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Blind date questions for when a friend set you up
Questions for a blind date, when you know almost nothing except who introduced you. Start with the mutual friend, use a few low-stakes starters, find common ground, and keep two in reserve in case there’s a spark.
- 16 questions
- EN + TL on every card
- Free in the app
Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
Tell us about a place that left a memory or feeling you still carry.
Ikuwento yung lugar na may iniwang memory o feeling na dala mo pa rin.
Some places stay with us quietly. You may not notice it right away, but later you realize you carried something from there.
May mga lugar na tahimik lang ang iniiwan sa atin. Hindi mo agad napapansin, pero may dala ka pala mula roon.
The questions
16 questions for a blind date
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
The friend who set you up
4 questions
Your one guaranteed topic. Use it.
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Name a place that reminds you of a funny story with friends.
Magbanggit ng lugar na nagpapaalala ng funny story kasama ang friends.
Back of the card
That place gets a new name just for this story. What would it be?
Kung papangalanan mo ang lugar ayon sa kuwentong ito, ano ang itatawag mo?
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Name a topic your family or friends can discuss forever.
Sabihin yung topic na kayang pag-usapan forever ng family o friends mo.
Back of the card
Every group has a topic that refuses to end. It keeps coming back because everyone has one more detail to add.
May topic talaga na ayaw matapos. Paulit-ulit bumabalik kasi laging may dagdag na kwento ang bawat isa.
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In a group hangout, which role do you usually fall into: planner, joker, listener, snack person, or something else?
Sa group hangout, anong role ang usually napupunta sa'yo: planner, joker, listener, snack person, o iba pa?
Back of the card
Group roles can be funny because they appear before anyone assigns them. Somehow every hangout finds its planner, joker, listener, or snack person.
Minsan lumalabas yung role bago pa may mag-assign. Sa bawat hangout, may planner, joker, listener, o snack person talaga.
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What funny experience made you late to meet a friend?
Anong nakakatawang nangyari kaya ka na-late sa pagkikita ninyo ng friend?
Back of the card
Retell the delay as a very dramatic excuse, if you like.
Kung gusto mo, ikuwento ang pagka-late na parang sobrang dramatic na palusot.
Low-stakes starters
6 questions
For the first ten minutes, while you both settle in.
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When you enter a new place, what’s one small thing you notice right away?
Kapag nasa bagong lugar ka, ano yung isang maliit na bagay na una mong napapansin?
Back of the card
What you notice first can hint at what makes a place feel interesting, calm, or welcoming to you.
Minsan clue yung una mong napapansin kung ano ang nakaka-curious, nakakapagpakalma, o nagpapagaan ng pakiramdam mo.
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For a good hangout, what matters most: tasty food, a comfy place, or good conversation?
Sa bonding, ano ang pinakamahalaga: masarap na pagkain, komportableng lugar, o masayang kuwentuhan?
Back of the card
Imagine a hangout with your top choice and nothing fancy. Where would it happen?
Isipin ang simpleng bonding na mayroon ng pinili mo. Saan ito mangyayari?
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Would you rather always arrive twenty minutes early or exactly on time?
Mas gusto mo bang laging dumating nang twenty minutes early o laging sakto sa oras?
Back of the card
Finish if you like: "While everyone else is getting ready, I..."
Kung gusto mo, ituloy: "Habang naghahanda pa ang iba, ako..."
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When the conversation goes quiet, how do you usually react?
Kapag tumahimik yung usapan, paano ka usually nagre-react?
Back of the card
Quiet moments reveal different instincts. Some people fill the space, some enjoy it, and some suddenly inspect their drink.
May kanya-kanyang instinct kapag tumahimik. May nagfi-fill ng space, may okay lang, may biglang titingin sa drink.
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Share a funny public moment when something embarrassing happened, but you tried to stay normal.
Mag-share ng funny public moment na may embarrassing na nangyari, pero sinubukan mong umaktong normal.
Back of the card
The public poker face deserves credit. Sometimes looking calm is just excellent acting with a normal facial expression.
May credit dapat ang public poker face. Minsan mukhang calm ka lang, pero acting na pala yun.
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Choose your default reaction when something embarrassing happens.
Piliin yung default reaction mo kapag may nakakahiya na nangyari.
Back of the card
Embarrassing moments reveal our automatic settings. Laugh, freeze, explain, escape: every reaction has its own logic.
Lumalabas yung automatic settings natin kapag nakakahiya. Tawa, freeze, explain, takas: may logic lahat yan.
Finding common ground
4 questions
Music, childhood, the people you eat with.
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For one month, you can have music or movies, but not both. Which do you keep?
Kung isa lang ang puwede mong ma-enjoy sa loob ng isang buwan, music o movies ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
Name the first song or movie you would return to when the month ends.
Anong kanta o movie ang una mong babalikan pagkatapos ng buwan?
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Which song takes you back to a particular time with friends?
Anong kanta ang nagpapaalala sa'yo ng isang panahon ninyo ng friends mo?
Back of the card
Picture where everyone was when the song came on.
Isipin kung nasaan ang lahat noong tumugtog ang kanta.
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Back when you were a kid, what game or activity could keep you busy for hours?
Nung bata ka, anong laro o activity ang kaya mong pagkaabalahan nang ilang oras?
Back of the card
Childhood focus has its own sweetness. It remembers a time when getting lost in play was enough.
May sariling saya yung focus nung bata tayo. Naalala nito yung panahon na sapat na ang maglaro nang maglaro.
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Who do you enjoy eating with, even if the food is simple?
Sino yung masarap kasamang kumain kahit simple lang ang pagkain?
Back of the card
The company can change the meal. Some people make even ordinary food feel warmer.
Iba ang pagkain kapag okay ang kasama. May mga taong kahit simpleng meal, gumagaan yung moment.
If there’s a spark
2 questions
A little more personal, for later in the evening.
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Tell us about a place that left a memory or feeling you still carry.
Ikuwento yung lugar na may iniwang memory o feeling na dala mo pa rin.
Back of the card
Some places stay with us quietly. You may not notice it right away, but later you realize you carried something from there.
May mga lugar na tahimik lang ang iniiwan sa atin. Hindi mo agad napapansin, pero may dala ka pala mula roon.
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Who knows what you like, and what do they usually get right for you?
Sino yung alam ang gusto mo, at ano yung madalas nilang natatama para sa'yo?
Back of the card
Being known can feel ordinary like that. Someone remembers your usual, your no-thanks, or the thing you always reach for.
Minsan ganun kasimple yung feeling na kilala ka. May nakakaalala ng usual mo, ayaw mo, o lagi mong pinipili.
How to use them
Before you ask
On a blind date, the easiest first topic is the friend who set you up: how you each know them, the funniest story you have about them, what they are like in a group. It gives you something in common from minute one and saves you from opening with a résumé.
Blind dates are awkward in a specific way: you can’t check their profile, you don’t know their sense of humor, and you both suspect the friend oversold you. Questions that are easy to answer and slightly funny take that pressure off. Owning your nerves helps too; a question about how they react when something embarrassing happens works surprisingly well here.
Once you are talking easily, look for common ground in music, childhood games and the people you like to eat with. Keep the two warmer questions for later in the evening, only if it feels right. If it doesn’t, you still had a pleasant dinner and a story for your friend.
Good for
Tips
- Arrive a few minutes early so you are not flustered when they walk in.
- Say the obvious: “So, how do you know Sam?” is a perfectly good opener.
- Don’t gossip about the mutual friend; affectionate stories only.
- Pick a place with a time limit, like coffee or drinks, in case it isn’t a match.
- Tell your friend how it went, kindly, whatever happened.
Decks for this
Blind date
Frequently asked questions
What should you talk about on a blind date?
Start with the friend who introduced you, then move to easy, light questions about music, food and childhood. Look for common ground before going more personal.
How do you break the ice on a blind date?
Acknowledge it is a blind date and ask how they know your mutual friend. A light, specific question, like whether they are an early or on-time person, also breaks the tension fast.
What if there is no chemistry on a blind date?
Keep it friendly and short, enjoy the conversation for what it is, and thank them at the end. Not every set-up clicks, and that is fine.
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