Questions · Undas
Questions for Undas, for remembering together
Undas brings families together at the sementeryo or around a candle at home. These questions help the stories come out: the food, the habits and the lessons of the people you are remembering.
- 14 questions
- EN + TL on every card
- Free in the app
Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
Tell us about a food that reminds you of someone taking care of you.
Ikuwento yung pagkain na nagpapaalala sa'yo ng alaga ng isang tao.
Food can carry care without needing big words. Sometimes the simple act of feeding someone well becomes a memory by itself.
Kayang magdala ng care ang pagkain kahit walang malaking salita. Minsan yung simpleng pag-alaga sa pagkain, nagiging memory na.
The questions
14 questions for remembering a loved one
Answer each card with the person you are remembering in mind. Every question is a real Kumustahan card, in English and Filipino.
Small things we remember
6 questions
Easy to answer, even for the kids.
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Tell us about a food that reminds you of someone taking care of you.
Ikuwento yung pagkain na nagpapaalala sa'yo ng alaga ng isang tao.
Back of the card
Food can carry care without needing big words. Sometimes the simple act of feeding someone well becomes a memory by itself.
Kayang magdala ng care ang pagkain kahit walang malaking salita. Minsan yung simpleng pag-alaga sa pagkain, nagiging memory na.
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Share one food rule your household still follows.
Mag-share ng isang food rule na sinusunod pa rin sa bahay niyo.
Back of the card
House rules around food can be funny, practical, or oddly sacred. They carry the flavor of how people grew up.
Yung food rules sa bahay, minsan funny, minsan practical, minsan oddly sacred. May flavor siya ng kinalakihan natin.
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When you think of home, what small detail comes up first?
Kapag naiisip mo ang home, anong maliit na detail ang unang pumapasok?
Back of the card
Home can be a smell, a sound, a person, a room, or one ordinary detail that stayed.
Pwedeng amoy, tunog, tao, kwarto, o isang ordinaryong detail ang home. Minsan yun ang unang bumabalik.
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Which song takes you back to a particular time with friends?
Anong kanta ang nagpapaalala sa'yo ng isang panahon ninyo ng friends mo?
Back of the card
Picture where everyone was when the song came on.
Isipin kung nasaan ang lahat noong tumugtog ang kanta.
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What detail do you notice first in an old photo with a friend?
Anong detalye ang una mong napapansin sa lumang photo kasama ang friend?
Back of the card
No need to show it. Would you keep that detail in a photo taken today?
Hindi kailangang ipakita. Gusto mo bang makita pa rin ang detalyeng iyon sa photo ngayon?
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When was the last time a meal became a good memory?
Kailan huling naging magandang memory yung isang meal?
Back of the card
A good meal memory is rarely only about food. It can be the timing, the people, or the feeling around the table.
Hindi lang pagkain ang laman ng good meal memory. Pwedeng timing, kasama, o yung feeling sa paligid ng table.
What they taught us
4 questions
Skills, habits and the way they treated people.
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Who taught you a useful skill or habit you still use in daily life?
Sino yung nagturo sa'yo ng useful skill o habit na gamit mo pa rin sa daily life?
Back of the card
Practical lessons are easy to overlook, but they stay close. They show up in the small ways you move through a day.
Madaling ma-overlook ang practical lessons, pero dala-dala mo pala. Lumalabas sila sa maliliit mong galaw araw-araw.
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As you got older, which habit at home started to make more sense to you?
Habang tumatanda ka, anong habit sa bahay ninyo ang mas nagme-make sense na sa'yo ngayon?
Back of the card
Getting older can change the way you see home. A habit may look different once you know more of the story.
Habang tumatanda, nag-iiba rin minsan ang tingin natin sa bahay. May habit na mas naiintindihan kapag alam mo na ang kuwento.
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Tell us about a time someone was fair to you in a way you still remember.
Ikuwento yung time na naging fair sa'yo ang isang tao, at natatandaan mo pa rin.
Back of the card
Fairness can be memorable because it gives people room to breathe. It says, I see the whole situation, not only the mistake.
Natatandaan ang fairness kasi nakakahinga ang tao. Parang sinasabi nito, nakikita ko yung buong situation, hindi lang yung mali.
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Who do you enjoy eating with, even if the food is simple?
Sino yung masarap kasamang kumain kahit simple lang ang pagkain?
Back of the card
The company can change the meal. Some people make even ordinary food feel warmer.
Iba ang pagkain kapag okay ang kasama. May mga taong kahit simpleng meal, gumagaan yung moment.
Stories worth retelling
4 questions
The ones the family should never forget.
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Tell us the funny memory your friends or family still bring up.
Ikuwento yung funny memory na binabalikan pa rin ng friends o family mo.
Back of the card
Some stories become part of a group's archive. If people still bring it up, it probably earned its place.
May stories na parte na ng group archive. Kapag binabalikan pa rin, malamang deserve niya yung spot.
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Tell us about a small childhood memory you still remember clearly.
Kuwento mo yung maliit na childhood memory na malinaw pa rin sa'yo.
Back of the card
The memories that stay are not always the biggest ones. Sometimes one small scene keeps its color for years.
Hindi laging pinakamalaki ang memories na naiiwan. Minsan isang maliit na scene ang malinaw pa rin kahit ang tagal na.
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What meal with a friend became memorable for something besides the food?
Anong kainan ninyo ng friend ang tumatak dahil sa nangyari, hindi lang dahil sa pagkain?
Back of the card
If this meal's story had a title, what would it be?
Kung may pamagat ang kuwento ng kainan na ito, ano iyon?
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Tell us about someone whose faith encourages you to keep going.
Ikuwento yung isang tao na dahil sa faith niya, nae-encourage kang magpatuloy.
Back of the card
God can encourage us through the steady faith of other people. Naming it can turn quiet admiration into gratitude.
Minsan ginagamit ni Lord yung steady faith ng iba para ma-encourage tayo. Kapag nasabi natin yun, puwede itong maging gratitude.
How to use them
Before you ask
At Undas, the family is together for a long time with not much to do: waiting at the sementeryo, keeping the candles lit, eating what everyone brought. It is a good time to tell stories, and the young ones often don’t know them yet.
Read a card and answer it about the person you are remembering. Let the oldest relatives go first; they carry the most stories. Laughing is allowed. A funny memory honours someone as much as a serious one.
Go gently. Grief is different for everyone, and some people will want to listen instead of talk. Anyone can pass a card, and nobody needs to explain why.
Good for
Tips
- Ask the elders first, and let the kids ask the questions.
- Write the best stories down, or record them with permission. They are easy to lose.
- Keep it light at first: food and habits before regrets.
- If someone gets quiet, sit with them. You don’t need to fill the silence.
Decks for this
Undas: remembering loved ones
Frequently asked questions
What can we talk about at Undas?
Share stories about the people you are remembering: the food they cooked, the habits everyone knew, what they taught you, and the funny memories the family still retells. Simple, specific questions make it easier to start.
How do I help kids understand Undas?
Let them ask the elders simple questions about the person being remembered, like what food they loved or what game they played as kids. Stories make a name on a tomb into a real person.
Is it okay to laugh while remembering someone?
Yes. Funny memories are part of a person, and laughing together is one of the ways families grieve. Let people choose their own way to remember.
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