Questions · Speed dating
Speed dating questions that make you memorable
Questions for speed dating events, where you get a few minutes per person. A quick, fun opener, a way past “so what do you do”, something they’ll remember you by, and a closer.
- 16 questions
- EN + TL on every card
- Free in the app
Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
When you were younger, what got you excited quickly?
Nung bata ka, ano yung madaling maka-excite sa'yo?
Early excitement can be fun to remember. It can also show what kind of wonder came naturally to you.
Nakakatuwang balikan yung madaling ika-excite mo dati. Minsan pinapakita rin nito kung anong klaseng wonder ang natural sa'yo.
The questions
16 speed dating questions
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
The first minute
5 questions
Silly enough to relax both of you right away.
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If you could spend a day as any animal, which would you choose?
Kung puwede kang maging hayop nang isang araw, anong hayop ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
Imagine your first meal as that animal. Where would you look for it?
Isipin ang unang pagkain mo bilang hayop na iyon. Saan mo ito hahanapin?
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Choose a fake job title that fits your personality.
Pumili ng fake job title na bagay sa personality mo.
Back of the card
A fake title can be more accurate than a real one. It gives a playful name to the thing people already notice.
Minsan mas accurate pa ang fake title kaysa real one. Binibigyan lang niya ng playful name yung napapansin na ng tao.
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If you could change the color of anything, what would you change?
Kung kaya mong palitan ang kulay ng kahit ano, ano ang papalitan mo?
Back of the card
What color would you choose for it?
Anong kulay ang pipiliin mo para rito?
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Make one harmless rule that the whole world follows for a day.
Kung may isang rule na susundin ng buong mundo nang isang araw, ano iyon? Dapat walang masasaktan.
Back of the card
Imagine everyone following it at once. What small scene would be funny or helpful to watch?
Isipin na sabay-sabay itong ginagawa ng lahat. Ano ang nakakatawa o helpful na makikita mo?
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Group photo starts. What is your automatic move?
May group photo na. Ano ang automatic move mo?
Back of the card
Group photos bring out instant instincts. Some people arrange everyone, some disappear behind others, and some are ready before the camera is.
May automatic instinct kapag group photo na. May taga-ayos, may nagtatago sa likod, may ready bago pa yung camera.
Past the job question
5 questions
What they do when no one is paying them to.
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If your afternoon suddenly became free, how would you spend it?
Kung biglang naging free ang hapon mo, paano mo ito gagamitin?
Back of the card
Free time shows what you reach for when nobody is asking for anything. It can be rest, fun, errands, or nothing at all.
Makikita sa free time kung saan ka kusang pupunta kapag walang kailangan sa'yo. Puwedeng pahinga, saya, errands, o wala lang.
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What are you good at that your friends rarely get to see?
Saan ka magaling na bihirang makita ng friends mo?
Back of the card
Imagine a friend seeing you do it for the first time.
Isipin na unang nakita ng friend kung paano mo ito ginagawa.
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When you were younger, what got you excited quickly?
Nung bata ka, ano yung madaling maka-excite sa'yo?
Back of the card
Early excitement can be fun to remember. It can also show what kind of wonder came naturally to you.
Nakakatuwang balikan yung madaling ika-excite mo dati. Minsan pinapakita rin nito kung anong klaseng wonder ang natural sa'yo.
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What have you done recently that you are pleased about?
Anong nagawa mo kamakailan ang ikinatuwa mo?
Back of the card
If your win had a tiny trophy, what would be written on it?
Kung may maliit na trophy ang nagawa mo, ano ang nakasulat dito?
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What made you laugh when you least expected it?
Ano ang nagpatawa sa'yo noong hindi mo inaasahan?
Back of the card
Give the scene a caption if you like.
Kung gusto mo, bigyan ng caption ang eksenang iyon.
The one they’ll remember you by
4 questions
At the end of the night, they’ll recall the person who asked this.
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Give yourself a funny award for something you are surprisingly good at.
Bigyan mo sarili mo ng funny award para sa bagay na surprisingly magaling ka.
Back of the card
A funny award makes small talents official. Some skills may not belong on a resume, but they still deserve a ceremony.
Ginagawang official ng funny award ang small talents. Hindi man pang-resume, deserve pa rin ng ceremony.
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If someone funded one helpful idea for your neighborhood, what would you build or improve?
Kung may sasagot sa gastos, ano ang gagawin o aayusin mo para makatulong sa lugar ninyo?
Back of the card
Picture its first day in use. What would you be happy to see people doing?
Isipin ang unang araw na ginagamit na ito. Ano ang ikatutuwa mong ginagawa ng mga tao?
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In an adventure story, would you be the guide, cook, builder, storyteller, or someone else?
Sa adventure story, anong role ang pipiliin mo: guide, cook, builder, storyteller, o iba pa?
Back of the card
Your character has one familiar object in their bag. What is it?
May isang pamilyar na gamit sa bag ng tauhan mo. Ano iyon?
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Imagine your future self laughing at one thing you're doing now. What is it?
Imagine yung future self mo natatawa sa isang ginagawa mo ngayon. Ano yun?
Back of the card
Future you may have a softer sense of humor about today. Some things feel bigger before time makes them funny.
Baka mas soft na tumawa ang future self mo sa today. May bagay na malaki ngayon, pero funny later.
Before the bell
2 questions
A warm last question if you want to see them again.
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Which small plan are you looking forward to?
Anong small plan ang nilu-look forward mo?
Back of the card
Looking forward to something simple can help a week feel kinder. Small plans are allowed to matter.
Nakakagaan ng week kapag may simpleng nilu-look forward. Puwedeng maging mahalaga kahit maliit na plan lang.
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Name one small hope that helps you keep going.
Magbanggit ng isang maliit na hope na tumutulong sa'yo magpatuloy.
Back of the card
A small hope can still carry real strength. It may be quiet, but it is not nothing.
May totoong lakas din ang maliit na hope. Tahimik man siya, hindi ibig sabihin wala siyang bigat.
How to use them
Before you ask
Speed dating questions should be quick to answer and impossible to answer boringly: which animal they’d be for a day, what fake job title fits their personality, what funny award they deserve. In a room where everyone asks “so what do you do?”, a playful question is how people remember you an hour and twelve rounds later.
A speed dating round is usually three to eight minutes, which goes faster than anyone expects. You won’t learn someone’s life story, and you don’t need to. You are looking for one thing: whether talking to them is easy and fun. Questions with a bit of play in them show that in seconds.
Have one question from each group ready. Open with something silly, ask what they do for fun instead of for work, then the memorable one. If the bell is close and you liked them, end on what they are looking forward to; it gives you something to mention if you match.
Good for
Tips
- Memorize three questions. Reading off your phone eats your time.
- Ask the same memorable question to everyone; it makes comparing easier later.
- Jot a one-word note after each round so you remember who was who.
- Let them ask questions too. Talking the whole round is a common mistake.
- Hosting? Print a card per table and swap them every few rounds.
Decks for this
Speed dating
Frequently asked questions
What are good questions to ask at speed dating?
Quick, playful questions that show personality: which animal they would be for a day, what they do with a free afternoon, what funny award they deserve. Skip the job and hometown questions everyone else asks.
How many questions should you ask in a speed dating round?
Two or three is plenty for a short round. One quick opener, one about how they spend their time, and one memorable question, with time for them to ask you.
Can I use these to host a speed dating event?
Yes. Put a few questions on each table, or use the Icebreakers deck in the Kumustahan app so pairs can draw a card when they get stuck.
Bring a better question to the table.
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