Questions · Things to talk about with your girlfriend
Things to talk about with your girlfriend beyond the daily recap
Topics to talk about with your girlfriend on a night in, a long walk or a call. How her week really went, the people she loves, the things she enjoys and remembers, and what’s next for the two of you.
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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
Pick one small thing lately that helped you breathe easier.
Pick one maliit na bagay lately na nakatulong sa'yo huminga nang mas maluwag.
Relief can be small and still be real. Notice what gave your body or mind a little more room.
Puwedeng maliit ang ginhawa pero totoo pa rin. Pansinin kung ano ang nagbigay ng konting luwag sa katawan o isip mo.
The questions
17 things to talk about with your girlfriend
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
How her week really went
4 questions
Ask about the small good things, and the quiet moments.
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Pick one small thing lately that helped you breathe easier.
Pick one maliit na bagay lately na nakatulong sa'yo huminga nang mas maluwag.
Back of the card
Relief can be small and still be real. Notice what gave your body or mind a little more room.
Puwedeng maliit ang ginhawa pero totoo pa rin. Pansinin kung ano ang nagbigay ng konting luwag sa katawan o isip mo.
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What helps you settle down after a full day?
Ano ang nakakatulong sa'yo mag-settle after a full day?
Back of the card
The way you come down from a full day matters. Small rituals can help your mind know it is safe to rest.
Mahalaga rin kung paano ka bumababa from a full day. Kahit maliit na ritual, puwedeng signal na safe nang magpahinga.
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Name one tiny habit that has been helping you lately.
Magsabi ng isang tiny habit na nakakatulong sa'yo lately.
Back of the card
Small habits can hold more weight than they look like. Notice the quiet things that help you keep going.
May bigat din ang maliit na habit. Pansinin yung tahimik na bagay na tumutulong sa'yo magpatuloy.
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Describe your favorite quiet moment at home in one sentence.
I-describe in one sentence yung favorite mong tahimik na moment sa bahay.
Back of the card
Quiet at home can be its own kind of treat. Sometimes the best part is that nothing needs to happen.
Yung tahimik sa bahay, treat din minsan. Minsan best part na yung walang kailangang mangyari.
Her people
4 questions
Friends, birthdays and family gatherings.
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Picture meeting an old friend after a few years. What would you want to do together first?
Isipin na nagkita kayo ng dating friend makalipas ang ilang taon. Ano ang una mong gustong gawin ninyo?
Back of the card
You could begin with the most ordinary thing you used to do together.
Puwedeng magsimula sa pinakasimpleng dati ninyong ginagawa nang magkasama.
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Choose a simple way friends could celebrate your birthday without spending much.
Pumili ng simpleng paraan para i-celebrate ng friends ang birthday mo nang hindi gumagastos nang malaki.
Back of the card
One detail can be just for you: the music, the timing, or something else you love.
Puwedeng may isang detalye para talaga sa'yo: music, oras, o iba pang gusto mo.
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At family gatherings, where do you usually end up: helping, chatting, eating, or observing?
Kapag may family gathering, saan ka usually napupunta: tumutulong, nakikipagkwentuhan, kumakain, o nag-oobserve?
Back of the card
Gatherings bring out our natural moves. Some people serve, some talk, some watch, and some happily stay near the food.
Sa gatherings, lumalabas yung natural move natin. May tumutulong, may nagkukuwento, may nag-oobserve, at may masaya sa tabi ng pagkain.
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What simple invitation could brighten a friend's ordinary day?
Anong simpleng yaya ang puwedeng magpasaya sa normal na araw ng friend?
Back of the card
Keep the invitation short enough to send as one message.
Puwedeng maikli lang ang yaya, kasya sa isang message.
What she loves and remembers
5 questions
Little joys, old photos and the skills she’s proud of.
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Tell us about one simple thing that can make your day better.
Ikuwento mo yung simpleng bagay na nakakapagpaganda ng araw mo.
Back of the card
Small things count because real days are mostly made of small things. Even a tiny lift can matter.
May bigat din ang simpleng bagay, kasi karamihan ng araw natin puro maliliit na moments. Kahit konting gaan, may halaga.
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What fun activity would you like to introduce your friends to?
Anong masayang activity ang gusto mong ipakilala sa friends?
Back of the card
Imagine their first try going wrong in a harmless, funny way.
Isipin na may simpleng sablay sa unang pagsubok nila na puwede ninyong pagtawanan.
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What flavor of ice cream would you invent?
Anong lasa ng ice cream ang iimbentuhin mo?
Back of the card
Give your invented ice cream a name if you like.
Kung gusto mo, bigyan mo ng pangalan ang ice cream na inimbento mo.
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What detail do you notice first in an old photo with a friend?
Anong detalye ang una mong napapansin sa lumang photo kasama ang friend?
Back of the card
No need to show it. Would you keep that detail in a photo taken today?
Hindi kailangang ipakita. Gusto mo bang makita pa rin ang detalyeng iyon sa photo ngayon?
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Which small adulting skill are you proud you can do now?
Anong small adulting skill ang proud kang kaya mo na ngayon?
Back of the card
Adulting skills can be funny and real at the same time. Paying, fixing, calling, cooking, asking: they all count.
Nakakatawa pero real ang adulting skills. Magbayad, mag-ayos, tumawag, magluto, magtanong: counted lahat yan.
You two, and what’s next
4 questions
Teamwork now, plans for later.
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What small habit of mine makes you feel cared for?
Ano yung maliit kong habit na nagpaparamdam sa'yo na inaalagaan kita?
Back of the card
Care does not always have to be big. Sometimes it is a small pattern your partner has learned to count on.
Hindi kailangang grand ang care. Minsan maliit na habit lang siya na natutunan mong asahan sa akin.
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What is one chore, errand, or task that feels lighter when we do it as a team?
Anong chore, errand, o task ang gumagaan kapag team tayo?
Back of the card
Teamwork is not only for big seasons. It also shows up in the small work of keeping life moving.
Hindi lang pang-big season ang teamwork. Lumalabas din ito sa maliliit na gawain para gumalaw ang buhay.
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If money were no problem, how would you spend a Saturday with nothing you had to do?
Kung walang kailangang gawin at hindi problema ang pera, paano mo gagamitin ang isang Sabado?
Back of the card
Picture the end of your Saturday. What would make you wish it were still morning?
Isipin ang katapusan ng Sabado mo. Bakit mo gugustuhing umaga pa lang?
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What would you try if failure felt less embarrassing?
Ano ang susubukan mo kung hindi gaanong nakakahiya ang pumalya?
Back of the card
Embarrassment can make the room feel smaller than it is. The thing you would try may still be worth naming.
Kayang paliitin ng hiya ang mundo mo. Pero yung bagay na susubukan mo, baka worth pa ring pangalanan.
How to use them
Before you ask
Good things to talk about with your girlfriend are the ones that show interest in her whole life, not just the part that includes you: how her week really went, her friends and the way they celebrate, a small thing that makes her day better, a skill she’s quietly proud of. Topics like these turn a daily recap into an actual conversation.
Couples fall into reporting mode: what happened at work, what’s for dinner, what’s on this weekend. It’s comfortable but it isn’t connecting. Asking about her people is one of the easiest ways out, because friendships and family come with stories, inside jokes and opinions she’s happy to share.
Pick one topic per evening and follow it where it goes. The last group is about the two of you and the future, kept light on purpose. For questions aimed straight at her, see questions to ask your girlfriend.
Good for
Tips
- Remember names. Asking about her friend by name later shows you were listening.
- Don’t fix, just ask. If she mentions a hard part of the week, one more question beats a solution.
- Share your own answer to the same topic so it goes both ways.
- Bring up something she told you last week. Continuity is attentive.
- Keep the future topics playful unless she takes them somewhere serious.
Decks for this
Things to talk about with your girlfriend
Frequently asked questions
What should I talk about with my girlfriend?
Her real week, the people she loves, small things that make her day, memories from old photos, and plans for the two of you. Asking about her friends and family is an easy way into longer conversations.
How do I keep a conversation going with my girlfriend?
Ask one follow-up about the detail she mentions, share your own version, and remember it for next time. Continuity matters more than clever questions.
What do you talk about with your girlfriend at night?
Quiet topics: what helped her settle after the day, a small good moment, a tiny habit that has been helping lately. Keep heavy subjects for daytime when you are both rested.
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