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What would you do questions for ordinary situations

Not trolley problems. These are the small situations everyone has been in: a plan falls apart, a room full of strangers, a friend who has gone quiet. How people handle them says a lot.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

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When plans change, how do you decide what to keep, drop, or adjust?

Kapag nagbago ang plans, paano mo dini-decide kung ano ang itutuloy, bibitawan, o ia-adjust?

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Changed plans show priorities quickly. Sometimes the real answer is comfort, people, responsibility, peace, or simply energy.

Kapag nagbago ang plans, mabilis lumabas ang priorities. Minsan comfort, tao, responsibility, peace, o energy lang talaga.

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The questions

16 what would you do questions

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Small moments, quick reactions

5 questions

What you do in the first three seconds. Usually funny.

  1. Group photo starts. What is your automatic move?

    May group photo na. Ano ang automatic move mo?

    Back of the card

    Group photos bring out instant instincts. Some people arrange everyone, some disappear behind others, and some are ready before the camera is.

    May automatic instinct kapag group photo na. May taga-ayos, may nagtatago sa likod, may ready bago pa yung camera.

  2. Choose your default reaction when something embarrassing happens.

    Piliin yung default reaction mo kapag may nakakahiya na nangyari.

    Back of the card

    Embarrassing moments reveal our automatic settings. Laugh, freeze, explain, escape: every reaction has its own logic.

    Lumalabas yung automatic settings natin kapag nakakahiya. Tawa, freeze, explain, takas: may logic lahat yan.

  3. Share a funny public moment when something embarrassing happened, but you tried to stay normal.

    Mag-share ng funny public moment na may embarrassing na nangyari, pero sinubukan mong umaktong normal.

    Back of the card

    The public poker face deserves credit. Sometimes looking calm is just excellent acting with a normal facial expression.

    May credit dapat ang public poker face. Minsan mukhang calm ka lang, pero acting na pala yun.

  4. While waiting for food, a ride, or someone late, how do you pass the time?

    Habang naghihintay ng pagkain, sasakyan, o late na tao, paano mo pinapalipas yung oras?

    Back of the card

    Waiting brings out our tiny survival styles. Some people scroll, some observe, and some start making stories in their head.

    Lumilitaw yung tiny survival style natin kapag naghihintay. May nag-scroll, may nag-oobserve, may gumagawa na ng kwento sa isip.

  5. When the conversation goes quiet, how do you usually react?

    Kapag tumahimik yung usapan, paano ka usually nagre-react?

    Back of the card

    Quiet moments reveal different instincts. Some people fill the space, some enjoy it, and some suddenly inspect their drink.

    May kanya-kanyang instinct kapag tumahimik. May nagfi-fill ng space, may okay lang, may biglang titingin sa drink.

When plans go sideways

5 questions

Snacks, schedules and tired evenings.

  1. You and a friend want different snacks. What would you do?

    Magkaiba kayo ng friend mo ng gustong snack. Ano ang gagawin mo?

    Back of the card

    Same choice every time, or would it depend on the day?

    Pareho ba ang gagawin mo palagi, o depende sa araw?

  2. When a hangout plan goes wrong, what do you usually do first?

    Kapag pumalpak ang plano ng gala, ano ang una mong ginagawa?

    Back of the card

    You could tell this as the opening scene of a comedy.

    Puwede mong ikuwento ito na parang unang eksena ng comedy.

  3. When plans change, how do you decide what to keep, drop, or adjust?

    Kapag nagbago ang plans, paano mo dini-decide kung ano ang itutuloy, bibitawan, o ia-adjust?

    Back of the card

    Changed plans show priorities quickly. Sometimes the real answer is comfort, people, responsibility, peace, or simply energy.

    Kapag nagbago ang plans, mabilis lumabas ang priorities. Minsan comfort, tao, responsibility, peace, o energy lang talaga.

  4. After a tiring day, would you rather get a funny message, a call, or a quiet hangout?

    Pagkatapos ng nakakapagod na araw, mas gusto mo ba ng funny message, tawag, o tahimik na bonding?

    Back of the card

    Choose the first five minutes: a little catching up, a little laughter, or no talking yet.

    Piliin ang unang limang minuto: kumustahan, tawanan, o wala munang usapan.

  5. How would you like a friend to respond when you are too tired to join a plan?

    Kapag sobrang pagod ka para sumama, paano mo gustong mag-react ang friend sa pagtanggi mo?

    Back of the card

    Missing one plan does not mean you want to stop being invited.

    Hindi ibig sabihin na ayaw mo nang yayain kapag hindi ka nakasama minsan.

Walking into a new room

3 questions

How you join in, and how you’d help someone else join.

  1. When you meet a new friend or group, how do you usually get comfortable?

    Kapag may bago kang friend o group, paano ka usually nagiging comfortable?

    Back of the card

    People warm up at different speeds. Some start with jokes, some with listening, some by quietly showing up again.

    Iba-iba ang pace ng pag-warm up. May dumadaan sa jokes, may sa pakikinig, at may tahimik lang na bumabalik ulit.

  2. When joining a conversation, what helps you feel comfortable enough to take part?

    Ano ang tumutulong para maging komportable kang sumali sa kuwentuhan?

    Back of the card

    You can invent a first line you would enjoy hearing when you join.

    Puwede kang gumawa ng unang linyang gusto mong marinig kapag nakisali ka.

  3. How could you help a friend who was new to a school or neighborhood?

    Paano mo matutulungan ang friend na bago sa isang school o lugar?

    Back of the card

    Being shown where things are or having someone stay nearby — either might help.

    Puwedeng makatulong ang ituro kung nasaan ang mga bagay o ang samahan lang sila.

When something feels off with a friend

3 questions

Practical, kind answers to a confusing moment.

  1. What quick question could clear up a confusing message from a friend?

    Kapag malabo ang message ng friend, paano mo tatanungin kung ano ang ibig nilang sabihin?

    Back of the card

    “Did you mean...?” can leave the answer open. You can use an invented message.

    Puwedeng magsimula sa “Ang ibig mo bang sabihin...?” Gawa-gawang message lang kung gusto mo.

  2. What could you say to a quiet friend after a misunderstanding?

    Ano ang puwede mong sabihin sa tahimik na friend matapos kayong hindi magkaintindihan?

    Back of the card

    You can leave them room to answer later.

    Puwede mo silang bigyan ng oras bago sumagot.

  3. How would you want a friend to tell you that something you did bothered them?

    Paano mo gustong sabihin ng friend na may ginawa kang hindi nila nagustuhan?

    Back of the card

    You can imagine a simple example. Would you prefer a message or a private talk?

    Puwedeng simpleng halimbawa lang. Mas gusto mo ba ng message o pribadong usapan?

How to use them

Before you ask

A what would you do question puts someone in a situation and asks for their move. The good ones aren’t moral dilemmas with a right answer. They’re situations people actually meet, which means everyone at the table has a real answer, and often a story to go with it.

That’s also why they work in groups that don’t know each other well. Telling a room what you do when a group photo starts is easy and a bit funny. Telling them how you’d patch things up after a confusing message from a friend is a step closer, and by then people usually want to answer.

Listen for the differences. One person handles a ruined plan by making a new one in thirty seconds; another goes home and rests. Neither is wrong, and the contrast is the conversation. For dilemmas with two fixed options, use would you rather instead.

Good for

  • Team lunches and new-hire weeks
  • Youth groups and classrooms
  • Friends comparing how they handle things
  • Roommates working out house habits
  • Teens who roll their eyes at deep questions

Tips

  1. Ask what they actually do, not what they should do.
  2. After each answer, ask whether anyone does the opposite.
  3. Share your own worst reaction. It makes honest answers easier.
  4. Skip the friendship round if someone at the table is in a real falling-out.
  5. Keep to situations everyone recognizes and leave the extreme ones out.

Decks for this

What would you do?

Frequently asked questions

What are good what would you do questions?

Everyday situations with no single right answer: a plan that falls apart, walking into a room of strangers, a confusing message from a friend. People answer from experience, and the different reactions make the conversation.

Are what would you do questions good for team building?

Yes, the light ones are. Questions about changed plans and joining a new group show how people work without asking anything personal, which suits a team lunch or a first meeting.

How are these different from would you rather questions?

Would you rather gives two fixed options to pick from. What would you do leaves the answer open, so people describe their own move and usually tell a story to explain it.

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