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Flirty questions that are playful, never awkward

Clean flirty questions for a crush, a date or a partner. Playful openers, a little teasing, and a few sweet ones that leave someone smiling. Nothing you’d regret if a friend read over your shoulder.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

Icebreakers№ 52

Which compliment have you remembered long after someone said it?

Anong compliment ang tumatak sa'yo kahit matagal na itong sinabi?

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A note

The exact words are optional. Notice which part of the compliment stayed with you.

Hindi kailangan ang eksaktong salita. Balikan kung aling bahagi ng papuri ang tumatak sa'yo.

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The questions

18 flirty questions

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Playful openers

6 questions

Silly enough to make them laugh, personal enough to say something.

  1. Name the song that should play when you enter a room.

    Sabihin yung song na dapat tumugtog pagpasok mo sa room.

    Back of the card

    An entrance song is mostly about energy. It says what kind of moment you want everyone to feel.

    Yung entrance song, energy talaga ang usapan. Sinasabi niya kung anong moment ang gusto mong dala.

  2. What comic-book hero name would fit something you are good at?

    Anong comic-book hero name ang bagay sa talento mo?

    Back of the card

    What problem would your hero solve?

    Anong problema ang kayang ayusin ng hero mo?

  3. Pick one joke style that makes you laugh right away.

    Pumili ng joke style na mabilis kang mapatawa.

    Back of the card

    Humor has shortcuts. The joke that gets you fastest usually knows your exact kind of silly.

    May shortcut ang humor. Yung joke na mabilis kang tamaan, alam niya yung exact kind of silly mo.

  4. Pick one comic-book power: fly anywhere or appear instantly in another place.

    Pumili ng comic-book power: lumipad kahit saan o makarating agad sa ibang lugar.

    Back of the card

    You have an afternoon to try your power. Choose your first stop.

    May isang hapon ka para subukan ang power mo. Piliin ang unang pupuntahan mo.

  5. Tell us a food combo you like that people might question.

    I-share yung food combo na gusto mo pero baka kuwestiyunin ng iba.

    Back of the card

    Questionable does not always mean wrong. Some pairings just need one brave person to admit they work.

    Hindi porket questionable, mali na agad. Minsan kailangan lang ng isang brave person na umaming masarap siya.

  6. What flavor of ice cream would you invent?

    Anong lasa ng ice cream ang iimbentuhin mo?

    Back of the card

    Give your invented ice cream a name if you like.

    Kung gusto mo, bigyan mo ng pangalan ang ice cream na inimbento mo.

A little teasing

5 questions

Ask them to confess something harmless, then tease them about it, kindly.

  1. What playful side of you comes out around close friends?

    Anong makulit na side mo ang lumalabas kapag kasama ang close friends?

    Back of the card

    You do not have to perform it here. A description is enough.

    Hindi kailangang gawin iyon dito. Sapat nang ikuwento.

  2. How can friends tell when you are excited about something?

    Paano nahahalata ng friends na excited ka sa isang bagay?

    Back of the card

    Think of the sign you notice in yourself before anyone else does.

    Isipin ang senyales na napapansin mo sa sarili mo bago pa mapansin ng iba.

  3. Confess one harmless habit you know is very you.

    I-confess yung harmless habit na very you talaga.

    Back of the card

    Harmless habits become part of your signature. They may be small, but people who know you probably notice.

    Yung harmless habits, nagiging signature mo rin. Maliit lang, pero napapansin yan ng mga nakakakilala sa'yo.

  4. Rate your normal-day clumsiness from 1 to 5, then share one example.

    I-rate from 1 to 5 kung gaano ka ka-clumsy on a normal day, tapos mag-share ng isang example.

    Back of the card

    Clumsiness has a range, and honesty makes the rating better. One good example can turn any score into evidence.

    May range ang clumsiness, at mas funny kapag honest. Isang good example lang, kahit anong score may ebidensya.

  5. Group photo starts. What is your automatic move?

    May group photo na. Ano ang automatic move mo?

    Back of the card

    Group photos bring out instant instincts. Some people arrange everyone, some disappear behind others, and some are ready before the camera is.

    May automatic instinct kapag group photo na. May taga-ayos, may nagtatago sa likod, may ready bago pa yung camera.

The sweet ones

7 questions

The last three are for someone you’re already seeing.

  1. Which compliment from a friend made you smile recently?

    Anong compliment mula sa friend ang nagpangiti sa'yo lately?

    Back of the card

    Did you believe it right away, or did it sink in later?

    Naniwala ka ba agad, o saka mo lang ito naramdaman?

  2. Which compliment have you remembered long after someone said it?

    Anong compliment ang tumatak sa'yo kahit matagal na itong sinabi?

    Back of the card

    The exact words are optional. Notice which part of the compliment stayed with you.

    Hindi kailangan ang eksaktong salita. Balikan kung aling bahagi ng papuri ang tumatak sa'yo.

  3. Design a celebration just for you. What would make it feel special?

    Magplano ng celebration para sa sarili mo. Ano ang magpapaspecial dito?

    Back of the card

    Which part of the celebration would you happily repeat the next day?

    Aling bahagi ng celebration ang masaya mong uulitin kinabukasan?

  4. What kind of greeting from me makes you feel most welcomed?

    Anong klaseng bati mula sa akin ang pinaka-nagpaparamdam sa'yo na welcome ka?

    Back of the card

    The way you greet each other matters. Even a small hello can make coming back to each other feel warmer.

    Mahalaga kung paano ninyo binabati ang isa't isa. Kahit simpleng hello, puwedeng gawing mas warm ang pagbalik ninyo sa isa't isa.

  5. When we are around other people, what makes you feel seen by me?

    Kapag may ibang tao sa paligid, ano yung nagpaparamdam sa'yo na napapansin pa rin kita?

    Back of the card

    Being seen around others can feel deeply reassuring. It shows your connection still matters, even when people are watching.

    Nakakapanatag kapag ramdam mong nakikita ka kahit may ibang tao. Pinapakita nito na mahalaga pa rin ang connection ninyo, kahit may nakakakita.

  6. What small thing could make our next date feel more like our kind of date?

    Anong maliit na puwede nating gawin para mas bagay sa atin yung next date natin?

    Back of the card

    A good date does not have to impress anyone else. It just needs to fit the rhythm that feels real for both of you.

    Hindi kailangang magpa-impress sa iba ang magandang date. Mas okay kapag bagay sa totoong rhythm ninyong dalawa.

  7. What playful little habit of ours do you hope we keep?

    Ano yung maliit na playful habit natin na sana hindi mawala?

    Back of the card

    Play helps protect a relationship from becoming only serious, busy, or practical with each other.

    Nakakatulong ang play para hindi lang maging seryoso, busy, o practical ang relationship ninyo.

How to use them

Before you ask

Flirty questions work when they are playful and a little personal, not when they are suggestive. Asking which song should play when someone walks into a room, or what comic-book name fits the thing they are secretly good at, says “I’m curious about you” with a grin. That is most of flirting.

Where it goes wrong is pushing too fast. A question that would be charming on the third date is uncomfortable in the first text. Start with the openers, which anyone can answer. Teasing works once you have laughed together a couple of times: get them to admit a harmless habit, then give them a hard time about it. Keep the sweet ones for when the feeling is clearly mutual.

Every question here is clean on purpose. If you’re after something spicier, this isn’t the page, and honestly the clean ones tend to land better anyway: they leave room for the other person to make it flirty.

Good for

  • Texting a crush
  • A first or second date
  • Dating app chats
  • Teasing your partner on a slow night
  • Long-distance calls

Tips

  1. Smile when you ask. Tone does most of the flirting.
  2. Answer first if they seem shy; it shows the question is safe.
  3. Tease the answer, never the person.
  4. If they go quiet or change the subject, drop it and ask something lighter.
  5. Compliment something they chose, not just how they look.

Decks for this

Flirty questions

Frequently asked questions

What are some clean flirty questions to ask?

Playful questions about them: which song should play when they walk into a room, what funny award they deserve, what harmless habit is very them. They feel personal and fun without being suggestive.

How do you flirt by asking questions?

Ask something playful, listen closely, and react to the detail with a light tease or a compliment. Curiosity plus a little humor reads as flirting far more reliably than a line.

Are these flirty questions okay for a crush?

Yes. The openers and teasing questions suit a crush or a new date. The last few sweet ones assume you are already together, so save those.

Are flirty questions available in Tagalog?

Every question here also has a Filipino version in the Kumustahan app, which helps if your crush texts in Taglish.

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