Questions · Traveling as a couple

Questions for couples who travel together, delays included

Questions for traveling as a couple, from packing to the flight home. Learn each other’s travel habits before you leave, kill time at the gate, notice more in a new place, and stay a team when plans fall apart.

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Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.

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When plans change, how do you decide what to keep, drop, or adjust?

Kapag nagbago ang plans, paano mo dini-decide kung ano ang itutuloy, bibitawan, o ia-adjust?

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Changed plans show priorities quickly. Sometimes the real answer is comfort, people, responsibility, peace, or simply energy.

Kapag nagbago ang plans, mabilis lumabas ang priorities. Minsan comfort, tao, responsibility, peace, o energy lang talaga.

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The questions

17 questions for couples traveling together

Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.

Packing and planning

5 questions

Discover your travel styles before they clash at the airport.

  1. Name the small thing you always bring, even for a quick errand.

    Sabihin yung small thing na lagi mong dala kahit quick errand lang.

    Back of the card

    The thing you always bring has earned its place. It may be small, but it clearly passed the trust test.

    Yung lagi mong dala, may reason yan. Maliit lang siya, pero clearly pasado sa trust test.

  2. Before leaving the house, what do you always check?

    Bago umalis ng bahay, ano yung lagi mong chine-check?

    Back of the card

    Small checks are tiny protection from future hassle. Everyone has one thing they refuse to leave up to memory.

    Maliit lang yung check, pero nakakaiwas sa future hassle. Lahat tayo may isang bagay na hindi pwedeng memory lang.

  3. For a free weekend, would you prefer a full plan or a surprise?

    Sa weekend na wala kang kailangang gawin, kumpletong plano o surprise ang pipiliin mo?

    Back of the card

    Choose a detail that must stay on your weekend plan, even if everything else is a surprise.

    Pumili ng detalye na dapat kasama sa weekend mo kahit surprise ang lahat ng iba pa.

  4. When plans change, how do you decide what to keep, drop, or adjust?

    Kapag nagbago ang plans, paano mo dini-decide kung ano ang itutuloy, bibitawan, o ia-adjust?

    Back of the card

    Changed plans show priorities quickly. Sometimes the real answer is comfort, people, responsibility, peace, or simply energy.

    Kapag nagbago ang plans, mabilis lumabas ang priorities. Minsan comfort, tao, responsibility, peace, o energy lang talaga.

  5. What is one chore, errand, or task that feels lighter when we do it as a team?

    Anong chore, errand, o task ang gumagaan kapag team tayo?

    Back of the card

    Teamwork is not only for big seasons. It also shows up in the small work of keeping life moving.

    Hindi lang pang-big season ang teamwork. Lumalabas din ito sa maliliit na gawain para gumalaw ang buhay.

At the gate

3 questions

Delayed again? Good. More time to talk.

  1. While waiting for food, a ride, or someone late, how do you pass the time?

    Habang naghihintay ng pagkain, sasakyan, o late na tao, paano mo pinapalipas yung oras?

    Back of the card

    Waiting brings out our tiny survival styles. Some people scroll, some observe, and some start making stories in their head.

    Lumilitaw yung tiny survival style natin kapag naghihintay. May nag-scroll, may nag-oobserve, may gumagawa na ng kwento sa isip.

  2. On a plane, would you choose a window seat or more room for your legs?

    Sa eroplano, mas gusto mo ba ng upuan sa tabi ng bintana o mas maluwag para sa mga paa mo?

    Back of the card

    For this flight, would you rather chat, nap, or watch the view?

    Sa biyaheng ito, mas gusto mo bang makipagkuwentuhan, umidlip, o tumingin sa tanawin?

  3. Name one item you always seem to lose, like keys, earphones, a pen, a charger, or your wallet.

    Magbanggit ng isang item na parang lagi mong nawawala, like susi, earphones, pen, charger, o wallet.

    Back of the card

    Some items have a talent for vanishing at the worst time. At some point, it starts to feel like a relationship issue.

    May items na ang galing mawala sa worst time. Dumadating sa point na parang relationship issue na siya.

Out exploring

5 questions

Languages, routes, food and the details you notice first.

  1. When you enter a new place, what’s one small thing you notice right away?

    Kapag nasa bagong lugar ka, ano yung isang maliit na bagay na una mong napapansin?

    Back of the card

    What you notice first can hint at what makes a place feel interesting, calm, or welcoming to you.

    Minsan clue yung una mong napapansin kung ano ang nakaka-curious, nakakapagpakalma, o nagpapagaan ng pakiramdam mo.

  2. Which language would you learn instantly if you woke up fluent tomorrow?

    Kung paggising mo bukas ay marunong ka na ng isang bagong language, ano ang pipiliin mo?

    Back of the card

    Choose the first person you would like to talk to in that language.

    Piliin ang unang taong gusto mong makausap gamit ang wikang iyon.

  3. Choose a memory power: remember every name or remember every route you have taken.

    Pumili ng memory power: tandaan lahat ng pangalan o lahat ng daang nadaanan mo.

    Back of the card

    Give your memory power a name. It can sound heroic or completely ordinary.

    Bigyan ng pangalan ang memory power mo. Puwedeng pang-hero o ordinaryo lang.

  4. When you try a place to eat, what makes it feel worth visiting again?

    Kapag may tinry kang kainan, ano yung nagpapaisip sa'yo na worth balikan ito?

    Back of the card

    It could be taste, comfort, price, people, or memory. Places become favorites for different reasons.

    Puwedeng lasa, comfort, presyo, tao, o memory. Iba-iba yung dahilan kung bakit may places tayong binabalikan.

  5. Invent a new way to travel that does not use wheels.

    Mag-imbento ng bagong paraan ng pagbiyahe na walang gulong.

    Back of the card

    What would passengers call your ride?

    Ano ang itatawag ng mga pasahero sa sasakyan mo?

When the trip goes sideways

4 questions

Lost bags, rain, missed trains. Ask before it happens.

  1. When a hangout plan goes wrong, what do you usually do first?

    Kapag pumalpak ang plano ng gala, ano ang una mong ginagawa?

    Back of the card

    You could tell this as the opening scene of a comedy.

    Puwede mong ikuwento ito na parang unang eksena ng comedy.

  2. What failed plan with friends turned into a good memory?

    Anong pumalpak na plano kasama ang friends ang naging masayang memory?

    Back of the card

    The failed plan can be the story's best plot twist.

    Puwedeng ang pumalpak na plano ang pinakamagandang plot twist sa kuwento.

  3. When one or both of us is tired, what do we already do that helps us stay kind to each other?

    Kapag pagod ang isa o pareho sa atin, ano yung nagagawa na natin na tumutulong para maging kind pa rin tayo sa isa't isa?

    Back of the card

    Tiredness can easily create distance. Noticing what already works helps you protect the small habits that keep you close.

    Madaling gumawa ng distance ang pagod. Kapag napansin ninyo kung ano na yung gumagana, mas naaalagaan ninyo yung small habits na nagpapanatiling close kayo.

  4. When we are both tired, what small help from me would mean a lot?

    Kapag pareho tayong pagod, anong maliit na tulong mula sa akin ang malaking bagay sa'yo?

    Back of the card

    Tired love does not need grand effort. Small, realistic support can help you stay close without asking too much from either of you.

    Hindi kailangan ng grand effort kapag pareho kayong pagod. Minsan maliit at realistic na support ang tumutulong para manatiling close kayo.

How to use them

Before you ask

Traveling together reveals how a couple works faster than almost anything: who packs a week early, who checks the stove three times, who wants every hour planned and who wants to wander. Asking about those habits before the trip turns potential arguments into things you already laugh about.

Most travel fights aren’t about travel. They’re about being tired, hungry and out of routine at the same time. The last group exists for that: how each of you reacts when a plan goes wrong, and what help actually helps when you’re both worn out. It’s much easier to answer at home than at a closed train station at midnight.

Use the gate questions for delays and long flights, and the exploring ones over dinner in a new city. Good trips are rarely flawless; they’re the ones where the mishaps became stories.

Good for

  • A first trip together
  • Flights and layovers
  • Backpacking and city breaks
  • Planning a big trip
  • Couples with different travel styles

Tips

  1. Ask the packing questions a week before, not the night before.
  2. Agree on a “hangry” signal and a snack plan.
  3. Split the planning: each of you owns one day of the trip.
  4. When things go wrong, deal with logistics first and feelings once you’re fed.
  5. Keep a list of trip mishaps. They become your favorite stories.

Decks for this

Traveling as a couple

Frequently asked questions

What should couples talk about before traveling together?

Packing habits, how planned or spontaneous each of you likes a trip, what you always bring, and how you each react when plans go wrong. Knowing these ahead of time prevents most travel arguments.

How do you avoid fighting while traveling as a couple?

Talk about travel styles before you go, keep everyone fed and rested, and agree on how you will handle mishaps. Most travel fights come from being tired and hungry at the same time.

What can couples do on a long flight?

Play a question game: draw a card, both answer, swap. It works offline, which matters at 35,000 feet. The Kumustahan app runs without a connection.

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