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Romantic questions that feel like you, not a greeting card

Romantic questions to ask your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. Soft ones for a slow morning, a few about how it started, and some about the small, daily ways love actually shows up.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

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What is one memory with me that still gives you a good feeling?

Ano yung memory natin na hanggang ngayon good feeling pa rin para sa'yo?

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A note

Good memories are not only for nostalgia. They remind you what kind of connection is worth repeating.

Hindi lang pang-nostalgia ang good memories. Pinapaalala nila kung anong klaseng connection ang worth ulitin.

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The questions

18 romantic questions to ask

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

For a slow morning

4 questions

Coffee in bed, nowhere to be. Easy and dreamy.

  1. Pick one view for a quiet morning: a beach sunrise or city lights before dawn.

    Sa tahimik na umaga, alin ang gusto mong tanawin: pagsikat ng araw sa beach o city lights bago sumikat ang araw?

    Back of the card

    Picture the view. Which detail would you want to remember?

    Isipin ang tanawin. Anong detalye ang gusto mong maalala?

  2. Pick your ideal weather: a warm rainy afternoon or a cool sunny morning.

    Pumili ng gusto mong panahon: maulan pero mainit na hapon o maaraw pero malamig na umaga.

    Back of the card

    Choose a sound to go with your weather.

    Pumili ng tunog na bagay sa pinili mong panahon.

  3. Which button would you rather have: pause a busy hour or replay a favorite hour?

    Kung may time button, alin ang pipiliin mo: i-pause ang isang abalang oras o ulitin ang paborito mong oras?

    Back of the card

    Your button needs a label. What would you write on it?

    Kailangan ng label ang button mo. Ano ang isusulat mo rito?

  4. Describe your favorite quiet moment at home in one sentence.

    I-describe in one sentence yung favorite mong tahimik na moment sa bahay.

    Back of the card

    Quiet at home can be its own kind of treat. Sometimes the best part is that nothing needs to happen.

    Yung tahimik sa bahay, treat din minsan. Minsan best part na yung walang kailangang mangyari.

How it started

5 questions

Retell your story from both sides.

  1. When we were still getting to know each other, what moment first made you feel like we could become something real?

    Noong kinikilala pa natin ang isa't isa, anong moment yung unang nagparamdam sa'yo na puwede tayong maging something real?

    Back of the card

    This is not about pressure or measuring the relationship. It is simply remembering when being together first started to feel possible.

    Hindi ito tungkol sa pressure o pag-sukat ng relationship. Pag-alala lang ito sa moment na unang naramdaman mong possible pala tayo.

  2. What was one early moment that made you feel comfortable with me?

    Ano yung nangyare lately na naging comfortable ka sa akin?

    Back of the card

    Early comfort often says a lot about what still matters now: safety, humor, patience, or being easy to talk to.

    Maraming sinasabi ang early comfort tungkol sa mahalaga pa rin ngayon: safety, humor, patience, o gaan kausap.

  3. What is one memory with me that still gives you a good feeling?

    Ano yung memory natin na hanggang ngayon good feeling pa rin para sa'yo?

    Back of the card

    Good memories are not only for nostalgia. They remind you what kind of connection is worth repeating.

    Hindi lang pang-nostalgia ang good memories. Pinapaalala nila kung anong klaseng connection ang worth ulitin.

  4. What day from the past would you like to watch?

    Anong araw sa nakaraan ang gusto mong mapanood?

    Back of the card

    Pause on one scene from that day. Which detail would you want to look at longer?

    Huminto muna sa isang eksena ng araw na iyon. Anong detalye ang gusto mong tingnan nang mas matagal?

  5. When was the last time a meal became a good memory?

    Kailan huling naging magandang memory yung isang meal?

    Back of the card

    A good meal memory is rarely only about food. It can be the timing, the people, or the feeling around the table.

    Hindi lang pagkain ang laman ng good meal memory. Pwedeng timing, kasama, o yung feeling sa paligid ng table.

What love looks like on a Tuesday

5 questions

The everyday kind, which is the kind that lasts.

  1. What little thing do I do that makes ordinary days feel better?

    Ano sa maliliit kong ginagawa ang nagpapagaan ng ordinary days natin?

    Back of the card

    Small care counts because it repeats. Naming it helps both of you notice the quiet ways love already shows up.

    Mahalaga yung maliit na care kasi paulit-ulit siya. Kapag nasabi, mas napapansin ninyo kung paano lumalabas ang love sa ordinary days.

  2. What small thing I do on a normal day makes you feel chosen?

    Anong maliit na ginagawa ko sa ordinary day ang nagpaparamdam sa'yo na pinipili kita?

    Back of the card

    Feeling chosen does not always come from big promises. Often, it comes from steady attention in ordinary moments.

    Hindi laging big promises ang nagpaparamdam na pinipili ka. Madalas, galing ito sa steady na attention sa ordinary moments.

  3. What kind of message from me makes you feel close to me when we are apart?

    Anong klaseng message mula sa akin ang nagpaparamdam sa'yo na close pa rin tayo kahit magkalayo?

    Back of the card

    Distance does not always need constant contact. Sometimes one thoughtful message can help you feel connected again.

    Hindi laging constant contact ang kailangan kapag magkalayo. Minsan isang thoughtful na message lang, nakakatulong nang maramdaman ulit ang connection.

  4. What is one moment this week when you felt close to me?

    Ano yung moment this week na naramdaman mong malapit tayo?

    Back of the card

    Closeness often hides inside normal moments: a look, a joke, a ride, a shared meal, or a quiet check-in.

    Madalas nasa normal moments ang closeness: tingin, joke, byahe, sabay kumain, o simpleng check-in.

  5. What is one little promise we keep well?

    Ano yung maliit na promise na maayos nating natutupad?

    Back of the card

    Trust grows through small kept promises. Seeing them clearly can make reliability feel less invisible.

    Lumalaki ang trust sa maliliit na promises na natutupad. Kapag nakita ang mga ito, hindi na invisible ang reliability.

Someday, together

4 questions

Daydreams, not five-year plans.

  1. You receive one free round-trip ticket. Where are you going first?

    May libre kang round-trip ticket. Saan ka pupunta?

    Back of the card

    Choose one thing you would want to do before flying home.

    Pumili ng isang gusto mong gawin bago bumiyahe pauwi.

  2. You wake up on a peaceful island with food and shelter ready. What do you do first?

    Nagising ka sa tahimik na isla na may pagkain at matutuluyan na. Ano ang una mong gagawin?

    Back of the card

    Imagine you find a path across the island. Would you follow it or stay where you are?

    May nakita kang daan sa isla. Susundan mo ba ito o mananatili ka muna sa kinaroroonan mo?

  3. For one afternoon, would you explore a peaceful village, a future city, or a jungle with a guide?

    Saan mo gustong magpalipas ng hapon: tahimik na village, siyudad sa future, o gubat na may guide?

    Back of the card

    Bring home an imaginary souvenir from your visit. What is it?

    Mag-uwi ng souvenir mula sa pagbisitang iniisip mo. Ano iyon?

  4. Finish this sentence: “In this next season, I hope I get to experience...”

    Tapusin mo yung sentence: “Sa next season, sana ma-experience ko...”

    Back of the card

    This sentence can stay small or open wide. Either way, it gives your hope a place to begin.

    Puwedeng maliit lang o biglang lumawak yung sentence. Either way, may starting point yung hope mo.

How to use them

Before you ask

Romantic questions are the ones that make your partner feel noticed: what you do that makes an ordinary day better, the moment they first thought this could be real, the morning view they would pick if they could. Romance is mostly attention, and a good question is attention in a sentence.

Grand romantic questions tend to fall flat. Asked over a candlelit dinner, “what does love mean to you?” makes people freeze. The small versions work better because they ask about something that already happened between you, so there is a real memory to reach for instead of a speech to compose.

Pick a slow moment: a lazy weekend morning, a long dinner, a drive with nowhere to be. Start with the dreamy ones, retell how you met from both points of view, and save the everyday-love questions for when you are both relaxed. More couples cards live on the Couples Edition page.

Good for

  • Anniversaries and monthsaries
  • A weekend morning in bed
  • Valentine’s Day dinner
  • Love notes and letters
  • Long-distance calls

Tips

  1. Answer first now and then, especially the how-it-started ones. Hearing your side helps them find theirs.
  2. Ask for the specific moment, not the general feeling.
  3. Write down one answer and bring it back months later. That’s romantic.
  4. Skip the phone. Romantic questions over a screen feel like homework.
  5. Two or three questions is plenty for one night.

Decks for this

Romantic questions

Frequently asked questions

What are some romantic questions to ask your partner?

Ask about the moment it first felt real, the small thing you do that makes their day better, the message that makes them feel close when you are apart, or a trip you would take together. Specific memories beat big definitions.

How do you make a conversation more romantic?

Slow down, put the phones away and ask about the two of you instead of the week’s logistics. Questions about shared memories and small daily gestures bring the warmth in without forcing it.

What is the difference between romantic and deep questions?

Romantic questions are about affection and the good parts of your story. Deep questions reach into fears, pressure and hard moments. Start romantic; go deep on a calmer night.

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