Questions · Second date

Second date questions for after the basics

Questions for a second date, when you already know their job and hometown and want to know them. Playful picks, real stories, a peek at their normal week and one or two that go a little further.

  • 22 questions
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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

Getting to know№ 04

When you try a place to eat, what makes it feel worth visiting again?

Kapag may tinry kang kainan, ano yung nagpapaisip sa'yo na worth balikan ito?

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It could be taste, comfort, price, people, or memory. Places become favorites for different reasons.

Puwedeng lasa, comfort, presyo, tao, o memory. Iba-iba yung dahilan kung bakit may places tayong binabalikan.

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The questions

22 second date questions

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Daydreams to open with

7 questions

Easy picks that show taste.

  1. You receive one free round-trip ticket. Where are you going first?

    May libre kang round-trip ticket. Saan ka pupunta?

    Back of the card

    Choose one thing you would want to do before flying home.

    Pumili ng isang gusto mong gawin bago bumiyahe pauwi.

  2. What event would you choose if the ticket were free?

    Kung may libre kang ticket sa isang event, ano ang pipiliin mo?

    Back of the card

    Imagine the event is about to begin. What are you most excited to see?

    Magsisimula na ang event. Ano ang pinaka-gusto mong makita?

  3. Invent a new way to travel that does not use wheels.

    Mag-imbento ng bagong paraan ng pagbiyahe na walang gulong.

    Back of the card

    What would passengers call your ride?

    Ano ang itatawag ng mga pasahero sa sasakyan mo?

  4. Pitch one useless invention you would still buy.

    I-pitch ang useless invention na bibilhin mo pa rin.

    Back of the card

    A useless invention can still understand your heart. Sometimes the appeal is not usefulness, just delight.

    May useless invention na gets pa rin ang puso mo. Hindi laging usefulness ang point; minsan delight lang.

  5. Tell us a food combo you like that people might question.

    I-share yung food combo na gusto mo pero baka kuwestiyunin ng iba.

    Back of the card

    Questionable does not always mean wrong. Some pairings just need one brave person to admit they work.

    Hindi porket questionable, mali na agad. Minsan kailangan lang ng isang brave person na umaming masarap siya.

  6. Imagine a place to stay: tiny with a great view or huge but far from everything. Which do you choose?

    Isipin ang titirhan mo: maliit pero maganda ang view o malaki pero malayo sa lahat. Alin ang pipiliin mo?

    Back of the card

    Put one favorite thing in your new place. What belongs there?

    Maglagay ng isang paborito mong bagay sa bagong titirhan mo. Ano iyon?

  7. When you try a place to eat, what makes it feel worth visiting again?

    Kapag may tinry kang kainan, ano yung nagpapaisip sa'yo na worth balikan ito?

    Back of the card

    It could be taste, comfort, price, people, or memory. Places become favorites for different reasons.

    Puwedeng lasa, comfort, presyo, tao, o memory. Iba-iba yung dahilan kung bakit may places tayong binabalikan.

Stories, not stats

6 questions

Mistakes, memories and moments that became good stories.

  1. Tell us about a small childhood memory you still remember clearly.

    Kuwento mo yung maliit na childhood memory na malinaw pa rin sa'yo.

    Back of the card

    The memories that stay are not always the biggest ones. Sometimes one small scene keeps its color for years.

    Hindi laging pinakamalaki ang memories na naiiwan. Minsan isang maliit na scene ang malinaw pa rin kahit ang tagal na.

  2. Share a small mistake or awkward moment that feels funny now.

    Mag-share ng small mistake o awkward moment na funny na ngayon.

    Back of the card

    A small fail gets lighter once it becomes a story. Sometimes the best part is realizing everyone survives awkward little moments.

    Gumagaan yung small fail kapag naging kuwento na. Minsan best part yung ma-realize na nakakalusot naman tayo sa awkward moments.

  3. Share one time your timing was really off and it became funny later.

    Mag-share ng time na sobrang sablay ng timing mo at naging funny later.

    Back of the card

    Bad timing can be annoying in the moment and hilarious later. It has a way of turning itself into comedy.

    Yung bad timing, nakakainis sa moment pero funny later. Parang kusa siyang nagiging comedy pag binalikan.

  4. What funny experience made you late to meet a friend?

    Anong nakakatawang nangyari kaya ka na-late sa pagkikita ninyo ng friend?

    Back of the card

    Retell the delay as a very dramatic excuse, if you like.

    Kung gusto mo, ikuwento ang pagka-late na parang sobrang dramatic na palusot.

  5. When was the last time a meal became a good memory?

    Kailan huling naging magandang memory yung isang meal?

    Back of the card

    A good meal memory is rarely only about food. It can be the timing, the people, or the feeling around the table.

    Hindi lang pagkain ang laman ng good meal memory. Pwedeng timing, kasama, o yung feeling sa paligid ng table.

  6. What made you laugh when you least expected it?

    Ano ang nagpatawa sa'yo noong hindi mo inaasahan?

    Back of the card

    Give the scene a caption if you like.

    Kung gusto mo, bigyan ng caption ang eksenang iyon.

What their days are like

5 questions

Work style, time sinks and quiet talents.

  1. If someone worked or studied with you for one week, what would they notice about your style?

    Kung may makakasama ka sa work o school for one week, ano kaya ang mapapansin nila sa style mo?

    Back of the card

    Your style may show in pace, focus, questions, breaks, or how you handle pressure. People notice more than we think.

    Pwedeng lumabas ang style mo sa pace, focus, tanong, breaks, o paano ka humarap sa pressure. Marami palang napapansin ang tao.

  2. Which kind of task makes you lose track of time?

    Anong klaseng task yung nakakalimutan mong oras kapag ginagawa mo?

    Back of the card

    The tasks that make time move fast can reveal what absorbs you, energizes you, or quietly fits how your mind works.

    Yung tasks na nagpapabilis ng oras pwedeng clue kung ano ang kumukuha ng focus mo, nagpapagana sa'yo, o bagay sa utak mo.

  3. After finishing something hard, how do you usually celebrate or recover?

    Kapag natapos mo ang mahirap na bagay, paano ka usually nagse-celebrate o nagre-recover?

    Back of the card

    Finishing something hard deserves a landing. Some people mark it loudly; some just need a quiet exhale.

    Kapag may natapos kang mahirap, kailangan din ng landing. May nagse-celebrate nang malakas; may tahimik na hinga lang.

  4. What are you good at that your friends rarely get to see?

    Saan ka magaling na bihirang makita ng friends mo?

    Back of the card

    Imagine a friend seeing you do it for the first time.

    Isipin na unang nakita ng friend kung paano mo ito ginagawa.

  5. What is one thing you like that you no longer feel the need to explain?

    Ano yung isang bagay na gusto mo na hindi mo na kailangang i-explain?

    Back of the card

    Some preferences do not need a courtroom defense. They can simply be yours, confidently and without a long speech.

    May preferences na hindi kailangan ng courtroom defense. Sa'yo lang siya, confident, walang mahabang explanation.

A little further

4 questions

For later in the evening, once it feels easy.

  1. What have you done recently that you are pleased about?

    Anong nagawa mo kamakailan ang ikinatuwa mo?

    Back of the card

    If your win had a tiny trophy, what would be written on it?

    Kung may maliit na trophy ang nagawa mo, ano ang nakasulat dito?

  2. Name something you are nervous about that still feels worth trying.

    Magsabi ng isang bagay na kinakabahan ka pero parang worth it pa ring subukan.

    Back of the card

    Nerves and courage often show up together. The fear does not automatically mean the step is wrong.

    Madalas magkasama ang kaba at courage. Hindi porket may takot, mali na agad ang step.

  3. What would you try if failure felt less embarrassing?

    Ano ang susubukan mo kung hindi gaanong nakakahiya ang pumalya?

    Back of the card

    Embarrassment can make the room feel smaller than it is. The thing you would try may still be worth naming.

    Kayang paliitin ng hiya ang mundo mo. Pero yung bagay na susubukan mo, baka worth pa ring pangalanan.

  4. If a friend said you have changed in a good way, what change would you hope they noticed?

    Kung sabihin ng friend mo na nagbago ka in a good way, anong change ang sana napansin nila?

    Back of the card

    The change you hope someone notices may point to what you have been quietly practicing.

    Yung change na sana mapansin nila baka yun yung tahimik mong pinapractice nitong season.

How to use them

Before you ask

The first date covers the résumé: work, family, where you grew up. The second date is where it either becomes a conversation or stays a polite interview. The questions that help are story-shaped. Ask about a mistake that turned into a good story, a meal they still remember, a skill their friends rarely get to see. A story shows you how someone thinks, what makes them laugh and how they treat the people in it.

Open with a daydream question or two; they’re easy and they show taste. Then ask for stories, and let one answer lead to a follow-up instead of rushing to the next card. Bring back something from the first date: “You said you’d started learning to bake. How’s that going?” Remembering is half the charm. Keep the slightly deeper questions for later in the evening, once it feels easy.

None of these assume you’re a couple; they come from decks for anyone you’re getting to know, with Tagalog on every card. If this turns into a third date and a fourth, the Couples Edition is there for later. For now, take turns answering, and remember that anyone can pass a card.

Good for

  • Dinner or coffee on a second date
  • A walk once the first-date nerves are gone
  • Long waits for food or a table
  • Anyone tired of repeating their résumé
  • Video dates

Tips

  1. Bring back one detail from your first date; it shows you were listening.
  2. Ask for a story, not a fact: “what happened” gets more than “what do you do”.
  3. Answer the same question yourself, at about the same length.
  4. Keep heavy topics like exes and money for much later.
  5. End while it’s still fun, with something you want to ask next time.

Decks for this

Second date

Frequently asked questions

What do you talk about on a second date?

Go past the basics into stories and opinions: a harmless mistake that became a funny story, a meal that turned into a memory, where they’d go with a free ticket. Bring back one detail from the first date too.

What are good second date questions?

Questions that invite a story, like a time their timing was badly off, what they’re good at that friends rarely see, or what they’d try if failing felt less embarrassing. They’re easy to answer and hard to answer boringly.

How deep should a second date conversation go?

A little deeper than the first, not all the way. Hopes and small nerves are fine; exes, money and family trouble usually wait until you know each other well.

Is there an app with questions for dates?

Kumustahan is a conversation card app in English, with Tagalog on every card. The Getting to know and Just for fun decks suit early dates, and you can choose a light depth so nothing gets heavy too soon.

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