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Things to talk about with your boyfriend when you’ve run out

Topics to talk about with your boyfriend when the usual updates are done. How his week actually went, the things he’s into, stories you haven’t heard yet, and a few about the two of you, each with a question to start.

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During a busy week, what signs tell you that you are still doing okay?

Kapag busy ang week, anong signs ang nagsasabi sa'yo na okay ka pa naman?

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Your signs may be small: sleep, patience, appetite, humor, or the ability to answer messages without dread.

Puwedeng maliit lang yung signs: tulog, pasensya, gana kumain, humor, o kaya mong sumagot ng messages nang hindi mabigat.

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17 things to talk about with your boyfriend

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

His week, the real version

4 questions

Better than “how was your day”.

  1. What word would describe your week so far?

    Anong word ang babagay sa week mo so far?

    Back of the card

    Sometimes one word is enough to begin. Naming the week can help you notice what your heart has been carrying.

    Minsan sapat na ang isang word para makapagsimula. Kapag napangalanan mo ang week mo, mas nakikita mo kung ano ang bitbit mo.

  2. During a busy week, what signs tell you that you are still doing okay?

    Kapag busy ang week, anong signs ang nagsasabi sa'yo na okay ka pa naman?

    Back of the card

    Your signs may be small: sleep, patience, appetite, humor, or the ability to answer messages without dread.

    Puwedeng maliit lang yung signs: tulog, pasensya, gana kumain, humor, o kaya mong sumagot ng messages nang hindi mabigat.

  3. Name one small part of today that felt okay.

    Magbanggit ng isang maliit na part ng araw mo na okay naman.

    Back of the card

    An okay moment still counts. It does not have to fix the whole day to be worth noticing.

    Bilang pa rin ang okay na moment. Hindi niya kailangang ayusin ang buong araw para mapansin mo siya.

  4. How do you usually unwind after a long day?

    Paano ka usually nagpapahinga pagkatapos ng mahabang araw?

    Back of the card

    Everyone has a different way of landing after a full day. It can be quiet, active, social, or very simple.

    Iba-iba tayo ng paraan mag-settle after a long day. Puwedeng tahimik, active, may kasama, o simple lang.

What he’s into

5 questions

Games, shows, music and goals. Let him go on a bit.

  1. What makes a game with friends fun even when no one wins?

    Ano ang nagpapasaya sa laro kasama ang friends kahit walang nananalo?

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    What would be a funny prize just for joining?

    Anong nakakatawang premyo ang puwedeng ibigay sa lahat ng sumali?

  2. What would you like to watch with a friend?

    Ano ang gusto mong panoorin kasama ang friend?

    Back of the card

    Talking through the whole thing or saving comments until the end?

    Kuwentuhan habang nanonood o comments pagkatapos na lang?

  3. Which song takes you back to a particular time with friends?

    Anong kanta ang nagpapaalala sa'yo ng isang panahon ninyo ng friends mo?

    Back of the card

    Picture where everyone was when the song came on.

    Isipin kung nasaan ang lahat noong tumugtog ang kanta.

  4. What goal would you like to reach and celebrate with friends?

    Anong goal ang gusto mong maabot at i-celebrate kasama ang friends?

    Back of the card

    Pick the celebration's mood: quiet, silly, or a little of both.

    Piliin ang gusto mong celebration: tahimik, makulit, o kaunti ng pareho.

  5. If you could lend someone a superpower for one day, what power would you give?

    Kung mapapahiram mo ng superpower ang isang tao nang isang araw, anong power ang ibibigay mo?

    Back of the card

    Imagine their first reaction when they try the borrowed power.

    Isipin ang unang reaction nila kapag sinubukan ang hiniram na power.

Stories you haven’t heard

5 questions

From school, work, friends and the kid he used to be.

  1. Who taught you a work or school habit you still use, and what was it?

    Sino yung nagturo sa'yo ng work o school habit na gamit mo pa rin, at ano yun?

    Back of the card

    Some habits come from people who modeled them first. Their way of doing things can quietly become part of yours.

    May habits na galing sa taong nauna lang magpakita. Tahimik mong nadadala yung style nila hanggang maging part na rin ng style mo.

  2. Tell about a ride home with friends that you still remember.

    Magkuwento ng pag-uwi kasama ang friends na naaalala mo pa.

    Back of the card

    You could remember just the last thing someone said before you parted.

    Puwedeng balikan ang huling sinabi bago kayo naghiwa-hiwalay.

  3. Tell us about a small thing you can do now that would have amazed you as a kid.

    Kuwento mo yung maliit na bagay na kaya mo na ngayon na maa-amaze ka kung bata ka pa.

    Back of the card

    Progress can look ordinary from the outside. But younger you might know exactly how big that ordinary thing is.

    Mukhang ordinaryo minsan ang progress. Pero baka alam ng batang ikaw kung gaano kalaki yung ordinaryong bagay na yan.

  4. Describe a moment that stressed you out before but makes you laugh now.

    I-describe yung moment na stressful dati pero natatawa ka na ngayon.

    Back of the card

    Some stressful moments lose their sharp edges with time. Once the panic fades, the story sometimes becomes surprisingly funny.

    May stressful moments na lumalambot habang tumatagal. Kapag wala na yung panic, minsan funny story na siya.

  5. What made you laugh when you least expected it?

    Ano ang nagpatawa sa'yo noong hindi mo inaasahan?

    Back of the card

    Give the scene a caption if you like.

    Kung gusto mo, bigyan ng caption ang eksenang iyon.

The two of you

3 questions

Appreciation, mostly. It tends to come back to you.

  1. What is one practical thing I do that makes life easier for you?

    Ano yung practical na ginagawa ko na nagpapadali ng buhay mo?

    Back of the card

    Practical love is easy to overlook because it blends into the day. Naming it makes invisible effort visible.

    Madaling hindi mapansin ang practical love kasi sumasama lang siya sa araw. Kapag nasabi, nakikita ang effort.

  2. What is something I handled well recently that meant more to you than I realized?

    Ano yung isang bagay na nahandle ko nang maayos recently na mas malaking bagay pala sa'yo kaysa akala ko?

    Back of the card

    Specific appreciation helps your partner see what felt caring, steady, mature, or brave in real life.

    Nakakatulong ang specific appreciation para makita ng partner mo kung ano yung naging caring, steady, mature, o brave sa totoong buhay.

  3. After a hard day, what simple comfort from me helps you feel okay again?

    After a hard day, anong simpleng comfort mula sa akin ang nakakatulong sa'yo maging okay ulit?

    Back of the card

    Comfort does not have to fix everything. Sometimes it just needs to remind your partner they are not carrying the day alone.

    Hindi kailangang ayusin ng comfort ang lahat. Minsan sapat na ma-remind ang partner mo na hindi niya dala ang araw mag-isa.

How to use them

Before you ask

When you run out of things to talk about with your boyfriend, it usually isn’t a lack of topics. It is that the topics turned into updates. Picking a subject, like a song tied to a time with his friends, a ride home he still remembers or the word that sums up his week, gives you somewhere to go beyond “fine, you?”.

Many guys open up more about things than about feelings, at least at first. Asking what he’s into, what makes a game fun even when nobody wins, or what goal he’d want to celebrate with friends, often leads to the personal stuff by a side door. The stories group does the same: memories come with feelings attached.

Use these on a slow evening, a long drive or a call when you are both too tired for anything heavy. Each topic starts with one card; the follow-up questions are yours. If you want direct questions instead, see questions to ask your boyfriend.

Good for

  • A quiet night in
  • Long drives
  • Phone calls when you’re apart
  • Walking the dog together
  • Couples a year or two in

Tips

  1. Talk side by side (driving, walking, cooking). It makes conversation easier for many guys.
  2. Ask one follow-up about the detail, not a new question.
  3. Share your version of the topic too; it’s a conversation, not an interview.
  4. If he’s into something you aren’t, ask him to explain why he loves it.
  5. End on appreciation. It changes how the next talk starts.

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Things to talk about with your boyfriend

Frequently asked questions

What can I talk about with my boyfriend?

His real week, the things he’s into (music, games, goals), stories from his past you haven’t heard, and what you appreciate about each other. Picking a topic beats asking how his day was.

What do you do when you run out of things to say to your boyfriend?

Change the format: talk while doing something together, or draw a question card. Running out of talk usually means you are stuck in updates, not that you have nothing left to share.

What should I talk about with my boyfriend over the phone?

Quick topics work best on a call: a word for the week, a song with a memory, one story he hasn’t told you. Keep the appreciation questions for the end.

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