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Father-daughter questions for a dad-daughter date

Questions for a dad and his daughter, whether she’s seven or thirty-seven. Easy ones for a dad-daughter date, what he taught her and what she taught him, being in her corner, and a few bigger talks.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

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What useful skill did someone patiently teach you?

Anong kasanayan ang matiyagang itinuro sa'yo ng isang tao?

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A note

Imagine you are teaching the skill now. What would you show a beginner first?

Isipin na ikaw naman ang nagtuturo nito. Ano ang una mong ipapakita sa baguhan?

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The questions

16 father-daughter questions

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Dad-daughter date

4 questions

Easy picks for breakfast out or a long walk.

  1. You receive one free round-trip ticket. Where are you going first?

    May libre kang round-trip ticket. Saan ka pupunta?

    Back of the card

    Choose one thing you would want to do before flying home.

    Pumili ng isang gusto mong gawin bago bumiyahe pauwi.

  2. What would you like to watch with a friend?

    Ano ang gusto mong panoorin kasama ang friend?

    Back of the card

    Talking through the whole thing or saving comments until the end?

    Kuwentuhan habang nanonood o comments pagkatapos na lang?

  3. If your afternoon suddenly became free, how would you spend it?

    Kung biglang naging free ang hapon mo, paano mo ito gagamitin?

    Back of the card

    Free time shows what you reach for when nobody is asking for anything. It can be rest, fun, errands, or nothing at all.

    Makikita sa free time kung saan ka kusang pupunta kapag walang kailangan sa'yo. Puwedeng pahinga, saya, errands, o wala lang.

  4. Which everyday sound reminds you of home right away?

    Anong everyday sound ang nagpapaalala agad sa'yo ng home?

    Back of the card

    Home is not always a place first. Sometimes it is a sound you recognize before you even think about it.

    Hindi laging lugar agad ang home. Minsan sound siya na kilala mo na bago mo pa isipin.

What he taught, what she learned

5 questions

Skills, firsts and the little adulting wins.

  1. What useful skill did someone patiently teach you?

    Anong kasanayan ang matiyagang itinuro sa'yo ng isang tao?

    Back of the card

    Imagine you are teaching the skill now. What would you show a beginner first?

    Isipin na ikaw naman ang nagtuturo nito. Ano ang una mong ipapakita sa baguhan?

  2. Who taught you a work or school habit you still use, and what was it?

    Sino yung nagturo sa'yo ng work o school habit na gamit mo pa rin, at ano yun?

    Back of the card

    Some habits come from people who modeled them first. Their way of doing things can quietly become part of yours.

    May habits na galing sa taong nauna lang magpakita. Tahimik mong nadadala yung style nila hanggang maging part na rin ng style mo.

  3. Which small adulting skill are you proud you can do now?

    Anong small adulting skill ang proud kang kaya mo na ngayon?

    Back of the card

    Adulting skills can be funny and real at the same time. Paying, fixing, calling, cooking, asking: they all count.

    Nakakatawa pero real ang adulting skills. Magbayad, mag-ayos, tumawag, magluto, magtanong: counted lahat yan.

  4. Share the first time you did something on your own and felt more capable afterward.

    Ikuwento ang unang beses mong gumawa ng isang bagay mag-isa at naisip mong, "Kaya ko pala."

    Back of the card

    Finish if you like: "That was when I realized I could..."

    Kung gusto mo, ituloy: "Doon ko naisip na kaya ko palang..."

  5. What goal would you like to reach and celebrate with friends?

    Anong goal ang gusto mong maabot at i-celebrate kasama ang friends?

    Back of the card

    Pick the celebration's mood: quiet, silly, or a little of both.

    Piliin ang gusto mong celebration: tahimik, makulit, o kaunti ng pareho.

Being in her corner

4 questions

How she likes good news met and small wins celebrated.

  1. When you share good news with me, what first response helps you feel celebrated?

    Kapag nag-share ka sa akin ng good news, anong unang response ang nagpaparamdam sa'yo na sine-celebrate kita?

    Back of the card

    Celebrating well is a kind of care. It shows your partner that their joy has space with you.

    Care din ang marunong mag-celebrate. Pinaparamdam nito sa partner mo na may space sa'yo ang joy niya.

  2. What little thing has gone well for us lately that we should celebrate more?

    Anong maliit na bagay ang naging okay sa atin lately na dapat nating i-celebrate pa?

    Back of the card

    Good moments grow when they are noticed. Celebrating what went well keeps the relationship from feeling like only tasks and problems.

    Mas lumalakas yung magagandang moments kapag napapansin. Kapag sine-celebrate natin yung naging okay, hindi puro tasks at problema ang relationship.

  3. What is one practical thing I do that makes life easier for you?

    Ano yung practical na ginagawa ko na nagpapadali ng buhay mo?

    Back of the card

    Practical love is easy to overlook because it blends into the day. Naming it makes invisible effort visible.

    Madaling hindi mapansin ang practical love kasi sumasama lang siya sa araw. Kapag nasabi, nakikita ang effort.

  4. Tell us about a time someone was fair to you in a way you still remember.

    Ikuwento yung time na naging fair sa'yo ang isang tao, at natatandaan mo pa rin.

    Back of the card

    Fairness can be memorable because it gives people room to breathe. It says, I see the whole situation, not only the mistake.

    Natatandaan ang fairness kasi nakakahinga ang tao. Parang sinasabi nito, nakikita ko yung buong situation, hindi lang yung mali.

Bigger talks

3 questions

For older daughters, when there’s time and quiet.

  1. If a friend asked what matters to you lately, what is the first thing you would mention?

    Kung tanungin ka ng friend kung ano ang importante sa'yo lately, ano yung una mong sasabihin?

    Back of the card

    You do not have to list everything. Starting with one honest thing is already enough for a real answer.

    Hindi mo kailangang ilista lahat. Sapat na magsimula sa isang honest na bagay para maging totoong sagot.

  2. Which fear gets smaller when you talk about it?

    Anong takot ang gumagaan kapag naikukwento mo?

    Back of the card

    Some fears grow in silence and shrink in safe air. Talking can help you see their true size.

    May takot na lumalaki kapag tahimik lang. Kapag naikuwento sa safe na lugar, mas nakikita mo ang totoong laki niya.

  3. When and where do you feel safe enough to be yourself?

    Kailan at saan mo nararamdaman na safe kang maging ikaw?

    Back of the card

    A place like that matters. It lets people meet the version of you that is not busy performing.

    Mahalaga ang ganung lugar. Doon nakikilala ng tao yung ikaw na hindi abala sa pagpapanggap.

How to use them

Before you ask

Father-daughter questions are a dad’s way of staying in his daughter’s world as it gets bigger than his. Early on that’s easy; she wants to tell you everything. By the teen years the default conversation shrinks to rides and schedules unless you deliberately make room for more.

A regular dad-daughter date helps: breakfast out once a month, a walk after dinner, a drive with no errand. Start with easy picks, like where she’d go with one free ticket. Then ask about skills, firsts and what she’s proud she can do now. Daughters often remember the skill their dad patiently taught them long after he’s forgotten it.

“Being in her corner” is the group to take seriously. How she wants good news to be met tells you exactly how to react next time she calls with some.

Good for

  • Monthly dad-daughter dates
  • Father’s Day
  • Driving lessons
  • Daddy-daughter dances
  • Grown daughters visiting home

Tips

  1. Put it on the calendar; dad dates happen when they’re scheduled.
  2. Let her choose the place and the first question.
  3. Ask how she wants good news met, then meet it that way.
  4. Keep the bigger talks for when she brings up something real.
  5. Tell her a skill you learned from her, too.

Decks for this

Father and daughter

Frequently asked questions

What are good father-daughter questions?

Start with easy picks like where she’d go with a free ticket, then ask what skill someone patiently taught her, how she likes good news to be met, and for older daughters, what matters to her lately.

What do you talk about on a daddy-daughter date?

Her interests, a place she’d like to go, something she’s proud of, and one question about how you can cheer her on. Let her steer.

Do these work for grown daughters and their dads?

Yes. With adult daughters, the questions about firsts and fairness often bring out memories neither of you has said aloud.

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