Questions · Speed friending

Speed friending questions for five minutes and a bell

Questions for a speed friending night or friend-matching meetup: openers for the first thirty seconds, ways to find common ground fast, quick reads on someone’s personality, and how to tell if you’d hang out again.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

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If you had one free hour every week, what hobby would you go back to?

Kung may isang free hour ka every week, anong hobby ang babalikan mo?

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A note

A hobby you miss can point to a part of you that still wants some space.

Yung hobby na nami-miss mo minsan tumuturo sa part ng sarili mo na gusto pa rin ng konting space.

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The questions

17 questions for speed friending

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

The first thirty seconds

5 questions

Skip the résumé and get a real reaction.

  1. Which language would you learn instantly if you woke up fluent tomorrow?

    Kung paggising mo bukas ay marunong ka na ng isang bagong language, ano ang pipiliin mo?

    Back of the card

    Choose the first person you would like to talk to in that language.

    Piliin ang unang taong gusto mong makausap gamit ang wikang iyon.

  2. You receive one free round-trip ticket. Where are you going first?

    May libre kang round-trip ticket. Saan ka pupunta?

    Back of the card

    Choose one thing you would want to do before flying home.

    Pumili ng isang gusto mong gawin bago bumiyahe pauwi.

  3. Pick a tiny superpower that would make things easier.

    Pick one tiny superpower na magpapadali ng ginagawa mo.

    Back of the card

    Tiny superpowers are best when they solve tiny annoyances. Not every power needs a cape; some just need shorter lines.

    Best ang tiny superpowers kapag tiny annoyances ang sinosolve. Hindi lahat kailangan ng cape; minsan shorter lines lang.

  4. Choose a memory power: remember every name or remember every route you have taken.

    Pumili ng memory power: tandaan lahat ng pangalan o lahat ng daang nadaanan mo.

    Back of the card

    Give your memory power a name. It can sound heroic or completely ordinary.

    Bigyan ng pangalan ang memory power mo. Puwedeng pang-hero o ordinaryo lang.

  5. If you could understand one kind of animal, which would you choose?

    Kung maiintindihan mo ang isang klase ng hayop, ano ang pipiliin mo?

    Back of the card

    Imagine the animal gets to ask you something too. What might it ask?

    Isipin na may tanong din sa'yo ang hayop. Ano kaya iyon?

Find what you have in common

5 questions

Overlap is what you’ll follow up on.

  1. What fun activity would you like to introduce your friends to?

    Anong masayang activity ang gusto mong ipakilala sa friends?

    Back of the card

    Imagine their first try going wrong in a harmless, funny way.

    Isipin na may simpleng sablay sa unang pagsubok nila na puwede ninyong pagtawanan.

  2. On a free day, what activity do you enjoy even if nothing gets done?

    Sa free day, anong activity ang enjoy gawin kahit wala kang natatapos?

    Back of the card

    Not every good thing needs to be useful. Some activities are good because they give the day room to breathe.

    Hindi lahat ng magandang gawin kailangang useful. May mga bagay na okay dahil binibigyan lang nila ng luwag yung araw.

  3. If you had one free hour every week, what hobby would you go back to?

    Kung may isang free hour ka every week, anong hobby ang babalikan mo?

    Back of the card

    A hobby you miss can point to a part of you that still wants some space.

    Yung hobby na nami-miss mo minsan tumuturo sa part ng sarili mo na gusto pa rin ng konting space.

  4. Name one small, specific thing you enjoy more than people expect.

    Magbanggit ng isang maliit at specific na bagay na mas enjoy mo kaysa ina-expect ng iba.

    Back of the card

    Specific joys can be tiny clues about a person. They do not need to make sense to everyone to be real.

    Yung specific joys, maliit na clue tungkol sa tao. Hindi kailangan gets ng lahat para maging real.

  5. Recall the last time you tried something new just because you were curious.

    Ikuwento ang huling beses na sumubok ka ng bago dahil curious ka lang.

    Back of the card

    Would you try it again, or was once enough?

    Susubukan mo ba ulit, o sapat na ang minsan?

Quick personality reads

4 questions

How they are in a group, in a minute.

  1. What small thing do you naturally take care of during a hangout?

    Anong maliit na bagay ang natural mong inaasikaso kapag may hangout?

    Back of the card

    Some small things find the same person every time. It can be funny how a group quietly learns who handles what.

    May maliliit na bagay na laging may hinahanap na tao. Funny rin kung paano tahimik na natututo ang group kung sino ang umaasikaso ng ano.

  2. When you meet a new friend or group, how do you usually get comfortable?

    Kapag may bago kang friend o group, paano ka usually nagiging comfortable?

    Back of the card

    People warm up at different speeds. Some start with jokes, some with listening, some by quietly showing up again.

    Iba-iba ang pace ng pag-warm up. May dumadaan sa jokes, may sa pakikinig, at may tahimik lang na bumabalik ulit.

  3. When the conversation goes quiet, how do you usually react?

    Kapag tumahimik yung usapan, paano ka usually nagre-react?

    Back of the card

    Quiet moments reveal different instincts. Some people fill the space, some enjoy it, and some suddenly inspect their drink.

    May kanya-kanyang instinct kapag tumahimik. May nagfi-fill ng space, may okay lang, may biglang titingin sa drink.

  4. How can friends tell when you are excited about something?

    Paano nahahalata ng friends na excited ka sa isang bagay?

    Back of the card

    Think of the sign you notice in yourself before anyone else does.

    Isipin ang senyales na napapansin mo sa sarili mo bago pa mapansin ng iba.

Would you hang out again?

3 questions

Ask in the last minute, before the bell.

  1. Which simple hangout with a friend would you happily repeat?

    Anong simpleng bonding kasama ang friend ang gusto mong ulitin?

    Back of the card

    Same place, same activity, different weather. Would you still choose it?

    Parehong lugar at gagawin, pero iba ang panahon. Pipiliin mo pa rin ba ito?

  2. Choose a nearby place you would like to explore with a friend.

    Pumili ng malapit na lugar na gusto mong puntahan kasama ang friend.

    Back of the card

    Imagine finding an unexpected favorite corner there.

    Isipin na may makikita kang sulok doon na magiging paborito mo.

  3. If money were no problem, how would you spend a Saturday with nothing you had to do?

    Kung walang kailangang gawin at hindi problema ang pera, paano mo gagamitin ang isang Sabado?

    Back of the card

    Picture the end of your Saturday. What would make you wish it were still morning?

    Isipin ang katapusan ng Sabado mo. Bakit mo gugustuhing umaga pa lang?

How to use them

Before you ask

At a speed friending event, the best question finds something you have in common before the bell rings. Five minutes goes fast, and if four of them go to jobs and neighborhoods, you leave with a stack of names you can’t tell apart.

Open with something light and a little imaginative, like a language they’d wake up fluent in or a free ticket to anywhere. Then look for overlap: a hobby they’d go back to with an hour a week, an activity they’d love to introduce friends to. Overlap gives you a reason to meet again.

In the last minute, ask something that shows how they are as a friend, like what they naturally take care of at a hangout, or which simple hangout they’d happily repeat. That’s the answer you’ll remember when you look at the match card later.

Good for

  • Speed friending and friend-dating events
  • Meetups for people new in town
  • Campus friend-matching nights
  • Community center socials
  • Friend-making groups for adults

Tips

  1. Have one opener and one common-ground question ready; improvise the rest.
  2. Right after each round, write down one thing you’d do together.
  3. Ask, listen, then share. Five minutes is two and a half each.
  4. Leave work out of the first minute.

Decks for this

If you’re hosting a speed friending night

A simple format that keeps the energy up for about an hour:

  • Rounds of five to seven minutes, with one printed question per table that changes every round.
  • A bell at four minutes, so pairs can wrap up naturally.
  • A card for each guest to note names and one thing they’d do together.
  • Twenty minutes of open mingling at the end, so good matches can keep talking.

Speed friending

Frequently asked questions

What questions should you ask at speed friending?

An imaginative opener, then questions that find common ground, like a hobby they’d go back to or an activity they’d introduce friends to. In the last minute, ask something that shows what they’re like as a friend.

How does speed friending work?

Like speed dating, but for friendship: short rotating one-on-one chats, usually five to seven minutes, then a chance to note who you’d like to see again. Many events end with open mingling.

How do you stand out in a five-minute conversation?

Ask an unusual opener, listen closely, and refer back to something they said. People remember the person who remembered them.

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