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Questions to ask your sister, past the old roles

Questions to ask your sister, whether she’s your best friend or someone you mostly text on birthdays. The low-stakes sister stuff, what she sees in you, the old fights that are better now, and where her life is these days.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

Getting to know№ 05

Who knows what you like, and what do they usually get right for you?

Sino yung alam ang gusto mo, at ano yung madalas nilang natatama para sa'yo?

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Being known can feel ordinary like that. Someone remembers your usual, your no-thanks, or the thing you always reach for.

Minsan ganun kasimple yung feeling na kilala ka. May nakakaalala ng usual mo, ayaw mo, o lagi mong pinipili.

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The questions

16 questions to ask your sister

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Sister stuff, low stakes

5 questions

Food fights, overreactions and wrong-sent messages.

  1. What food do you and a friend disagree about?

    Sa anong pagkain magkaiba ang opinyon ninyo ng friend mo?

    Back of the card

    No need to settle this food debate. You can both keep your favorites.

    Hindi kailangang matapos ang pagtatalo sa pagkain. Puwedeng pareho pa rin ninyong piliin ang gusto ninyo.

  2. Tell a funny story about overreacting to a tiny problem.

    Kailan ka napasobra ng reaction sa simpleng problema na natatawanan mo na ngayon?

    Back of the card

    How would you tell it if the tiny problem were the villain in the story?

    Paano mo ito ikukuwento kung ang maliit na problema ang kontrabida sa kuwento?

  3. Tell us a food combo you like that people might question.

    I-share yung food combo na gusto mo pero baka kuwestiyunin ng iba.

    Back of the card

    Questionable does not always mean wrong. Some pairings just need one brave person to admit they work.

    Hindi porket questionable, mali na agad. Minsan kailangan lang ng isang brave person na umaming masarap siya.

  4. Finish this: I almost panicked when I accidentally sent...

    Tapusin ito: Halos nag-panic ako nung accidentally kong na-send...

    Back of the card

    Wrong sends create instant suspense. The few seconds after realizing it can feel longer than the whole day.

    Iba yung kaba ng wrong send. Yung ilang seconds after ma-realize, parang humahaba bigla yung buong araw.

  5. Describe a funny photo of yourself that you would happily show your friends.

    Ikuwento ang isang funny photo mo na okay lang sa'yong ipakita sa friends.

    Back of the card

    No need to show it. What caption would fit the photo?

    Hindi kailangang ipakita. Anong caption ang babagay sa photo?

What she sees in you

4 questions

Sisters notice things nobody else does.

  1. Which compliment from a friend made you smile recently?

    Anong compliment mula sa friend ang nagpangiti sa'yo lately?

    Back of the card

    Did you believe it right away, or did it sink in later?

    Naniwala ka ba agad, o saka mo lang ito naramdaman?

  2. How can friends tell when you are excited about something?

    Paano nahahalata ng friends na excited ka sa isang bagay?

    Back of the card

    Think of the sign you notice in yourself before anyone else does.

    Isipin ang senyales na napapansin mo sa sarili mo bago pa mapansin ng iba.

  3. Who knows what you like, and what do they usually get right for you?

    Sino yung alam ang gusto mo, at ano yung madalas nilang natatama para sa'yo?

    Back of the card

    Being known can feel ordinary like that. Someone remembers your usual, your no-thanks, or the thing you always reach for.

    Minsan ganun kasimple yung feeling na kilala ka. May nakakaalala ng usual mo, ayaw mo, o lagi mong pinipili.

  4. Who is a friend you can sit quietly with without it feeling awkward?

    Sino yung friend na kaya mong samahan nang tahimik without it feeling awkward?

    Back of the card

    Comfortable quiet is its own kind of closeness. It means the friendship does not always need talking, joking, or trying hard.

    May closeness din sa tahimik na hindi awkward. Ibig sabihin, hindi laging kailangang magsalita, magpatawa, o mag-effort nang todo.

Old fights, better now

3 questions

How you each like to be apologized to, finally said out loud.

  1. What makes an apology from a friend feel sincere to you?

    Paano mo nalalaman na talagang sorry ang friend sa nangyari?

    Back of the card

    Would it still feel sincere if they used different words?

    Ramdam mo pa rin bang talagang sorry sila kung iba ang sinabi nila?

  2. After you and a friend disagree, what helps things feel okay again?

    Pagkatapos ninyong hindi magkasundo ng friend, ano ang nakakatulong para maging okay ulit kayo?

    Back of the card

    You can notice a small improvement without calling everything fixed.

    Puwedeng mapansin na may umaayos kahit hindi pa okay ang lahat.

  3. What could you say to a quiet friend after a misunderstanding?

    Ano ang puwede mong sabihin sa tahimik na friend matapos kayong hindi magkaintindihan?

    Back of the card

    You can leave them room to answer later.

    Puwede mo silang bigyan ng oras bago sumagot.

Where her life is now

4 questions

For when you want to know the grown-up version of her.

  1. Name something you are carrying this week that people may not notice.

    Magsabi ng isang bitbit mo this week na baka hindi napapansin ng iba.

    Back of the card

    Not every weight is visible. Being honest about what you carry can make the load feel less unnamed.

    Hindi lahat ng bigat nakikita. Kapag honest ka sa bitbit mo, kahit hindi agad gumaan, hindi na siya sobrang labo.

  2. What part of this season of your life do you want me to understand better?

    Ano sa season mo ngayon ang gusto mong mas maintindihan ko?

    Back of the card

    People change by season. Updating each other keeps love attached to the person in front of you now.

    Nagbabago ang tao depende sa season. Kapag nag-u-update kayo, minamahal ninyo yung taong nasa harap ninyo ngayon.

  3. Name one thing that would make next month feel a little lighter.

    Magbanggit ng isang bagay na makakatulong para mas gumaan nang konti ang next month.

    Back of the card

    A lighter month does not have to mean a perfect one. Even one less weight can change how a season feels.

    Hindi kailangang perfect ang mas magaan na month. Kahit isang bawas na bigat, iba na ang pakiramdam ng season.

  4. Point to one direction you feel drawn toward, even if it is not fully clear yet.

    Magbanggit ng isang direction na feeling mo tinutulak ka, kahit hindi pa fully clear.

    Back of the card

    Clarity sometimes arrives after movement. You can honor the direction without pretending you know the whole path.

    Minsan dumarating ang clarity habang gumagalaw ka na. Puwede mong i-honor ang direction nang hindi nagpapanggap na alam mo ang buong path.

How to use them

Before you ask

Sisters get stuck in roles: the responsible one, the baby, the dramatic one. Those labels made sense at twelve and often don’t at thirty. Good questions to ask your sister skip the roles and find out who she is now.

Start with low-stakes sister stuff, the food you’ve always disagreed on, a funny overreaction, a message she almost sent to the wrong person. It’s familiar ground and it gets you laughing. Then ask what she sees in you, which is a question few people ever ask a sibling.

The old-fights group is worth it if things have been tense. Asking what makes an apology feel sincere to her, or what helps after a disagreement, is a gentle way to fix something without reopening the original argument.

Good for

  • Sister weekends and trips
  • Late nights at a parent’s house over the holidays
  • Long phone calls
  • Before or after a sister’s wedding
  • Sisters who drifted and want to reconnect

Tips

  1. Don’t bring up the old labels, even as a joke.
  2. Ask what she sees in you, then actually let it land.
  3. Repair questions work better in person than over text.
  4. Answer every question yourself, so it’s a trade.
  5. Plan the next sister thing before you hang up.

Decks for this

Sister

Frequently asked questions

What are good questions to ask your sister?

Mix the familiar with the new: a food you two disagree on, a compliment from her that made you smile, what helps after a disagreement, and what she’s carrying this week that people might not notice.

How can I get closer to my sister as adults?

Ask about her life now instead of replaying old roles, ask what makes an apology feel sincere to her, and keep regular contact even when it’s short.

Do these work for brothers too?

Most do. There’s also a page of questions to ask your brother, and one for siblings in general.

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