Questions · Questions about love
Questions about love, in every shape it comes in
Questions about love for couples, close friends or your own journal. Where you first learned it, how it looks between friends, what it needs with a partner, and what it asks of you.
- 17 questions
- EN + TL on every card
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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
Tell us about a food that reminds you of someone taking care of you.
Ikuwento yung pagkain na nagpapaalala sa'yo ng alaga ng isang tao.
Food can carry care without needing big words. Sometimes the simple act of feeding someone well becomes a memory by itself.
Kayang magdala ng care ang pagkain kahit walang malaking salita. Minsan yung simpleng pag-alaga sa pagkain, nagiging memory na.
The questions
17 questions about love
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
Where you first learned it
3 questions
Food, patience and the habits of home.
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Tell us about a food that reminds you of someone taking care of you.
Ikuwento yung pagkain na nagpapaalala sa'yo ng alaga ng isang tao.
Back of the card
Food can carry care without needing big words. Sometimes the simple act of feeding someone well becomes a memory by itself.
Kayang magdala ng care ang pagkain kahit walang malaking salita. Minsan yung simpleng pag-alaga sa pagkain, nagiging memory na.
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What useful skill did someone patiently teach you?
Anong kasanayan ang matiyagang itinuro sa'yo ng isang tao?
Back of the card
Imagine you are teaching the skill now. What would you show a beginner first?
Isipin na ikaw naman ang nagtuturo nito. Ano ang una mong ipapakita sa baguhan?
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As you got older, which habit at home started to make more sense to you?
Habang tumatanda ka, anong habit sa bahay ninyo ang mas nagme-make sense na sa'yo ngayon?
Back of the card
Getting older can change the way you see home. A habit may look different once you know more of the story.
Habang tumatanda, nag-iiba rin minsan ang tingin natin sa bahay. May habit na mas naiintindihan kapag alam mo na ang kuwento.
Love between friends
5 questions
Often the steadiest kind.
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How would you like friends to react when you share good news?
Paano mo gustong mag-react ang friends kapag may good news ka?
Back of the card
A loud cheer or a quiet “I'm happy for you” — which fits this news?
Malakas na cheer o tahimik na “Masaya ako para sa'yo” — alin ang bagay sa balitang ito?
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What makes sharing a quiet moment with a friend comfortable for you?
Ano ang nagpapakomportable sa'yo kapag tahimik lang kayo ng friend?
Back of the card
The silence can stay silent. You do not need to fill it for this answer.
Puwedeng manatiling tahimik. Hindi kailangang punuin ng usapan para sa sagot na ito.
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Who is a friend you can sit quietly with without it feeling awkward?
Sino yung friend na kaya mong samahan nang tahimik without it feeling awkward?
Back of the card
Comfortable quiet is its own kind of closeness. It means the friendship does not always need talking, joking, or trying hard.
May closeness din sa tahimik na hindi awkward. Ibig sabihin, hindi laging kailangang magsalita, magpatawa, o mag-effort nang todo.
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If you and a friend talk less often, what would you want to ask them?
Kung bihira na kayong mag-usap ng friend, ano ang gusto mong itanong sa kanila?
Back of the card
Would you ask now or wait for a quieter time to talk?
Itatanong mo ba ngayon o hihintayin mong mas tahimik ang oras ng usapan?
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How do you usually show a friend that you care?
Paano mo usually pinapakita sa friend na may care ka?
Back of the card
Care has many shapes: checking in, feeding people, remembering details, giving space, or staying when it gets inconvenient.
Maraming itsura ang care: nangangamusta, nagpapakain, nakakaalala ng details, nagbibigay ng space, o nananatili kahit hassle.
Love with a partner
4 questions
Apologies, safety and coming back after a hard moment.
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What kind of apology from me has felt sincere to you before?
Anong klaseng sorry mula sa akin ang naramdaman mong sincere noon?
Back of the card
A real apology often has a shape: ownership, care, and a different response over time.
Madalas may shape ang real apology: pag-own, care, at ibang response over time.
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When you go quiet, what usually helps you feel safe enough to come back?
Kapag tumatahimik ka, ano ang karaniwang tumutulong para safe kang bumalik sa usapan?
Back of the card
Quiet does not always mean rejection. Sometimes it means the person needs a safer way back into connection.
Hindi laging rejection ang tahimik. Minsan kailangan lang ng mas safe na paraan pabalik sa connection.
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When we are close physically or emotionally, what helps you feel respected and safe?
Kapag close tayo physically o emotionally, ano yung nagpaparamdam sa'yo na respected at safe ka?
Back of the card
Closeness feels safer when respect is clear. It gives both of you room to be honest about comfort, pace, and space.
Mas safe ang closeness kapag malinaw ang respect. Nagbibigay ito sa inyong dalawa ng room maging honest sa comfort, pace, at space.
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During tension, what do I do that helps keep things from getting worse?
Kapag may tension, ano yung ginagawa ko na nakakatulong para hindi lumala ang usapan?
Back of the card
In conflict, small helpful moves matter. They can slow things down before the conversation turns into hurting each other.
Sa conflict, mahalaga ang small helpful moves. Pinapabagal nila ang usapan bago ito mauwi sa saktan.
What love asks of you
5 questions
Including how you love yourself.
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Name something you want to be known for by people close to you.
Magsabi ng isang bagay na gusto mong maalala sa'yo ng mga taong close sa'yo.
Back of the card
The way you want to be known can reveal what you value. It can also guide one small choice today.
Yung gusto mong maalala nila sa'yo, may pinapakitang value. Puwede rin siyang gumabay sa isang maliit na choice today.
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Where do you need to be less harsh with yourself?
Saan mo kailangang bawasan ang pagiging harsh sa sarili mo?
Back of the card
Being less harsh does not mean caring less. It can mean choosing a voice that helps you keep moving honestly.
Hindi ibig sabihin na wala kang pakialam kapag hindi ka harsh. Baka mas helpful lang ang boses na hindi ka dinudurog.
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Pick one feeling you have today. What would you say to a friend who felt that too?
Pumili ng isang feeling mo today. Ano ang sasabihin mo sa friend na ganun din ang nararamdaman?
Back of the card
Sometimes your gentlest wisdom shows up first for someone else. It may be allowed to come back to you too.
Minsan mas mabilis lumabas ang lambing natin para sa iba. Baka puwede ring bumalik sa'yo yung same na wisdom.
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What is a recent act of kindness that caught you by surprise?
Anong magandang ginawa sa'yo lately ang hindi mo inaasahan?
Back of the card
Keep names private if you like. Picture the instant you realized what they had done for you.
Puwedeng itago ang mga pangalan. Balikan ang sandaling naisip mo kung ano ang ginawa nila para sa'yo.
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What difficult situation are you proud of handling?
Anong mahirap na sitwasyon ang proud kang naharap mo?
Back of the card
You can pass or keep the situation private. What did handling it help you notice about your own abilities?
Puwedeng mag-pass o itago ang sitwasyon. Ano ang napansin mong kaya mo pala matapos mong harapin iyon?
How to use them
Before you ask
The most honest questions about love ask where it actually showed up: a food that reminds you of someone taking care of you, a friend you can sit with in silence, the kind of apology that has felt sincere. Love is easier to talk about in examples than in definitions.
Most lists of love questions are only about romance. But how someone loves a partner is shaped by how they were loved at home and how they love their friends, so this page goes wider. It works for couples who want to understand each other’s background, for friends having a late talk, or for a quiet evening with a journal.
Start with where you learned love, because those answers are tender and usually happy. The partner questions are best for couples who already feel safe with each other. End with what love asks of you, including how gently you treat yourself.
Good for
Tips
- Ask for a specific person or moment, not an opinion about love.
- If an answer touches grief or family pain, slow down and just listen.
- Use the friend questions with your partner too: friendship is part of a good relationship.
- Journal the last group alone first if saying it out loud feels like too much.
- Thank the person for every story. Love questions are generous to answer.
Decks for this
Questions about love
Frequently asked questions
What are good questions about love?
Questions that ask for examples: a food that reminds you of being cared for, a friend you can be quiet with, an apology that felt sincere, how you speak to yourself when you fall short. Concrete stories reveal more than definitions.
Are questions about love only for couples?
No. Love questions work between friends, in families and for self-reflection. Only one group here is specifically for partners.
What is a deep question about love to ask your partner?
Ask what kind of apology has felt sincere to them, or what helps them feel safe enough to come back when they go quiet. Ask on a calm day and share your own answer too.
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