Questions · Men’s group
Questions for a men’s group that go past sports and work
Discussion questions for a men’s small group or men’s Bible study: openers that get the room going, pressure and rest, faith that has to turn into action, and harder ones about pride, control and repair.
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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
Name one pressure you may have gotten used to carrying lately.
Magbanggit ng isang pressure na baka nasanay ka nang dalhin lately.
Some pressure becomes familiar, but familiar does not always mean light. You can notice it without needing to solve it tonight.
May pressure na nasasanayan, pero hindi ibig sabihin magaan na siya. Puwede mo munang mapansin bago ayusin.
The questions
17 questions for a men’s group
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
To get the room going
4 questions
Practical, a little proud, easy to answer.
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Which small adulting skill are you proud you can do now?
Anong small adulting skill ang proud kang kaya mo na ngayon?
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Adulting skills can be funny and real at the same time. Paying, fixing, calling, cooking, asking: they all count.
Nakakatawa pero real ang adulting skills. Magbayad, mag-ayos, tumawag, magluto, magtanong: counted lahat yan.
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After finishing something hard, how do you usually celebrate or recover?
Kapag natapos mo ang mahirap na bagay, paano ka usually nagse-celebrate o nagre-recover?
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Finishing something hard deserves a landing. Some people mark it loudly; some just need a quiet exhale.
Kapag may natapos kang mahirap, kailangan din ng landing. May nagse-celebrate nang malakas; may tahimik na hinga lang.
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What comic-book hero name would fit something you are good at?
Anong comic-book hero name ang bagay sa talento mo?
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What problem would your hero solve?
Anong problema ang kayang ayusin ng hero mo?
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Who is someone you respect for the way they live, even in small things?
Sino yung taong nirerespeto mo sa paraan ng buhay niya, kahit sa maliliit na bagay?
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Respect often begins with small, steady things. A simple habit can show a lot about how someone moves through life.
Madalas nagsisimula ang respeto sa maliliit pero consistent na bagay. May simpleng habit na maraming sinasabi tungkol sa isang tao.
Work, pressure and rest
5 questions
Name the weight most men carry quietly.
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Name one pressure you may have gotten used to carrying lately.
Magbanggit ng isang pressure na baka nasanay ka nang dalhin lately.
Back of the card
Some pressure becomes familiar, but familiar does not always mean light. You can notice it without needing to solve it tonight.
May pressure na nasasanayan, pero hindi ibig sabihin magaan na siya. Puwede mo munang mapansin bago ayusin.
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Finish this: To avoid burning out, I need to stop saying yes to...
Tapusin ito: Para hindi ako maubos, kailangan kong tumigil sa pag-yes sa...
Back of the card
Saying no is not always lack of faith. Sometimes it helps you keep following God with honesty, peace, and enough strength.
Hindi laging kulang sa faith ang pag-no. Minsan yun pa ang tumutulong para makasunod ka kay Lord nang may peace at sapat na lakas.
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What makes it easier for you to really rest?
Ano yung nakakatulong sa'yo na talagang makapagpahinga?
Back of the card
Rest can start with small things: less pressure, a quiet place, honest prayer, or someone who lets you slow down.
Minsan nagsisimula ang pahinga sa simple lang: bawas pressure, tahimik na lugar, honest prayer, o taong hinahayaan kang huminga muna.
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When pressure builds, what part of you feels like you have to handle everything alone?
Kapag tumataas ang pressure, anong part mo ang feeling kailangan mong saluhin lahat mag-isa?
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The proving part may have been trying to protect you. It can be thanked without letting it run the whole week.
Baka sinusubukan ka lang protektahan ng part na yan. Puwede mo siyang pasalamatan nang hindi siya ang pinapahawak sa buong week.
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Name one habit that pulls your attention away from God.
Magbanggit ng habit na madalas kumuha ng attention mo away from Lord.
Back of the card
This is not about shame. It is about noticing what quietly shapes your attention and asking God for help there.
Hindi ito para mahiya ka. Para lang mapansin kung ano yung tahimik na humihila ng attention mo, tapos dalhin kay Lord.
Faith that turns into action
4 questions
Courage, apologies and the right thing nobody sees.
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Tell us about one right thing that takes courage for you to do, even if no one notices.
Ikuwento yung isang tamang bagay na kailangan mong lakasan ng loob gawin, kahit walang makapansin.
Back of the card
Some obedience is unseen. God is not careless with quiet courage, even when no one else notices.
May obedience na hindi napapansin ng iba. Hindi maliit kay Lord ang tahimik na courage, kahit walang ibang nakakita.
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Share a moment when you knew you needed to say sorry.
Mag-share ng moment na alam mong kailangan mong mag-sorry.
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Repair can feel holy and awkward at the same time. A sincere sorry can be one way we follow Jesus in real relationships.
Puwedeng holy at awkward ang pag-aayos ng relationship. Yung sincere na sorry, puwedeng maging isang way ng pagsunod kay Jesus sa real relationships.
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Tell us about a time someone in your community corrected you gently.
Ikuwento yung time na may taong gentle kang ni-correct sa community mo.
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Gentle correction can be a form of love. It helps when truth comes with patience, humility, and care.
Puwedeng expression ng love ang gentle correction. Mas nakakatulong kapag may truth, pero may patience, humility, at care.
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Complete this: I need God's grace today because...
Tapusin ito: Kailangan ko ang grace ni Lord today kasi...
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Needing grace is not a failure. It is one of the most honest ways to come to God.
Hindi failure ang kailanganin ang grace. Minsan yun pa nga ang pinaka-honest na paraan ng paglapit kay Lord.
Honest, when the group is ready
4 questions
Only in a room where what’s said stays there.
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Think of one area where pride makes it hard for you to ask for help.
Mag-isip ng isang area kung saan dahil sa pride, ang hirap humingi ng help.
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Pride often sounds like, "I can handle this alone." Grace can lead us toward a more honest kind of strength.
Madalas ganito ang tunog ng pride: "Kaya ko 'to mag-isa." Pero grace can lead us sa mas honest na kind of strength.
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Name one part of your life you keep trying to control instead of trusting God with it.
Magbanggit ng isang part ng buhay mo na lagi mong sinusubukang i-control imbes na i-trust kay Lord.
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Surrender can be a repeated conversation. God is patient with the places where we are still learning to trust Him.
Puwedeng paulit-ulit ang surrender. Patient si Lord sa mga part ng buhay natin na natututo pa lang tayong i-trust sa Kanya.
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Think of one apology or relationship repair you have been avoiding.
Mag-isip ng isang apology o pag-aayos ng relationship na iniiwasan mo.
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Avoiding repair can feel easier for a while. God can give wisdom for the timing, words, and humility it needs.
Mas madali minsan iwasan ang pag-aayos. Pero puwede kang humingi kay Lord ng wisdom sa timing, words, at humility na kailangan.
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Name one kind of help you are learning to accept from others.
Magbanggit ng isang klase ng help na natututo kang tanggapin mula sa iba.
Back of the card
Receiving help can feel vulnerable. It can also remind us that God often cares for us through other people.
Nakaka-vulnerable tumanggap ng help. Minsan pinapaalala nito na ginagamit din ni Lord ang ibang tao para alagaan tayo.
How to use them
Before you ask
Men’s groups often take months to get past small talk, and some never do. The reason usually isn’t that men don’t want to talk; it’s that “how are you really doing?” is too big to answer in front of five guys you see once a week. Smaller, more concrete questions get there faster.
Start practical: an adulting skill someone is proud of, how they celebrate or recover after finishing something hard. Then talk about pressure. Many men carry a sense that they have to handle everything alone, and a question that names it directly often gets the most honest answer of the night. The faith questions are about action: the right thing that takes courage when nobody notices, the moment someone knew he needed to apologize.
Keep the last group for a group that has built trust. Pride, control and the repair someone keeps avoiding are real topics, but only in a room where everyone knows what’s said stays there.
Good for
Tips
- Meet over food or an activity; side-by-side talk is easier for many men than face-to-face.
- The leader answers first and keeps it real, not polished.
- One hard question per meeting is plenty.
- Repeat the confidentiality rule every meeting, not just the first.
- Follow up with a text during the week, not only at the next meeting.
Decks for this
Men’s group
Frequently asked questions
What questions should you ask in a men’s group?
Start with practical openers like a skill someone is proud of, then ask about pressure and rest, how faith turns into action, and, once trust is built, harder ones about pride, control and relationships that need repair.
How do you get men to open up in a small group?
Use concrete questions instead of asking how they really are, have the leader answer honestly first, meet over food or an activity, and keep it confidential.
What do you talk about at a men’s Bible study?
The passage, then what it asks of you this week: a right thing that takes courage, a habit that pulls attention from God, a weight you’ve been carrying alone. End by praying for one another.
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