Questions · Family meeting
Family meeting questions that give kids a real voice
Questions for a weekly family meeting, in the order of a good agenda: open with appreciations, sort out the house stuff, plan the week, and fix what felt off. Twenty minutes, everyone heard.
- 18 questions
- EN + TL on every card
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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
What is a recent act of kindness that caught you by surprise?
Anong magandang ginawa sa'yo lately ang hindi mo inaasahan?
Keep names private if you like. Picture the instant you realized what they had done for you.
Puwedeng itago ang mga pangalan. Balikan ang sandaling naisip mo kung ano ang ginawa nila para sa'yo.
The questions
18 family meeting questions
In agenda order. Pick one or two from each group per meeting, not all of them.
Open with appreciations
4 questions
Start on something good so nobody walks in defensive.
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Which compliment from a friend made you smile recently?
Anong compliment mula sa friend ang nagpangiti sa'yo lately?
Back of the card
Did you believe it right away, or did it sink in later?
Naniwala ka ba agad, o saka mo lang ito naramdaman?
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What is a recent act of kindness that caught you by surprise?
Anong magandang ginawa sa'yo lately ang hindi mo inaasahan?
Back of the card
Keep names private if you like. Picture the instant you realized what they had done for you.
Puwedeng itago ang mga pangalan. Balikan ang sandaling naisip mo kung ano ang ginawa nila para sa'yo.
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Share one simple kindness someone showed you recently.
Mag-share ng simple kindness na pinakita sa'yo recently.
Back of the card
Small kindness can become a quiet picture of God's care. It does not need to be big to stay with you.
Yung simple kindness, puwedeng maging maliit na picture ng care ni Lord. Hindi kailangang grand para maalala mo.
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What have you done recently that you are pleased about?
Anong nagawa mo kamakailan ang ikinatuwa mo?
Back of the card
If your win had a tiny trophy, what would be written on it?
Kung may maliit na trophy ang nagawa mo, ano ang nakasulat dito?
The house stuff
5 questions
Chores, mess and who notices what. Fairness without blame.
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At home, who usually notices the chores, mess, or little things first?
Sa bahay ninyo, sino yung madalas unang nakakapansin ng chores, kalat, o maliliit na kailangan gawin?
Back of the card
Every home has someone who notices first. That kind of attention can be quiet, but it keeps many things moving.
Sa bawat bahay, may taong unang nakakapansin. Tahimik minsan yung ganung attention, pero marami siyang napapaandar.
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What is one chore, errand, or task that feels lighter when we do it as a team?
Anong chore, errand, o task ang gumagaan kapag team tayo?
Back of the card
Teamwork is not only for big seasons. It also shows up in the small work of keeping life moving.
Hindi lang pang-big season ang teamwork. Lumalabas din ito sa maliliit na gawain para gumalaw ang buhay.
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What small thing do you naturally take care of during a hangout?
Anong maliit na bagay ang natural mong inaasikaso kapag may hangout?
Back of the card
Some small things find the same person every time. It can be funny how a group quietly learns who handles what.
May maliliit na bagay na laging may hinahanap na tao. Funny rin kung paano tahimik na natututo ang group kung sino ang umaasikaso ng ano.
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Give one household chore the power to finish itself. Which chore disappears?
Kung may isang gawaing-bahay na kusang matatapos, alin ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
The chore is already done. Finish: "Now I can..."
Tapos na ang gawaing iyon. Ituloy: "Ngayon, puwede na akong..."
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As you got older, which habit at home started to make more sense to you?
Habang tumatanda ka, anong habit sa bahay ninyo ang mas nagme-make sense na sa'yo ngayon?
Back of the card
Getting older can change the way you see home. A habit may look different once you know more of the story.
Habang tumatanda, nag-iiba rin minsan ang tingin natin sa bahay. May habit na mas naiintindihan kapag alam mo na ang kuwento.
Plans for the week
5 questions
What’s coming, what to make time for, what can drop.
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What would you like to make more time for this month?
Ano ang gusto mong bigyan ng mas maraming oras ngayong buwan?
Back of the card
Imagine an extra afternoon opens up. Would you spend it all on this or leave some time free?
Isipin na nabakante ang isang hapon. Ilalaan mo ba lahat ng oras dito o magtitira ka pa ng libreng oras?
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For a free weekend, would you prefer a full plan or a surprise?
Sa weekend na wala kang kailangang gawin, kumpletong plano o surprise ang pipiliin mo?
Back of the card
Choose a detail that must stay on your weekend plan, even if everything else is a surprise.
Pumili ng detalye na dapat kasama sa weekend mo kahit surprise ang lahat ng iba pa.
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Which simple friendship tradition would you like to keep even when everyone gets busier?
Anong nakasanayan ninyong gawin ng friends mo ang gusto mong ituloy kahit maging mas busy kayo?
Back of the card
What would be the easiest version to keep on a busy week?
Ano ang pinakamadaling bersiyon nito kapag busy ang linggo?
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What might you need to say no to, pause, or limit so your week feels lighter?
Ano yung kailangan mong hihindian, i-pause, o limitahan para mas gumaan ang week mo?
Back of the card
A boundary is not always a wall. Sometimes it is a small line that helps you stay present and honest.
Hindi laging pader ang boundary. Minsan maliit na line lang siya para mas present at honest ka.
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When plans change, how do you decide what to keep, drop, or adjust?
Kapag nagbago ang plans, paano mo dini-decide kung ano ang itutuloy, bibitawan, o ia-adjust?
Back of the card
Changed plans show priorities quickly. Sometimes the real answer is comfort, people, responsibility, peace, or simply energy.
Kapag nagbago ang plans, mabilis lumabas ang priorities. Minsan comfort, tao, responsibility, peace, o energy lang talaga.
Fixing what felt off
4 questions
Repairs, permission and apologies. Keep it short and kind.
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What quick question could clear up a confusing message from a friend?
Kapag malabo ang message ng friend, paano mo tatanungin kung ano ang ibig nilang sabihin?
Back of the card
“Did you mean...?” can leave the answer open. You can use an invented message.
Puwedeng magsimula sa “Ang ibig mo bang sabihin...?” Gawa-gawang message lang kung gusto mo.
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What small action helps us reconnect after a misunderstanding?
Anong maliit na action ang tumutulong sa atin mag-reconnect after a misunderstanding?
Back of the card
Reconnecting does not erase what happened. It helps both of you return to the conversation with a little more care.
Hindi binubura ng pag-reconnect ang nangyari. Tinutulungan lang kayong bumalik sa usapan nang may mas care.
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What should friends ask your permission to do?
Ano ang dapat munang ipagpaalam sa'yo ng friends?
Back of the card
Your permission can depend on the situation; closeness does not make every answer a yes.
Puwedeng depende sa sitwasyon ang pahintulot mo; kahit close kayo, hindi laging oo ang sagot.
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What makes an apology from a friend feel sincere to you?
Paano mo nalalaman na talagang sorry ang friend sa nangyari?
Back of the card
Would it still feel sincere if they used different words?
Ramdam mo pa rin bang talagang sorry sila kung iba ang sinabi nila?
How to use them
Before you ask
A family meeting is a short, regular time when everyone in the house, kids included, gets a say in how home runs. It works when it’s predictable and kind. It fails when it turns into a parent’s list of complaints with an audience.
The fix is structure. Always open with appreciations, so the first thing said is good. Talk about chores as a team problem (who notices the mess first, which task feels lighter together) instead of naming who didn’t do theirs. Plan the week. Only then, briefly, fix what felt off.
Keep it to twenty minutes, same day every week. Sunday evening works for many families: the weekend is winding down and the week ahead is still fixable.
Good for
Tips
- Always open with appreciations, even on a bad week.
- Rotate the chair so it isn’t always a parent running it.
- Write decisions on one sheet on the fridge; review it next week.
- Talk about problems, not people: “the dishes pile up,” not “you never…”
- End with something fun so kids look forward to the next one.
Decks for this
A 20-minute family meeting agenda
Rotate who chairs the meeting, including kids from about seven. The chair reads the questions and keeps time.
- Appreciations (5 min): one question from the first group; everyone answers about someone at the table.
- The house (5 min): one question about chores or space, and one decision you’ll try this week.
- The week (5 min): calendar, rides, one thing to make time for, one thing to say no to.
- Repairs (3 min): anything that felt off, said gently. No pile-ons.
- Finish (2 min): a treat, a game or picking Friday’s dinner.
Family meeting
Frequently asked questions
What questions should we ask at a family meeting?
Open with an appreciation, like a kindness someone showed you this week. Then ask which chore feels lighter as a team, what you want to make time for this week, and what small action helps after a misunderstanding.
How long should a family meeting be?
About twenty minutes with kids. Short and regular beats long and occasional.
At what age can kids join a family meeting?
From about four they can answer an appreciation question; from about seven they can take turns running the meeting.
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