather get a funny message, a call, or a quiet hangout?
Pagkatapos ng nakakapagod na araw, mas gusto mo ba ng funny message, tawag, o tahimik na bonding?
Back of the card
Choose the first five minutes: a little catching up, a little laughter, or no talking yet.
Piliin ang unang limang minuto: kumustahan, tawanan, o wala munang usapan.
Once people are answering
3 questions
Something warmer, then suggest an actual plan.
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Which compliment from a friend made you smile recently?
Anong compliment mula sa friend ang nagpangiti sa'yo lately?
Back of the card
Did you believe it right away, or did it sink in later?
Naniwala ka ba agad, o saka mo lang ito naramdaman?
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Name a new interest a friend might be surprised you enjoy.
Magbanggit ng bagong hilig mo na baka ikagulat ng friend.
Back of the card
You could open with: “I never thought I'd enjoy this, but...”
Puwedeng magsimula sa “Hindi ko akalaing magugustuhan ko ito, pero...”
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What fun activity would you like to introduce your friends to?
Anong masayang activity ang gusto mong ipakilala sa friends?
Back of the card
Imagine their first try going wrong in a harmless, funny way.
Isipin na may simpleng sablay sa unang pagsubok nila na puwede ninyong pagtawanan.
How to use them
Before you ask
A dead group chat comes back with one easy question, not a long “we should catch up!!” message that everyone hearts and nobody answers. The trick is making a reply effortless: a one-word answer, a photo, a poll.
Photo prompts work best because they take three seconds. Ask for a picture of the thing they always bring, or the item they always seem to lose, and the chat fills with phones, keys and suspicious chargers. Polls come next. Two options, a strong opinion, and suddenly three people are defending breakfast.
Once people are replying, follow up with something warmer, like a compliment that made them smile lately. Then use the momentum to propose a real plan. That’s what a revived group chat is for.
Good for
Tips
- Send one question, not three. Choice paralysis is real in a group chat.
- Put your own answer in the same message so nobody goes first alone.
- Use the app’s poll feature for the pick-one questions.
- Post in the evening, when people are scrolling, not in the middle of the workday.
- When the chat wakes up, suggest a date to meet in person.
Decks for this
Group chat
Frequently asked questions
What should I ask in a group chat?
Something easy to answer in one word or one photo: a pick-one poll, a request for a picture of the item they always lose, a silly what-if. Answer it yourself in the same message.
How do you revive a dead group chat?
Send one low-effort question with your own answer attached, ideally a photo prompt or a poll. Reply to the answers, then suggest a plan while people are active.
What are fun group chat questions?
Polls between two strong options, a tiny superpower, an invented ice cream flavor, or which animal they’d be for a day. Short, silly and easy to reply to.
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