Questions · Moms group
Questions for a moms group that aren’t about the kids
Conversation questions for a moms group, church mothers’ ministry or playgroup: light ones while the kids are busy, who you were before you were Mom, the honest version of this season, and support.
- 17 questions
- EN + TL on every card
- Free in the app
Kumustahan is a bilingual conversation card app: 1,200 questions in English and Filipino across 7 decks, with a short reflection on the back of every card.
If you had one free hour every week, what hobby would you go back to?
Kung may isang free hour ka every week, anong hobby ang babalikan mo?
A hobby you miss can point to a part of you that still wants some space.
Yung hobby na nami-miss mo minsan tumuturo sa part ng sarili mo na gusto pa rin ng konting space.
The questions
17 questions for a moms group
Every question in English and Filipino/Tagalog, word for word from the Kumustahan decks. Open “Back of the card” for the reflection printed on the other side.
While the kids are in the other room
5 questions
Half-listening for a crash is fine. These are short.
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Two choices: unlimited snacks or perfect sleep for one week. Defend your pick.
Dalawa lang: unlimited snacks o perfect sleep for one week. I-defend ang pick mo.
Back of the card
Low-stakes choices still reveal priorities. Snack joy and good sleep are both valid campaign platforms.
Kahit low-stakes, may priorities pa rin. Snack joy at good sleep, parehong valid campaign platform.
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Describe your favorite quiet moment at home in one sentence.
I-describe in one sentence yung favorite mong tahimik na moment sa bahay.
Back of the card
Quiet at home can be its own kind of treat. Sometimes the best part is that nothing needs to happen.
Yung tahimik sa bahay, treat din minsan. Minsan best part na yung walang kailangang mangyari.
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Pick one drink that makes an ordinary day feel a little special.
Pumili ng isang drink na nagpaparamdam na medyo special ang ordinary day.
Back of the card
A drink can turn an ordinary pause into a tiny celebration. Sometimes that small upgrade is the whole point.
Minsan isang drink lang, parang may small celebration na sa ordinary day. Yun na yung tiny upgrade.
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If you were too tired to think, what would you order?
Kapag pagod ka nang mag-isip, ano yung o-orderin mo?
Back of the card
The no-thinking order is its own kind of comfort. It is the choice that carries you when your brain is done.
May comfort din sa order na hindi mo na kailangang isipin. Siya yung choice kapag ubos na utak mo.
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If you could remove one tiny daily inconvenience forever, what would you remove?
Kung kaya mong tanggalin forever ang isang tiny daily inconvenience, ano ang tatanggalin mo?
Back of the card
Tiny inconveniences can be louder than they deserve. Removing one forever would feel like a quiet luxury.
Minsan ang ingay ng tiny inconveniences. Kapag natanggal forever yung isa, quiet luxury na agad.
Before you were Mom
4 questions
The hobby, the skill, the person who’s still there.
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If you had one free hour every week, what hobby would you go back to?
Kung may isang free hour ka every week, anong hobby ang babalikan mo?
Back of the card
A hobby you miss can point to a part of you that still wants some space.
Yung hobby na nami-miss mo minsan tumuturo sa part ng sarili mo na gusto pa rin ng konting space.
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From when you were younger, what habit or interest do you still carry now?
Mula nung bata ka, anong habit o hilig ang dala mo pa rin ngayon?
Back of the card
Some parts of us do not disappear; they just grow up with us. It can be nice to notice what stayed.
May parts tayo na hindi naman nawawala; lumalaki lang kasama natin. Nakakatuwang mapansin kung ano yung naiwan.
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What are you good at that your friends rarely get to see?
Saan ka magaling na bihirang makita ng friends mo?
Back of the card
Imagine a friend seeing you do it for the first time.
Isipin na unang nakita ng friend kung paano mo ito ginagawa.
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What would you like to make more time for this month?
Ano ang gusto mong bigyan ng mas maraming oras ngayong buwan?
Back of the card
Imagine an extra afternoon opens up. Would you spend it all on this or leave some time free?
Isipin na nabakante ang isang hapon. Ilalaan mo ba lahat ng oras dito o magtitira ka pa ng libreng oras?
This season, honestly
5 questions
Tired is allowed here.
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Name one expectation of yourself that feels too heavy lately.
Magsabi ng isang expectation mo sa sarili mo na parang ang bigat lately.
Back of the card
Some expectations sound responsible but leave no room to breathe. You can ask whether they are still fair.
May expectations na responsible pakinggan pero walang space huminga. Puwede mong tanungin kung fair pa ba sila.
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Which kind of rest would help you most this week?
Anong klaseng pahinga ang pinaka-makakatulong sa'yo this week?
Back of the card
Rest is not always sleep. Sometimes it is quiet, help, laughter, less noise, or permission to stop proving.
Hindi laging tulog ang pahinga. Minsan quiet, tulong, tawanan, less noise, o permiso na tumigil muna sa pagpapatunay.
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Describe what you usually do when you feel emotionally or mentally full.
I-describe kung ano usually mong ginagawa kapag emotionally or mentally puno ka na.
Back of the card
Your first response to being full can teach you a lot. It may be asking for gentleness, space, or help.
May tinuturo yung unang response mo kapag puno ka na. Baka kailangan mo ng lambing, space, o tulong.
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Pick one feeling you have today. What would you say to a friend who felt that too?
Pumili ng isang feeling mo today. Ano ang sasabihin mo sa friend na ganun din ang nararamdaman?
Back of the card
Sometimes your gentlest wisdom shows up first for someone else. It may be allowed to come back to you too.
Minsan mas mabilis lumabas ang lambing natin para sa iba. Baka puwede ring bumalik sa'yo yung same na wisdom.
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What kind of rest, fun, or treat are you learning to enjoy without feeling bad about it?
Anong klaseng pahinga, saya, o treat ang natututuhan mong i-enjoy nang hindi masyadong nagi-guilty?
Back of the card
Enjoyment can take practice, especially when you are used to earning every pause. This question leaves room for that.
Minsan kailangan ding matutuhan ang mag-enjoy, lalo na kung sanay kang kailangan mong paghirapan ang bawat pahinga. May space dito para doon.
Faith and support
3 questions
Close by asking how the group can help this week.
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Think of one small thing you can do to feel closer to God again.
Mag-isip ng isang maliit na bagay na puwede mong gawin para mas lumapit ulit kay Lord.
Back of the card
Coming back to God can begin small. A real step matters more than a dramatic promise.
Puwedeng magsimula sa maliit yung paglapit ulit kay Lord. Mas mahalaga yung real na step kaysa malaking promise na hindi mo kaya.
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Share one way your community can support you in this season.
I-share yung isang way na puwede kang ma-support ng community mo sa season na ito.
Back of the card
Community becomes more real when support is specific. You do not have to explain everything to ask for help.
Mas nagiging real ang community kapag specific yung support. Hindi mo kailangang i-explain lahat para humingi ng help.
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Name one thing that would make next month feel a little lighter.
Magbanggit ng isang bagay na makakatulong para mas gumaan nang konti ang next month.
Back of the card
A lighter month does not have to mean a perfect one. Even one less weight can change how a season feels.
Hindi kailangang perfect ang mas magaan na month. Kahit isang bawas na bigat, iba na ang pakiramdam ng season.
How to use them
Before you ask
At a moms group, the kids take over every conversation unless the questions push back. Sleep schedules and snack strategies are useful, but most moms come to remember that they’re also a person. Ask about her, not her toddler.
Open light, since everyone is half-listening for a crash from the playroom: unlimited snacks or perfect sleep for a week (watch the room choose sleep), the drink that makes an ordinary day feel special. Then ask who she was before kids: the hobby she’d go back to, the thing she’s good at that friends rarely see. Those answers are often the most fun part of the morning.
The third group is the honest one: which expectation feels too heavy lately, what she does when she’s mentally full. In a church moms group, close with a faith question and pray for each other; in any group, ask how the others can help this week, and mean it.
Good for
Tips
- Ban one topic for the first ten minutes: the kids.
- Set up childcare or an activity so moms can actually finish a sentence.
- Let the newest mom pick the first question.
- When someone shares a hard season, bring a meal sign-up the next week.
Decks for this
Moms group
Frequently asked questions
What do you talk about at a moms group?
Light questions about her, not the kids, like a small mood upgrade or the hobby she’d go back to with an hour a week. Then the honest version of this season, and ways the group can help each other.
What are good icebreakers for a moms group?
Unlimited snacks or perfect sleep for a week, a favorite quiet moment at home, a tiny daily inconvenience she’d remove forever. Quick, funny and very relatable for tired moms.
How do you start a moms group at church?
Pick a regular time with childcare, open with a light question, leave time for honest sharing and prayer, and follow up during the week. Keep it simple enough that tired moms can keep coming.
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