Questions · Guys’ night
Guys’ night questions that go past “good, busy, you?”
Questions for a night with the guys: around the poker table, the grill or the couch with the game on mute. Easy openers, the stories everyone already half knows, and a couple of real check-ins asked the way friends actually ask.
- 17 questions
- EN + TL on every card
- Free in the app
Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
Describe a moment that stressed you out before but makes you laugh now.
I-describe yung moment na stressful dati pero natatawa ka na ngayon.
Some stressful moments lose their sharp edges with time. Once the panic fades, the story sometimes becomes surprisingly funny.
May stressful moments na lumalambot habang tumatagal. Kapag wala na yung panic, minsan funny story na siya.
The questions
17 guys’ night questions
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
Opening round
6 questions
Quick ones while the cards get dealt or the burgers go on.
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When your brain is tired, what is your go-to order?
Kapag pagod na utak mo, ano yung go-to order mo?
Back of the card
The reliable order deserves respect. It shows up when decisions are too much and hunger is already making a case.
Respect sa reliable order. Lumalabas siya kapag ayaw mo nang mag-decide at gutom na rin ang nagsasalita.
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If money were no problem, how would you spend a Saturday with nothing you had to do?
Kung walang kailangang gawin at hindi problema ang pera, paano mo gagamitin ang isang Sabado?
Back of the card
Picture the end of your Saturday. What would make you wish it were still morning?
Isipin ang katapusan ng Sabado mo. Bakit mo gugustuhing umaga pa lang?
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Pick one comic-book power: fly anywhere or appear instantly in another place.
Pumili ng comic-book power: lumipad kahit saan o makarating agad sa ibang lugar.
Back of the card
You have an afternoon to try your power. Choose your first stop.
May isang hapon ka para subukan ang power mo. Piliin ang unang pupuntahan mo.
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If you could remove one tiny daily inconvenience forever, what would you remove?
Kung kaya mong tanggalin forever ang isang tiny daily inconvenience, ano ang tatanggalin mo?
Back of the card
Tiny inconveniences can be louder than they deserve. Removing one forever would feel like a quiet luxury.
Minsan ang ingay ng tiny inconveniences. Kapag natanggal forever yung isa, quiet luxury na agad.
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Name a new interest a friend might be surprised you enjoy.
Magbanggit ng bagong hilig mo na baka ikagulat ng friend.
Back of the card
You could open with: “I never thought I'd enjoy this, but...”
Puwedeng magsimula sa “Hindi ko akalaing magugustuhan ko ito, pero...”
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Pick one joke style that makes you laugh right away.
Pumili ng joke style na mabilis kang mapatawa.
Back of the card
Humor has shortcuts. The joke that gets you fastest usually knows your exact kind of silly.
May shortcut ang humor. Yung joke na mabilis kang tamaan, alam niya yung exact kind of silly mo.
Stories you only tell your friends
4 questions
The accidental texts, the failed plans, the inside jokes.
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Finish this: I almost panicked when I accidentally sent...
Tapusin ito: Halos nag-panic ako nung accidentally kong na-send...
Back of the card
Wrong sends create instant suspense. The few seconds after realizing it can feel longer than the whole day.
Iba yung kaba ng wrong send. Yung ilang seconds after ma-realize, parang humahaba bigla yung buong araw.
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Share the origin of an inside joke that is okay to explain.
Ikuwento ang simula ng inside joke na okay lang ipaliwanag.
Back of the card
Tell only the part you have permission to share. The rest can stay an inside joke.
Sabihin lang ang bahaging okay ibahagi. Puwedeng sa inyo na lang ang natitirang biro.
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What failed plan with friends turned into a good memory?
Anong pumalpak na plano kasama ang friends ang naging masayang memory?
Back of the card
The failed plan can be the story's best plot twist.
Puwedeng ang pumalpak na plano ang pinakamagandang plot twist sa kuwento.
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Describe a moment that stressed you out before but makes you laugh now.
I-describe yung moment na stressful dati pero natatawa ka na ngayon.
Back of the card
Some stressful moments lose their sharp edges with time. Once the panic fades, the story sometimes becomes surprisingly funny.
May stressful moments na lumalambot habang tumatagal. Kapag wala na yung panic, minsan funny story na siya.
How’s it really going?
5 questions
Check-ins framed as work, stress and asking for help, which is how most guys talk about it.
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After finishing something hard, how do you usually celebrate or recover?
Kapag natapos mo ang mahirap na bagay, paano ka usually nagse-celebrate o nagre-recover?
Back of the card
Finishing something hard deserves a landing. Some people mark it loudly; some just need a quiet exhale.
Kapag may natapos kang mahirap, kailangan din ng landing. May nagse-celebrate nang malakas; may tahimik na hinga lang.
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Which fear has been making decisions for you lately?
Anong takot ang parang nakikialam sa decisions mo lately?
Back of the card
Fear can sound practical when it wants control. Noticing its voice helps you decide with more freedom.
Minsan practical pakinggan ang fear kapag gusto niyang kontrolin lahat. Kapag napansin mo siya, mas may freedom kang pumili.
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Which part of your week do you need to be more honest with yourself about?
Aling part ng week mo ang kailangan mong maging mas honest sa sarili mo?
Back of the card
Honesty does not have to be dramatic. It can start with admitting what is tiring, helping, missing, or changing.
Hindi kailangang dramatic ang honesty. Puwede itong magsimula sa pag-amin kung ano ang nakakapagod, nakakatulong, kulang, o nagbabago.
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What small task would you happily ask a friend to help with?
Sa anong simpleng gawain mo gustong magpatulong sa friend?
Back of the card
Would their help save time, make it more fun, or simply give you company?
Makakatipid ba ng oras ang tulong nila, mas magiging masaya, o magkakaroon ka lang ng kasama?
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What could you say to a quiet friend after a misunderstanding?
Ano ang puwede mong sabihin sa tahimik na friend matapos kayong hindi magkaintindihan?
Back of the card
You can leave them room to answer later.
Puwede mo silang bigyan ng oras bago sumagot.
Keeping the group together
2 questions
Because adult friendships don’t maintain themselves.
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If you and your friends had just one free hour, how would you spend it together?
Kung isang oras lang kayong lahat libre, ano ang gagawin ninyo?
Back of the card
Save a few minutes at the end for one thing you would not want to rush.
Puwede kang maglaan ng ilang minuto sa dulo para sa bagay na ayaw mong madaliin.
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Choose a short message you could send a friend you have not talked to lately.
Kung hindi mo nakakausap lately ang isang friend, anong maikling message ang ipapadala mo?
Back of the card
The first message does not need to contain the whole catch-up.
Hindi kailangang nasa unang message ang buong kumustahan.
How to use them
Before you ask
Guys’ night conversation usually runs on sports, work and jokes, and that’s fine. A few good questions just widen the lane: the story behind an inside joke, the text you almost panicked about sending, how you recover after finishing something hard. They keep it fun while letting people say a little more.
Many men say they don’t have anyone to talk to, then spend a whole evening with close friends without mentioning what’s going on. The trick isn’t a heart-to-heart. It’s a question that sounds practical: what fear has been making decisions lately, which errand you’d actually let a buddy help with. Practical questions get honest answers.
End with the friendship itself. Ask how you’d spend one free hour together, or what message you could send the friend who stopped showing up. Adult friend groups fade quietly unless someone does the asking.
Good for
Tips
- Keep the cards on the table next to the chips; someone always picks one up.
- Ask the check-in questions one-on-one on the drive home if the group is loud.
- Answer first and keep it honest. It gives everyone else permission.
- Don’t make it a therapy session. One real answer per night is plenty.
- Before everyone leaves, put the next guys’ night on the calendar.
Decks for this
Guys’ night
Frequently asked questions
What do guys talk about on a guys’ night?
Usually sports, work and old stories. Good questions add a little depth without changing the vibe: inside-joke origins, accidental texts, what you’d do with a free Saturday, and one practical check-in about stress or help.
How do you get guy friends to open up?
Ask practical, specific questions instead of “how are you feeling?”, do something side by side, and answer honestly yourself first. Most men open up more when it doesn’t feel like a big conversation.
Is there a conversation game for a guys’ night?
Yes. The free Kumustahan app lets you draw a card from the Just for fun or Friends deck and pass the phone around, with an option to keep it light or go deeper.
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