Questions · Girls night

Questions for girls night, from snacks to the midnight talk

Girls night conversation starters for the couch: food opinions and funny photos first, friend stories next, and the honest questions you only ask the people you trust.

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How would you like a friend to respond when you are too tired to join a plan?

Kapag sobrang pagod ka para sumama, paano mo gustong mag-react ang friend sa pagtanggi mo?

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A note

Missing one plan does not mean you want to stop being invited.

Hindi ibig sabihin na ayaw mo nang yayain kapag hindi ka nakasama minsan.

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The questions

23 girls night questions

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Snacks out

8 questions

Opinions, habits and the things your friends tease you about.

  1. What food do you and a friend disagree about?

    Sa anong pagkain magkaiba ang opinyon ninyo ng friend mo?

    Back of the card

    No need to settle this food debate. You can both keep your favorites.

    Hindi kailangang matapos ang pagtatalo sa pagkain. Puwedeng pareho pa rin ninyong piliin ang gusto ninyo.

  2. What food is too messy for you to eat while chatting with friends?

    Anong pagkain ang mahirap kainin nang maayos habang nakikipagkuwentuhan sa friends?

    Back of the card

    This meal may need a pause button for the conversation.

    Baka kailangan munang i-pause ang kuwentuhan habang kinakain ito.

  3. Tell us a food combo you like that people might question.

    I-share yung food combo na gusto mo pero baka kuwestiyunin ng iba.

    Back of the card

    Questionable does not always mean wrong. Some pairings just need one brave person to admit they work.

    Hindi porket questionable, mali na agad. Minsan kailangan lang ng isang brave person na umaming masarap siya.

  4. Complete the line: I'm chill, but please don't ___.

    Kumpletuhin: Chill naman ako, pero please wag ___.

    Back of the card

    Tiny pet peeves are usually harmless, but they still deserve their moment. Everyone has a small line somewhere.

    Harmless lang ang tiny pet peeves, pero deserve din nila ng moment. Lahat tayo may small line somewhere.

  5. Confess one harmless habit you know is very you.

    I-confess yung harmless habit na very you talaga.

    Back of the card

    Harmless habits become part of your signature. They may be small, but people who know you probably notice.

    Yung harmless habits, nagiging signature mo rin. Maliit lang, pero napapansin yan ng mga nakakakilala sa'yo.

  6. Describe a funny photo of yourself that you would happily show your friends.

    Ikuwento ang isang funny photo mo na okay lang sa'yong ipakita sa friends.

    Back of the card

    No need to show it. What caption would fit the photo?

    Hindi kailangang ipakita. Anong caption ang babagay sa photo?

  7. What line do your friends often hear you say?

    Anong linya ang madalas marinig ng friends mo sa'yo?

    Back of the card

    Imagine your usual line printed on a shirt.

    Isipin na naka-print sa shirt ang madalas mong sabihin.

  8. What harmless habit of a friend have you come to enjoy?

    Anong habit ng friend ang mas nagugustuhan mo habang tumatagal?

    Back of the card

    Was it something you liked immediately or grew to like?

    Nagustuhan mo ba agad o nasanay ka muna bago mo nagustuhan?

The friend stories

7 questions

How you met, what you’d still like to do, what they don’t know yet.

  1. Share the origin of an inside joke that is okay to explain.

    Ikuwento ang simula ng inside joke na okay lang ipaliwanag.

    Back of the card

    Tell only the part you have permission to share. The rest can stay an inside joke.

    Sabihin lang ang bahaging okay ibahagi. Puwedeng sa inyo na lang ang natitirang biro.

  2. How did your first impression of a friend change once you got to know them?

    Anong first impression mo sa isang friend ang nagbago nang makilala mo sila?

    Back of the card

    You can finish: “I thought they were..., then I noticed...”

    Puwedeng ituloy: “Akala ko..., tapos napansin ko...”

  3. What meal with a friend became memorable for something besides the food?

    Anong kainan ninyo ng friend ang tumatak dahil sa nangyari, hindi lang dahil sa pagkain?

    Back of the card

    If this meal's story had a title, what would it be?

    Kung may pamagat ang kuwento ng kainan na ito, ano iyon?

  4. Name a new interest a friend might be surprised you enjoy.

    Magbanggit ng bagong hilig mo na baka ikagulat ng friend.

    Back of the card

    You could open with: “I never thought I'd enjoy this, but...”

    Puwedeng magsimula sa “Hindi ko akalaing magugustuhan ko ito, pero...”

  5. What are you good at that your friends rarely get to see?

    Saan ka magaling na bihirang makita ng friends mo?

    Back of the card

    Imagine a friend seeing you do it for the first time.

    Isipin na unang nakita ng friend kung paano mo ito ginagawa.

  6. What fun activity would you like to introduce your friends to?

    Anong masayang activity ang gusto mong ipakilala sa friends?

    Back of the card

    Imagine their first try going wrong in a harmless, funny way.

    Isipin na may simpleng sablay sa unang pagsubok nila na puwede ninyong pagtawanan.

  7. Choose a nearby place you would like to explore with a friend.

    Pumili ng malapit na lugar na gusto mong puntahan kasama ang friend.

    Back of the card

    Imagine finding an unexpected favorite corner there.

    Isipin na may makikita kang sulok doon na magiging paborito mo.

Later, on the couch

8 questions

Honest ones about friendship and being kinder to yourself.

  1. How would you like a friend to respond when you are too tired to join a plan?

    Kapag sobrang pagod ka para sumama, paano mo gustong mag-react ang friend sa pagtanggi mo?

    Back of the card

    Missing one plan does not mean you want to stop being invited.

    Hindi ibig sabihin na ayaw mo nang yayain kapag hindi ka nakasama minsan.

  2. How would you want a friend to tell you that something you did bothered them?

    Paano mo gustong sabihin ng friend na may ginawa kang hindi nila nagustuhan?

    Back of the card

    You can imagine a simple example. Would you prefer a message or a private talk?

    Puwedeng simpleng halimbawa lang. Mas gusto mo ba ng message o pribadong usapan?

  3. Which ability did a friend notice in you before you noticed it yourself?

    Anong galing mo ang unang napansin ng friend bago mo ito nakita sa sarili mo?

    Back of the card

    You could borrow their words to describe your ability once.

    Puwede mong gamitin ang sinabi nila para ilarawan ang galing mo.

  4. Pick one small kindness you can give yourself today.

    Pumili ng isang maliit na kindness na kaya mong ibigay sa sarili mo today.

    Back of the card

    Kindness does not need to be grand to be real. A small mercy can still change how the day feels.

    Hindi kailangang bongga ang kindness para maging totoo. Kahit maliit na mercy, puwedeng baguhin ang feel ng araw.

  5. Where do you need to be less harsh with yourself?

    Saan mo kailangang bawasan ang pagiging harsh sa sarili mo?

    Back of the card

    Being less harsh does not mean caring less. It can mean choosing a voice that helps you keep moving honestly.

    Hindi ibig sabihin na wala kang pakialam kapag hindi ka harsh. Baka mas helpful lang ang boses na hindi ka dinudurog.

  6. Name one expectation of yourself that feels too heavy lately.

    Magsabi ng isang expectation mo sa sarili mo na parang ang bigat lately.

    Back of the card

    Some expectations sound responsible but leave no room to breathe. You can ask whether they are still fair.

    May expectations na responsible pakinggan pero walang space huminga. Puwede mong tanungin kung fair pa ba sila.

  7. Which part of yourself are you learning to accept?

    Anong part ng sarili mo ang natututuhan mong tanggapin?

    Back of the card

    Acceptance can be slow and ordinary. Sometimes it begins when you stop arguing with one true part of yourself.

    Mabagal at ordinary minsan ang acceptance. Minsan nagsisimula siya kapag hindi mo na inaaway ang isang totoong part mo.

  8. Share something you wish people understood about your life lately.

    Ikuwento ang gusto mong maintindihan ng mga tao tungkol sa buhay mo lately.

    Back of the card

    You can keep this general or pass. Which part of your day would help someone understand your answer?

    Puwedeng general lang o mag-pass. Anong part ng araw mo ang makakatulong para maintindihan nila ang sagot mo?

How to use them

Before you ask

A girls night doesn’t need help getting started. It needs help going somewhere new. Old friends tend to repeat the same updates, the same jokes and the same complaints. A few questions get you to stories you haven’t told each other yet, and to the honest conversation that usually only happens at 1 a.m.

Start silly, with food fights and funny photos, while the snacks are still out. Move to friend stories once everyone is settled: first impressions, inside jokes, things you’re good at that your friends never see. The last set is softer, about friendship and the pressure everyone puts on themselves. Let it happen late, not as an agenda.

It works for a new group too: a book club, coworkers, moms from school. For a group that has never met, start with the questions for someone you just met instead.

Good for

  • Girls night in, with wine or tea
  • Galentine’s and birthday nights
  • Bachelorette weekends that need a quiet hour
  • Book clubs and moms’ nights out
  • Long-overdue catch-ups with old friends

Tips

  1. Put the phone with the questions in the middle and let whoever is holding the snacks draw.
  2. Ask one person a card, then let everyone add their answer.
  3. Keep the honest set for late, when the group is small and settled.
  4. Nobody has to share more than they want; passing is always fine.
  5. Write down the best stories. They make good birthday messages later.

Decks for this

Girls night

Frequently asked questions

What are good questions for girls night?

Start with fun ones about food, habits and funny photos, then ask for friend stories like first impressions and inside jokes. Later, ask softer questions about friendship and how everyone is really doing.

What do girls talk about at a sleepover or girls night?

Food, friends, funny moments and, later in the night, what is really going on in their lives. Good questions just make it easier to get past the usual updates.

How do you make a girls night more meaningful?

Ask one honest question late in the night, when the group is relaxed, like how each person wants friends to react to good news or when they are too tired for plans. Then listen more than you talk.

Are there girls night questions in Tagalog?

Yes. Every question here has an English and a Filipino/Tagalog version, from the Barkada, Just for fun and Reflect decks in the free Kumustahan app.

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