Questions · Dinner date

Dinner date questions, from the menu to the walk back

Questions for a dinner date, whether it’s your third or your three-hundredth. Food talk while you read the menu, stories between courses, something sweeter over dessert, and one for the walk to the car.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

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When you try a place to eat, what makes it feel worth visiting again?

Kapag may tinry kang kainan, ano yung nagpapaisip sa'yo na worth balikan ito?

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It could be taste, comfort, price, people, or memory. Places become favorites for different reasons.

Puwedeng lasa, comfort, presyo, tao, o memory. Iba-iba yung dahilan kung bakit may places tayong binabalikan.

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The questions

17 dinner date questions

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Reading the menu

5 questions

Food opinions, cravings and the order you always fall back on.

  1. If you were too tired to think, what would you order?

    Kapag pagod ka nang mag-isip, ano yung o-orderin mo?

    Back of the card

    The no-thinking order is its own kind of comfort. It is the choice that carries you when your brain is done.

    May comfort din sa order na hindi mo na kailangang isipin. Siya yung choice kapag ubos na utak mo.

  2. What food do you and a friend disagree about?

    Sa anong pagkain magkaiba ang opinyon ninyo ng friend mo?

    Back of the card

    No need to settle this food debate. You can both keep your favorites.

    Hindi kailangang matapos ang pagtatalo sa pagkain. Puwedeng pareho pa rin ninyong piliin ang gusto ninyo.

  3. Pick one snack you would still accept even when you're already full.

    Pick one snack na tatanggapin mo pa rin kahit busog ka na.

    Back of the card

    Some cravings stay charmingly powerful. The snack you still make room for usually knows exactly how to find your soft spot.

    May cravings talaga na malakas pa rin kahit busog. Yung snack na yan, alam kung saan ka mahina.

  4. When you try a place to eat, what makes it feel worth visiting again?

    Kapag may tinry kang kainan, ano yung nagpapaisip sa'yo na worth balikan ito?

    Back of the card

    It could be taste, comfort, price, people, or memory. Places become favorites for different reasons.

    Puwedeng lasa, comfort, presyo, tao, o memory. Iba-iba yung dahilan kung bakit may places tayong binabalikan.

  5. Which would you want free for life: breakfast or dessert?

    Pumili ng libreng pagkain habambuhay: breakfast o dessert.

    Back of the card

    Make your first order. You can choose something familiar or invent a dish.

    Piliin ang unang oorderin mo. Puwedeng paborito mo na o pagkaing iimbentuhin mo.

Between courses

6 questions

Memorable meals, funny moments and the stories people still tell about you.

  1. What meal with a friend became memorable for something besides the food?

    Anong kainan ninyo ng friend ang tumatak dahil sa nangyari, hindi lang dahil sa pagkain?

    Back of the card

    If this meal's story had a title, what would it be?

    Kung may pamagat ang kuwento ng kainan na ito, ano iyon?

  2. Think of someone who makes simple meals more fun. What do they do?

    Isipin yung taong nagpapasaya kahit simpleng kain lang. Ano yung ginagawa niya?

    Back of the card

    A meal does not need to be fancy to feel full of life. Sometimes one person's energy changes the whole mood.

    Hindi kailangang fancy ang kain para maging masaya. Minsan energy lang ng isang tao, nag-iiba na yung mood.

  3. Share a small mistake or awkward moment that feels funny now.

    Mag-share ng small mistake o awkward moment na funny na ngayon.

    Back of the card

    A small fail gets lighter once it becomes a story. Sometimes the best part is realizing everyone survives awkward little moments.

    Gumagaan yung small fail kapag naging kuwento na. Minsan best part yung ma-realize na nakakalusot naman tayo sa awkward moments.

  4. Recall a harmless mistake that became a good story later.

    Anong pagkakamali ang nakakatawa nang balikan ngayon, na wala namang nasaktan?

    Back of the card

    What would the title of this story be?

    Ano ang magiging pamagat ng kuwentong ito?

  5. Tell us the funny memory your friends or family still bring up.

    Ikuwento yung funny memory na binabalikan pa rin ng friends o family mo.

    Back of the card

    Some stories become part of a group's archive. If people still bring it up, it probably earned its place.

    May stories na parte na ng group archive. Kapag binabalikan pa rin, malamang deserve niya yung spot.

  6. Tell us about a food that reminds you of someone taking care of you.

    Ikuwento yung pagkain na nagpapaalala sa'yo ng alaga ng isang tao.

    Back of the card

    Food can carry care without needing big words. Sometimes the simple act of feeding someone well becomes a memory by itself.

    Kayang magdala ng care ang pagkain kahit walang malaking salita. Minsan yung simpleng pag-alaga sa pagkain, nagiging memory na.

Over dessert

4 questions

For couples: a little closer, a little sweeter.

  1. What simple date or hangout would you still enjoy with me?

    Anong simpleng date o hangout ang gusto mo pa ring gawin natin?

    Back of the card

    Simple plans can show what kind of togetherness feels good right now: quiet, playful, slow, active, or just being together.

    Sa simple plans, lumalabas kung anong klaseng togetherness ang masarap ngayon: tahimik, playful, chill, active, o basta magkasama.

  2. What is one way I show love that I might not realize means a lot to you?

    Ano yung isang paraan ng pagpapakita ko ng love na baka hindi ko alam na malaking bagay pala sa'yo?

    Back of the card

    Steady care can become easy to miss. Naming it helps both of you notice the love that is already there.

    Kapag steady ang care, minsan hindi na napapansin. Kapag pinangalanan natin, mas nakikita ninyo yung love na nandiyan na.

  3. What simple thing we do together makes you feel at home with me?

    Anong simpleng ginagawa natin together ang nagpaparamdam sa'yo na at home ka sa akin?

    Back of the card

    Home is not always a place. Sometimes it is a rhythm, a tone, or a person who helps you feel settled.

    Hindi laging lugar ang home. Minsan rhythm, tono, o tao siya na tumutulong sa'yo kumalma at maging settled.

  4. What small thing could make our next date feel more like our kind of date?

    Anong maliit na puwede nating gawin para mas bagay sa atin yung next date natin?

    Back of the card

    A good date does not have to impress anyone else. It just needs to fit the rhythm that feels real for both of you.

    Hindi kailangang magpa-impress sa iba ang magandang date. Mas okay kapag bagay sa totoong rhythm ninyong dalawa.

The walk back

2 questions

Something to look forward to.

  1. What future plan feels exciting and realistic for us right now?

    Anong future plan ang exciting at realistic para sa atin ngayon?

    Back of the card

    Future talk does not have to feel pressuring. Hope can feel steadier when it has a real-life shape.

    Hindi kailangang may pressure ang future talk. Mas steady ang hope kapag may real-life shape siya.

  2. What playful little habit of ours do you hope we keep?

    Ano yung maliit na playful habit natin na sana hindi mawala?

    Back of the card

    Play helps protect a relationship from becoming only serious, busy, or practical with each other.

    Nakakatulong ang play para hindi lang maging seryoso, busy, o practical ang relationship ninyo.

How to use them

Before you ask

A dinner date has a built-in shape, and the questions can follow it: food opinions while you read the menu, stories once the first plates arrive, something closer over dessert. Pacing questions to the meal keeps the conversation from peaking during the appetizer and stalling by the main course.

The common dinner-date problem is the lull after ordering. You have both said what you’re getting, the server leaves, and suddenly the table feels very small. A food question fills that gap naturally, because you are both looking at food. Stories come easier once you are eating and relaxed.

The dessert set is written for people who are already together; on an early date, stay with the first two groups. Leave the phones in your pockets for the whole meal if you can, even for photos of the food.

Good for

  • Restaurant date nights
  • Anniversary and birthday dinners
  • Trying a new restaurant together
  • Long tasting menus
  • Cooking a fancy dinner at home

Tips

  1. Ask the menu questions while you decide; it gives the first minutes a job.
  2. Order something to share. Shared plates start conversations.
  3. Match the question to the course: lighter early, warmer late.
  4. If the restaurant is loud, sit side by side instead of across.
  5. Save the last question for the walk or the drive home.

Decks for this

Dinner date

Frequently asked questions

What do you talk about on a dinner date?

Start with food: cravings, a go-to order, a dish you disagree about. Then share stories about memorable meals and funny moments. With a partner, finish with something about the two of you over dessert.

How do you avoid awkward silence at dinner?

Have a food question ready for the moment after you order, when lulls usually happen. Questions about the meal you’re sharing are easy for anyone to answer.

Can we play these at the table without being rude to the restaurant?

Yes. Pick a few ahead of time, or open the Kumustahan app between courses and draw one card. A phone on the table for one card is very different from scrolling.

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