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Going-away party questions for the friend who is moving

Questions for a farewell party: the friend moving across the country, the coworker taking a job abroad, the student leaving for college. About the places you shared, the story of the friendship, and how to stay close when you’re far apart.

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Tell us about a place that left a memory or feeling you still carry.

Ikuwento yung lugar na may iniwang memory o feeling na dala mo pa rin.

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Some places stay with us quietly. You may not notice it right away, but later you realize you carried something from there.

May mga lugar na tahimik lang ang iniiwan sa atin. Hindi mo agad napapansin, pero may dala ka pala mula roon.

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The questions

16 going-away party questions

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

The best of this place

4 questions

Favorite spots and simple hangouts that will be missed.

  1. Tell us about a place that left a memory or feeling you still carry.

    Ikuwento yung lugar na may iniwang memory o feeling na dala mo pa rin.

    Back of the card

    Some places stay with us quietly. You may not notice it right away, but later you realize you carried something from there.

    May mga lugar na tahimik lang ang iniiwan sa atin. Hindi mo agad napapansin, pero may dala ka pala mula roon.

  2. Name a place that reminds you of a funny story with friends.

    Magbanggit ng lugar na nagpapaalala ng funny story kasama ang friends.

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    That place gets a new name just for this story. What would it be?

    Kung papangalanan mo ang lugar ayon sa kuwentong ito, ano ang itatawag mo?

  3. Which simple hangout with a friend would you happily repeat?

    Anong simpleng bonding kasama ang friend ang gusto mong ulitin?

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    Same place, same activity, different weather. Would you still choose it?

    Parehong lugar at gagawin, pero iba ang panahon. Pipiliin mo pa rin ba ito?

  4. When was the last time a meal became a good memory?

    Kailan huling naging magandang memory yung isang meal?

    Back of the card

    A good meal memory is rarely only about food. It can be the timing, the people, or the feeling around the table.

    Hindi lang pagkain ang laman ng good meal memory. Pwedeng timing, kasama, o yung feeling sa paligid ng table.

Our story

4 questions

Failed plans, rides home and the songs of this friendship.

  1. What failed plan with friends turned into a good memory?

    Anong pumalpak na plano kasama ang friends ang naging masayang memory?

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    The failed plan can be the story's best plot twist.

    Puwedeng ang pumalpak na plano ang pinakamagandang plot twist sa kuwento.

  2. Tell about a ride home with friends that you still remember.

    Magkuwento ng pag-uwi kasama ang friends na naaalala mo pa.

    Back of the card

    You could remember just the last thing someone said before you parted.

    Puwedeng balikan ang huling sinabi bago kayo naghiwa-hiwalay.

  3. Which song takes you back to a particular time with friends?

    Anong kanta ang nagpapaalala sa'yo ng isang panahon ninyo ng friends mo?

    Back of the card

    Picture where everyone was when the song came on.

    Isipin kung nasaan ang lahat noong tumugtog ang kanta.

  4. Which compliment from a friend made you smile recently?

    Anong compliment mula sa friend ang nagpangiti sa'yo lately?

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    Did you believe it right away, or did it sink in later?

    Naniwala ka ba agad, o saka mo lang ito naramdaman?

Staying close from far away

5 questions

How to keep a friendship when you can’t just drop by.

  1. What could you and a faraway friend enjoy doing together online?

    Kung nasa malayo ang friend mo, ano ang puwede ninyong gawin online na pareho ninyong mae-enjoy?

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    Choose a little ritual to start it: the same greeting, the same song, or your own idea.

    Puwedeng may nakasanayan kayong panimula: parehong bati, parehong kanta, o sarili ninyong ideya.

  2. If you and a friend talk less often, what would you want to ask them?

    Kung bihira na kayong mag-usap ng friend, ano ang gusto mong itanong sa kanila?

    Back of the card

    Would you ask now or wait for a quieter time to talk?

    Itatanong mo ba ngayon o hihintayin mong mas tahimik ang oras ng usapan?

  3. What kind of message from a friend is easy for you to reply to?

    Anong message mula sa friend ang madali mong sagutin?

    Back of the card

    You could write an example with no names or real chat details.

    Puwede kang gumawa ng halimbawa na walang pangalan o detalye ng totoong chat.

  4. Picture meeting an old friend after a few years. What would you want to do together first?

    Isipin na nagkita kayo ng dating friend makalipas ang ilang taon. Ano ang una mong gustong gawin ninyo?

    Back of the card

    You could begin with the most ordinary thing you used to do together.

    Puwedeng magsimula sa pinakasimpleng dati ninyong ginagawa nang magkasama.

  5. Choose a short message you could send a friend you have not talked to lately.

    Kung hindi mo nakakausap lately ang isang friend, anong maikling message ang ipapadala mo?

    Back of the card

    The first message does not need to contain the whole catch-up.

    Hindi kailangang nasa unang message ang buong kumustahan.

For the one leaving

3 questions

Courage for the move and the new place.

  1. Name something you are nervous about that still feels worth trying.

    Magsabi ng isang bagay na kinakabahan ka pero parang worth it pa ring subukan.

    Back of the card

    Nerves and courage often show up together. The fear does not automatically mean the step is wrong.

    Madalas magkasama ang kaba at courage. Hindi porket may takot, mali na agad ang step.

  2. What helped you feel welcome in a new place?

    Ano ang nakatulong para maramdaman mong welcome ka sa isang bagong lugar?

    Back of the card

    Would you do something similar for someone new? You can also leave it as a good memory.

    Gagawin mo rin ba iyon para sa bagong dating? Puwede ring magandang alaala na lang muna ito.

  3. Tell us about something you used to avoid that feels less scary now.

    Kuwento mo yung dati mong iniiwasan pero hindi na ganun ka-scary ngayon.

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    Less scary is still movement. You do not have to be fearless to know something has changed.

    Movement pa rin ang less scary. Hindi mo kailangang maging fearless para malaman na may nagbago.

How to use them

Before you ask

A going-away party is the one chance to say the things friends usually leave unsaid, and questions make it easier than a speech. Ask about the favorite places you shared, the failed plan that became a great memory, the ride home you still talk about. Saying them out loud is the goodbye.

Farewell parties can tilt sad. The trick is to keep most of the night on stories and future plans, not on the leaving. The “staying close” questions are practical: what you could do together online, what kind of message is easy to reply to, what you’d want to do first when you see each other again. They turn goodbye into a plan.

End with the friend who is leaving. Moving is brave and a little scary, so ask what made a new place feel like theirs last time, and which old fears have already shrunk. Everyone in the room gets to remind them they’ve done hard things before.

Good for

  • Farewell parties for friends moving away
  • Coworkers leaving for a new job
  • Students leaving for college
  • Friends moving abroad
  • Military moves and new postings

Tips

  1. Ask guests to write one answer on a card for the friend to open in the new place.
  2. Agree on a first video call date before the party ends.
  3. Keep the sad parts short. Laughing is a better goodbye.
  4. Take one group photo with everyone, then put the phones away.
  5. For staying close afterward, see questions for long-distance friends.

Decks for this

Going-away party

Frequently asked questions

What do you say at a going-away party?

Share a specific memory, tell the friend something they did that mattered, and make a plan to stay in touch. Questions about favorite places and shared stories make it easier than a speech.

How do you stay close to a friend who moves away?

Agree on how you’ll keep in touch: what you can do together online, the kind of messages that are easy to answer, and a date for the first call. Small, regular contact beats rare long calls.

What are good going-away party ideas besides gifts?

A memory round where each guest answers a question about the friendship, a box of handwritten answers to open later, and a map of favorite local places. They mean more than anything bought.

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