Questions · Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day questions for couples, and for your friends
Questions for a Valentine’s dinner that ask what actually makes the two of you feel close, with a set for Galentine’s night when the table is all friends.
- 23 questions
- EN + TL on every card
- Free in the app
Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
What kind of message from me makes you feel close to me when we are apart?
Anong klaseng message mula sa akin ang nagpaparamdam sa'yo na close pa rin tayo kahit magkalayo?
Distance does not always need constant contact. Sometimes one thoughtful message can help you feel connected again.
Hindi laging constant contact ang kailangan kapag magkalayo. Minsan isang thoughtful na message lang, nakakatulong nang maramdaman ulit ang connection.
The questions
23 Valentine’s Day questions
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
Over Valentine’s dinner
8 questions
Light and warm. Good while you wait for the food.
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What is one moment this week when you felt close to me?
Ano yung moment this week na naramdaman mong malapit tayo?
Back of the card
Closeness often hides inside normal moments: a look, a joke, a ride, a shared meal, or a quiet check-in.
Madalas nasa normal moments ang closeness: tingin, joke, byahe, sabay kumain, o simpleng check-in.
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When do you feel most at ease, or comfortable with me?
Kailan ka pinaka-komportable at magaan kapag kasama mo ako?
Back of the card
Ease is worth noticing too. It shows what already helps the relationship breathe without trying too hard.
Worth pansinin din yung gaan. Ipinapakita nito kung ano na yung tumutulong sa relationship na huminga nang hindi pinipilit.
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When we spend a day together, what moment feels most special between us?
Kapag magkasama tayo sa isang araw, anong moment ang pinaka-special para sa atin?
Back of the card
Couples often build closeness through repeated little moments. Naming them helps you notice and protect what feels good between you.
Madalas nabubuo ang closeness sa paulit-ulit na maliliit na moments. Kapag napangalanan ninyo, mas napapansin at naaalagaan yung maganda sa pagitan ninyo.
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What simple date or hangout would you still enjoy with me?
Anong simpleng date o hangout ang gusto mo pa ring gawin natin?
Back of the card
Simple plans can show what kind of togetherness feels good right now: quiet, playful, slow, active, or just being together.
Sa simple plans, lumalabas kung anong klaseng togetherness ang masarap ngayon: tahimik, playful, chill, active, o basta magkasama.
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What kind of message from me makes you feel close to me when we are apart?
Anong klaseng message mula sa akin ang nagpaparamdam sa'yo na close pa rin tayo kahit magkalayo?
Back of the card
Distance does not always need constant contact. Sometimes one thoughtful message can help you feel connected again.
Hindi laging constant contact ang kailangan kapag magkalayo. Minsan isang thoughtful na message lang, nakakatulong nang maramdaman ulit ang connection.
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After a long day, what small thing helps us reconnect?
After a long day, anong maliit na bagay ang tumutulong sa atin mag-reconnect?
Back of the card
Reconnection does not have to be dramatic. Sometimes it is a snack, a walk, a hug, or ten quiet minutes together.
Hindi kailangang dramatic ang reconnection. Minsan snack, lakad, yakap, o sampung tahimik na minuto lang together.
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After a hard day, what simple comfort from me helps you feel okay again?
After a hard day, anong simpleng comfort mula sa akin ang nakakatulong sa'yo maging okay ulit?
Back of the card
Comfort does not have to fix everything. Sometimes it just needs to remind your partner they are not carrying the day alone.
Hindi kailangang ayusin ng comfort ang lahat. Minsan sapat na ma-remind ang partner mo na hindi niya dala ang araw mag-isa.
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What little thing do I do that makes ordinary days feel better?
Ano sa maliliit kong ginagawa ang nagpapagaan ng ordinary days natin?
Back of the card
Small care counts because it repeats. Naming it helps both of you notice the quiet ways love already shows up.
Mahalaga yung maliit na care kasi paulit-ulit siya. Kapag nasabi, mas napapansin ninyo kung paano lumalabas ang love sa ordinary days.
A little more honest
8 questions
For the walk home or the end of the night.
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When we were still getting to know each other, what moment first made you feel like we could become something real?
Noong kinikilala pa natin ang isa't isa, anong moment yung unang nagparamdam sa'yo na puwede tayong maging something real?
Back of the card
This is not about pressure or measuring the relationship. It is simply remembering when being together first started to feel possible.
Hindi ito tungkol sa pressure o pag-sukat ng relationship. Pag-alala lang ito sa moment na unang naramdaman mong possible pala tayo.
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What was one early moment that made you feel comfortable with me?
Ano yung nangyare lately na naging comfortable ka sa akin?
Back of the card
Early comfort often says a lot about what still matters now: safety, humor, patience, or being easy to talk to.
Maraming sinasabi ang early comfort tungkol sa mahalaga pa rin ngayon: safety, humor, patience, o gaan kausap.
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When we are around other people, what makes you feel seen by me?
Kapag may ibang tao sa paligid, ano yung nagpaparamdam sa'yo na napapansin pa rin kita?
Back of the card
Being seen around others can feel deeply reassuring. It shows your connection still matters, even when people are watching.
Nakakapanatag kapag ramdam mong nakikita ka kahit may ibang tao. Pinapakita nito na mahalaga pa rin ang connection ninyo, kahit may nakakakita.
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What is one way I show love that I might not realize means a lot to you?
Ano yung isang paraan ng pagpapakita ko ng love na baka hindi ko alam na malaking bagay pala sa'yo?
Back of the card
Steady care can become easy to miss. Naming it helps both of you notice the love that is already there.
Kapag steady ang care, minsan hindi na napapansin. Kapag pinangalanan natin, mas nakikita ninyo yung love na nandiyan na.
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When you share a worry with me, what do you usually need first: comfort, understanding, or ideas?
Kapag nag-share ka ng worry sa akin, ano ang usually kailangan mo muna: comfort, understanding, o ideas?
Back of the card
All three can be caring, but the order matters. Asking first can help prevent accidental frustration.
Puwedeng caring lahat ng tatlo, pero mahalaga ang order. Kapag nagtatanong muna, mas naiiwasan ang accidental frustration.
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What kind of touch or closeness feels comforting to you after a stressful day?
Anong klaseng closeness o touch ang comforting sa'yo after a stressful day?
Back of the card
Comfort should feel free, not expected. Naming what helps makes closeness kinder and less guessy.
Dapat free ang comfort, hindi expected. Kapag nasabi kung ano ang helpful, mas kind at hindi hulaan ang closeness.
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What pressure are you carrying that I may not fully see?
Anong pressure ang dinadala mo na baka hindi ko pa lubos nakikita?
Back of the card
Some pressure looks normal from the outside. Understanding it can turn judgment into gentler support.
May pressure na mukhang normal lang sa labas. Kapag naintindihan ito, puwedeng maging mas gentle ang support.
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When we are close physically or emotionally, what helps you feel respected and safe?
Kapag close tayo physically o emotionally, ano yung nagpaparamdam sa'yo na respected at safe ka?
Back of the card
Closeness feels safer when respect is clear. It gives both of you room to be honest about comfort, pace, and space.
Mas safe ang closeness kapag malinaw ang respect. Nagbibigay ito sa inyong dalawa ng room maging honest sa comfort, pace, at space.
For Galentine’s night
7 questions
Questions for friends, about the love that isn’t romantic.
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What simple invitation could brighten a friend's ordinary day?
Anong simpleng yaya ang puwedeng magpasaya sa normal na araw ng friend?
Back of the card
Keep the invitation short enough to send as one message.
Puwedeng maikli lang ang yaya, kasya sa isang message.
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Choose a simple way friends could celebrate your birthday without spending much.
Pumili ng simpleng paraan para i-celebrate ng friends ang birthday mo nang hindi gumagastos nang malaki.
Back of the card
One detail can be just for you: the music, the timing, or something else you love.
Puwedeng may isang detalye para talaga sa'yo: music, oras, o iba pang gusto mo.
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How do you usually show a friend that you care?
Paano mo usually pinapakita sa friend na may care ka?
Back of the card
Care has many shapes: checking in, feeding people, remembering details, giving space, or staying when it gets inconvenient.
Maraming itsura ang care: nangangamusta, nagpapakain, nakakaalala ng details, nagbibigay ng space, o nananatili kahit hassle.
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What preference of yours do close friends remember without asking?
Anong gusto mo ang kabisado na ng close friends mo?
Back of the card
Imagine they had to choose it for you today. Would they still get it right?
Kung pipili sila para sa'yo ngayon, tama pa kaya ang pipiliin nila?
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Choose a short message you could send a friend you have not talked to lately.
Kung hindi mo nakakausap lately ang isang friend, anong maikling message ang ipapadala mo?
Back of the card
The first message does not need to contain the whole catch-up.
Hindi kailangang nasa unang message ang buong kumustahan.
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How would you like friends to react when you share good news?
Paano mo gustong mag-react ang friends kapag may good news ka?
Back of the card
A loud cheer or a quiet “I'm happy for you” — which fits this news?
Malakas na cheer o tahimik na “Masaya ako para sa'yo” — alin ang bagay sa balitang ito?
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Which simple hangout with a friend would you happily repeat?
Anong simpleng bonding kasama ang friend ang gusto mong ulitin?
Back of the card
Same place, same activity, different weather. Would you still choose it?
Parehong lugar at gagawin, pero iba ang panahon. Pipiliin mo pa rin ba ito?
How to use them
Before you ask
Valentine’s Day puts a lot of pressure on one dinner. The restaurant is loud, the menu is fixed, and the conversation drifts to work. The questions here are small on purpose: a moment this week when you felt close, a greeting that makes you feel welcome, a kind of comfort that helps after a hard day. Small questions get real answers.
Start with the light set while you wait for your food. The more honest ones are better somewhere quieter, on the walk home or on the couch afterwards. They ask how each of you likes to be cared for, which is the useful kind of romance: you’ll both know something new by the end of the night.
Valentine’s isn’t only for couples. The last set is for Galentine’s, or any night with friends, about the friendships that hold you up. For more couple questions, see date night questions and anniversary questions.
Good for
Tips
- Take turns asking. Each person answers the card the other one reads.
- Pick three or four cards, not a whole deck. It’s a dinner, not an interview.
- Save the honest set for a quiet place, away from the table next to yours.
- Answer in specifics; “that time you did the dishes when I was sick” beats “you’re thoughtful”.
- Either of you can pass a card. There’s no wrong answer on Valentine’s.
Valentine’s Day
Frequently asked questions
What are good Valentine’s Day questions for couples?
Questions about the small, specific things that make each of you feel close: a moment this week, a habit that feels like care, the kind of comfort that helps after a long day. They are easy to answer and tell your partner something useful.
What do you talk about on Valentine’s Day?
Talk about the two of you, but keep it light at first: a simple date you would still enjoy, a greeting you love, an early moment that made you comfortable. Save deeper questions for later in the evening.
What questions can friends ask on Galentine’s Day?
Questions about friendship: how you like friends to react to good news, a cheap way to celebrate each other, a short message you could send someone you miss. They turn a girls’ night into a thank-you to each other.
Are these Valentine’s questions available in Tagalog?
Yes. Every question has an English and a Filipino/Tagalog version. They come from the Couples and Barkada decks in the free Kumustahan app.
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