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New Year questions for couples to close one year and start the next

Questions for couples at New Year, on New Year’s Eve or a quiet January 1st. Look back at the year you had, name what you’re leaving behind, choose a few resolutions together, and save one or two for midnight.

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What has gotten better in the way we talk to each other?

Ano yung mas gumanda sa paraan natin mag-usap?

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Improvement deserves to be noticed. It gives both of you proof that change is possible and worth continuing.

Dapat napapansin ang improvement. Nagbibigay ito sa inyong dalawa ng proof na possible ang change at worth it ipagpatuloy.

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The questions

16 New Year questions for couples

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Looking back at the year

4 questions

Start with what you handled well, together and apart.

  1. What is something I handled well recently that meant more to you than I realized?

    Ano yung isang bagay na nahandle ko nang maayos recently na mas malaking bagay pala sa'yo kaysa akala ko?

    Back of the card

    Specific appreciation helps your partner see what felt caring, steady, mature, or brave in real life.

    Nakakatulong ang specific appreciation para makita ng partner mo kung ano yung naging caring, steady, mature, o brave sa totoong buhay.

  2. What difficult situation are you proud of handling?

    Anong mahirap na sitwasyon ang proud kang naharap mo?

    Back of the card

    You can pass or keep the situation private. What did handling it help you notice about your own abilities?

    Puwedeng mag-pass o itago ang sitwasyon. Ano ang napansin mong kaya mo pala matapos mong harapin iyon?

  3. Name something you are outgrowing, even if you still care about it.

    Magsabi ng isang bagay na parang ino-outgrow mo na, kahit may care ka pa rin doon.

    Back of the card

    Outgrowing something does not always mean rejecting it. Sometimes it means honoring what was real while making room to change.

    Hindi laging rejection ang pag-outgrow. Minsan pag-honor siya sa naging totoo, habang gumagawa ng space para magbago.

  4. What has gotten better in the way we talk to each other?

    Ano yung mas gumanda sa paraan natin mag-usap?

    Back of the card

    Improvement deserves to be noticed. It gives both of you proof that change is possible and worth continuing.

    Dapat napapansin ang improvement. Nagbibigay ito sa inyong dalawa ng proof na possible ang change at worth it ipagpatuloy.

What you’re leaving behind

4 questions

Habits, distractions and old replays.

  1. Pick one habit you want to adjust in a small, realistic way.

    Pumili ng isang habit na gusto mong i-adjust sa maliit at realistic na way.

    Back of the card

    Change does not have to be dramatic. One small adjustment can make tomorrow a little kinder.

    Hindi kailangang dramatic ang change. Puwedeng isang maliit na adjustment lang para mas kinder ang bukas.

  2. Pick one distraction you understand, but want to handle better.

    Pumili ng isang distraction na gets mo, pero gusto mong i-handle better.

    Back of the card

    A distraction can make sense and still need care. Understanding it helps you change it without turning cruel toward yourself.

    Puwedeng gets mo ang distraction at kailangan pa rin siyang alagaan. Mas madali siyang baguhin kapag hindi ka harsh sa sarili mo.

  3. Name one mistake you are ready to stop replaying so much.

    Magsabi ng isang mistake na ready ka nang hindi paulit-ulit i-replay.

    Back of the card

    A mistake can teach without taking over the whole story. You can remember the lesson without replaying the hurt.

    Puwedeng may tinuro ang mistake nang hindi siya ang buong story. Puwede mong tandaan ang lesson nang hindi inuulit ang sakit.

  4. What have you been putting off that might bring relief once you start?

    Ano yung matagal mo nang pinapabukas na baka gumaan kapag nasimulan mo na?

    Back of the card

    Starting can be the hardest part because it makes the thing real. Relief may come before everything is finished.

    Minsan pinakamahirap magsimula kasi nagiging real na yung bagay. Pero minsan nauunang dumating ang relief bago matapos lahat.

Resolutions for two

5 questions

Small, shared and realistic.

  1. What habit of ours do you hope we keep in the next season?

    Anong habit natin ang sana ituloy natin sa next season?

    Back of the card

    Keeping what works is also growth. Not every next step has to be about fixing a problem.

    Growth din ang pagpapatuloy ng gumagana. Hindi lahat ng next step kailangang tungkol sa pag-aayos ng problema.

  2. What future plan feels exciting and realistic for us right now?

    Anong future plan ang exciting at realistic para sa atin ngayon?

    Back of the card

    Future talk does not have to feel pressuring. Hope can feel steadier when it has a real-life shape.

    Hindi kailangang may pressure ang future talk. Mas steady ang hope kapag may real-life shape siya.

  3. What would you like to make more time for this month?

    Ano ang gusto mong bigyan ng mas maraming oras ngayong buwan?

    Back of the card

    Imagine an extra afternoon opens up. Would you spend it all on this or leave some time free?

    Isipin na nabakante ang isang hapon. Ilalaan mo ba lahat ng oras dito o magtitira ka pa ng libreng oras?

  4. Pick one value you want to show up in your week.

    Pumili ng isang value na gusto mong makita sa week mo.

    Back of the card

    A value becomes real in small choices. One week is enough space to practice it gently.

    Nagiging real ang value sa maliliit na choices. Sapat na ang isang week para i-practice siya nang gentle.

  5. Which small plan are you looking forward to?

    Anong small plan ang nilu-look forward mo?

    Back of the card

    Looking forward to something simple can help a week feel kinder. Small plans are allowed to matter.

    Nakakagaan ng week kapag may simpleng nilu-look forward. Puwedeng maging mahalaga kahit maliit na plan lang.

Around midnight

3 questions

One wish each before the countdown.

  1. Name one small wish you have for yourself this year.

    Ano yung isang maliit na wish mo para sa sarili mo this year?

    Back of the card

    Small wishes can still be honest. They may be easier to say out loud because they do not demand a perfect life.

    Maliit man yung wish, honest pa rin. Minsan mas madaling sabihin kasi hindi niya hinihingi na perfect ang buhay.

  2. Name one good thing you are quietly hoping for.

    Magsabi ng isang good thing na tahimik mong hinihiling lately.

    Back of the card

    Quiet hopes still deserve room. Saying them gently can remind you that wanting good things is not foolish.

    May lugar din ang tahimik na hopes. Kapag nasabi mo sila nang gentle, naaalala mong hindi foolish ang umasa sa mabuti.

  3. Finish this sentence: “In this next season, I hope I get to experience...”

    Tapusin mo yung sentence: “Sa next season, sana ma-experience ko...”

    Back of the card

    This sentence can stay small or open wide. Either way, it gives your hope a place to begin.

    Puwedeng maliit lang o biglang lumawak yung sentence. Either way, may starting point yung hope mo.

How to use them

Before you ask

New Year questions for couples help you close the year together before you start the next: what each of you handled well, which habit you want to adjust, what future plan feels exciting and realistic. A short year-end conversation is one of the simplest rituals a couple can keep.

Couples usually make resolutions separately, then quietly drop them by February. Talking them through together changes both parts: you hear what your partner is hoping for, and you can make the shared ones small enough to actually keep. A resolution for two, like a habit you both want to keep or a plan you want to make real, is easier to stick to.

Do the looking back and letting go on a quiet evening in the last week of December. Keep the resolutions for New Year’s Day, when you are both rested, and save the last group for the minutes before midnight.

Good for

  • New Year’s Eve at home
  • A New Year’s Day walk
  • The quiet week after Christmas
  • A couples’ year-end review
  • Starting a shared journal in January

Tips

  1. Look back before you look ahead. Resolutions land better after appreciation.
  2. Limit shared resolutions to two. You can add more in spring.
  3. Write them down and put the note somewhere you’ll find it in June.
  4. Name something to let go of, not only things to add.
  5. Kiss at midnight. Some traditions are non-negotiable.

Decks for this

New Year for couples

Frequently asked questions

What should couples talk about at New Year?

What went well this year, what each of you wants to leave behind, a couple of shared plans or habits for the new year, and one small wish each. Looking back first makes the planning warmer.

Should couples make New Year’s resolutions together?

A few shared ones work well, alongside your own. Keep them small and realistic, like a weekly habit or one plan to make happen, and check on them a few months in.

What do you do on New Year’s Eve as a couple at home?

Cook something special, do a short year-in-review with a few questions, then count down together. It’s calm, cheap and surprisingly meaningful.

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